I cheated on him, but now I am the one that is paranoid all the time....
Q. ive been with my boyfriend now for 6 months and around 4 months ago i cheated on him which is the biggest mistake have ever made. we worked through it and he moved in, but i have become very paranoid and feel like i am suffocating him, i dont know ...
A. 13 October 2010: What are you paranoid about exactly? That he will cheat on you or leave you? IF its about cheating, the reason you probably have these heightened worries now is because when people enter in a relationship, they generally don't ever expect or think ... (read in full...)
My family want me to forgive my dad for sexually abusing me!
Q. I was sexually abused by my father when I was little and I kept it to myself until few months ago. I told my mother and my father's sister. My mother refused to believe me which hurt me so much. My aunt sort of believed me and spoke to my mother ...
A. 13 October 2010: It's very much in your right to be upset, and you are being totally normal. You say you keep dwelling on the abuse and are upset by it, which is normal to an extent for sexual abuse victims, but are you coping well and otherwise able to lead on a ... (read in full...)
B/f asked me to move in with him but I'm afraid of losing myself!
Q. My boyfriend has asked me to move in with him. It's a big deal to me because I've never lived with a guy before and I usually need a lot of my own space in relationships. I'm wondering if anyone else who likes their own space has experience with ...
A. 12 October 2010: It might seem strange to do this because you because I can't tell how comfortable you are about talking about your feelings, but it might help to take a lot of what you typed here and actually say it your new boyfriend. Explain to him that you've ... (read in full...)
My fiance is very controlling!
Q. My fiance is a very dominating person.. he tries to control me.. he has a problem with all of my male friends.. he manipulates me..i tend to compare this relationship with my past relationships and i am afraid to say that the past relationship was ...
A. 12 October 2010: If my eyes are recognizing that little flag correctly, then you're an Indian girl. Not to stick you in a stereotype box or anything, but from what I know, Indian culture makes it really difficult for women to get out of relationships where the man ... (read in full...)
My best friend lied to me. Should I forgive her.
Q. I know this girl who has been a really close friend for the the past 3 years. We tell each other everything and try to help each other with our problems. Things have been great until recently when she lied about attending a party that she invited me ...
A. 11 October 2010: It's just over a party...maybe she wanted to go by herself so could meet up with a boy or friend by herself. It is great you are best friends, but realize that even best friends need some space sometimes and don't want to share EVERYTHING. If you ... (read in full...)
My friend is such an attention seeker now she has lost weight, help what can I do??
Q. Would be very appreciative of some advice regarding my ""attention seeking"? friend, please dont be nasty! need genuine advice please. I usually see a particular friend (we are adults) once a week or so, when she is in the city where i live (a...
A. 11 October 2010: Next time she asks you if she's gotten thinner, just say "My answer is the same as what I said last time, but sure, why don't you ask me another few thousand times?" and don't even look at her, lol. Eventually, hopefully, she will get over herself ... (read in full...)
Guy is mad at me giving me the silent treatment, what do I do?
Q. this guy who I like and likes me is mad at me because we were talking Saturday night online about things going on with me. I was telling him how I can't trust these people who I only know from online who play a lot of games with me. I was telling ...
A. 11 October 2010: The thing about using the "silent treatment" on people, is that you're sort of trying to be the one in power--you guys can't get through your problem unless he decides he wants to talk to you. It's a pretty pathetic and bratty move actually; my ... (read in full...)
My older lover dumped me!
Q. I'm 28 and i lost my 40 year old girlfriend. She dumped me for several solid reasons after a year and 2 months. She said she loves me i couldn't say it back. I wasn't sure if i loved her if i was afraid to be alone. She wanted me to move in with ...
A. 11 October 2010: The facts of the matter, unfortunately, are that she wants a ton of things that you can't give her, and for you, she's asking you for more than you're willing to give. If you're serious about her and want to get back with her, you definitely need to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has terminal cancer, I want a baby but he doesnt. Should I leave him?
Q. My boyfriend has terminal cancer, i want a baby but he doesnt. Should i leave him? We met a year or two ago and we have fallen in love. He has a child by a previous marriage and is content with that but I am becoming desperate. I dont want to ...
A. 11 October 2010: Sorry, I'm not an expert on this at all, but from some of the stuff I looked at when I did research in college, I thought that certain cancer treatments (specifically chemotherapy) can have an effect on fertility, cause sperm mutations, etc., and ... (read in full...)
I want to have children and my partner doesn't!
Q. Dear cupid, I want to know what do you think i should do if i have been in a relationship for four years and i want to have a child but my partner does not want to have one? he wanted to marry me then he took it back then he wanted to try to have ...
A. 10 October 2010: Even if you did start having your period when you were five, I would think menopause wouldn't kick in this early, still. I think you will still be fine for a while. I'm sorry about the situation with your partner; it must be so hard when one partner ... (read in full...)
Since breaking up with my GF I've been so lonely I don't know what to do!
Q. Since breaking up with my girlfriend I have been so lonely. I met her three months after moving to this city and she became my best friend. Now she's gone, seeing other dudes, and I'm left alone sitting in my room thinking about all the time we ...
A. 10 October 2010: Sorry about your break up. It sounds like your gf was a huge part of your life, so now that she is gone, you feel kind of lost. But if everyone came to a dead halt after their first break up, the world would come to a stand still. It's reasonable to ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is jealous of my kids!
Q. Hope someone can give me some advice.. my new girlfriend is, i feel, a little jealous of my kids. We've been together 9 months and i really think a lot of her. She says she loves me. Recently the idea of moving in together has been discussed b...
A. 10 October 2010: You are in a hard position because you love your children very much, but also want companionship. It's great that your girlfriend is putting in the effort and showing you that she is willing to involve herself in your children's lives, but it ... (read in full...)
He has webcam chats with men, but won't have sex with me.
Q. Hi I have been dating this guy for 2 years, living together for 6 months. His bisexual. We have never had the honeymoon stage, he has never seemed to chase me for sex. I thought this was odd and found out he web cams to men and mastubates to porn ...
A. 10 October 2010: I've heard about relationships where one partner gets upset with the other for being a bit too invested in porn instead of their actual relationship, and this seems legitimate to me. If you feel uncomfortable and upset that your bf getting himself ... (read in full...)
Long distance boyfriend cheated and I just feel numb
Q. My boyfriend of two and a half years told me yesterday he cheated on me.the thing is,we have a long distance relationship...we met over the computer and met for the first time in August.it was..an okay trip.i was startled by his appearance and ...
A. 10 October 2010: It's too bad this happened, and I definitely don't want you to think the blame is on you for making the comment about not initially being attracted to him. Addressing that comment: I think you do need to be more careful about what you say; to you, ... (read in full...)
Can I keep seeing my professor, or is it a lost cause?
Q. About a week ago, under fairly casual and normal circumstances I accepted a ride home from my college professor. The classes I take are evening classes part time, and he is not employed by the college directly, but began teaching this past ...
A. 10 October 2010: As a man and woman, you have every right to see each other, but from a moral and ethical standpoint, this situation is very complicated. Its clear you guys have hit it off really well, but for the sake of both his and your professional/academic ... (read in full...)
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