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*hvyrdnck
writes:me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 months and here in the past year i have felt like i cant be myself around him. a couple of nights ago we went out and on the way home we got into an aggument and i said something about not being able to be myself around him and he said you can be yourself when ever you want. then he said just dont be yourself around me. i said so i have to change everything about myself when im around you and he said thats not what i mean just dont do things that you know pisses me off. i dont know what to do anymore i feel like i have to act like someone im not when he is home or whenever we go out. i need some advice if i should change for him or if i should act like i always do and see what happens. please any advice would help alot. Reply to this Question
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (9 July 2008):
 Er... I think it's well known that one of the great romantic lines is: "Don't change a thing. I love you just the way you are".
I don't think that: "You can be yourself when ever you want. Just don't be yourself around me. Just don't do things that you know pisses me off," is quite up there.
I would get rid of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): I'm not sure what pisses him off, but you too probably have a communication problem. I found it hard to read your post and I'm not sure what the heck is going on. Ask your boyfriend about any problems he has in the relationship, tell him how you feel. Learn to talk rather than argue and get to the bottom of the problems you both have.
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reader, chvyrdnck +, writes (9 July 2008):
chvyrdnck is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry i ment to put 3 years not 3 months!!! all that i know i do to piss him off is try all the time for sex even if hes tired or not and it always seem that i keep him up that way when all he wants to do is sleep. besides that i dont know of anything else that i do to piss him off i know i like to talk and the only time that we have to talk is at night and that might be what is pissing him off. because once again i keep him awake. thank you all that has gave me advice so far.
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reader, nightstar +, writes (9 July 2008):
What do you do that pisses him off?
I know you don't want to piss him off so I would like to know what it is that he thinks you do to do that.
But you need to be yourself no matter who you are with so that you can be happy. You cannot live a lie.You should be able to be yourself and make him happy at the same time.
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reader, softlipz  +, writes (9 July 2008):
wow...why would he want you to be someone else around him? i think it's best that you be yourself around him...why should you change who you really are for one guy? he's suppose to encourage you to be yourself around him...i say you be yourself around him..hope i helped
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