What should I do about this teacher who seems to be ignoring me because he has probably found out about the crush I have on him?
Q. Well, I have has a crush on this teacher in my school for about 6 or 7 months now and I decided to tell my best friends 3 months ago and ever since then he has been ignoring me ( my guidance teacher knows ) and one of my friends was tricked into ...
A. 22 December 2012: What you need to do is to realize that you have a crush on the "idea" of this person/teacher rather than on him. The sooner you realize this, the better off you will be. Remember that you're jeopardizing his position as a professional/teacher and ... (read in full...)
I admitted I was bi-curious, now she wants to date me...But I prefer men!
Q. I'm in trouble. One of my closer girlfriends would like to date me but I don't think I should date her at all. I admitted that I was bi-curious but honestly, I've never acted on it and I don't believe that it changes that much about me. After she ...
A. 20 December 2012: If you care about her, be honest with her, gently. ... (read in full...)
I have a beautiful friend, and I'm jealous to the point where I don't want to hang out with her in places where she draws a lot of attention.
Q. I have a dilemma. I have this friend, a girl, who I know for the past 5 years. She is very sweet, and we are not that terribly close, but we see each other we really enjoy each other company. The thing that about 9 months ago she broke up ...
A. 20 December 2012: I would really examine your own happiness with your boyfriend (isn't his attention for you enough?) and more importantly, why you emphasize on the superficial, insignificant, AND impermanent thing such as beauty. Your insecurity is causing you to ... (read in full...)
I'm trying my best to be a good mother but the kids father is so immature and hurting the kids, still out partying every weekend! What more can I do?
Q. Hello Im having problems with my kids dad we have two and another on the way. I am confused on what to say to him and how to act towards him because sometimes i just feel like shutting him out of my life, hes so immature he still likes to have fun...
A. 20 December 2012: There isn't much you can 'do' regarding his behavior but you can let your children know (age appropriately) that their father is going through some difficult times but that he loves them in his own way - be careful not to excuse his behaviors or ... (read in full...)
My wife cheated on me with another woman. How can I attempt to start working out our marriage issues together?
Q. I have been away from my wife for 3 years now. we were together for 10 great years i thought. She had two kids before i met her, then we had a child to together. We had rough times here and there. From when we lost the house in a flood to losing...
A. 20 December 2012: Many marriages have survived infidelity but both parties have to be honest about their feelings towards each other and work through healing together. Talk with your wife about what happened, how she feels about the marriage, and what her future ... (read in full...)
My fiance left me for my sister whom he got pregnant. How do I stop this from ruining Christmas?
Q. I'm 25, and have a son who's 5 years old. My fiance (he's 28) left me only a few days ago for one of my three older sisters (32, 35 and 37, he left me for the 32-year-old one) and I feel low. We were planning to get married next year in March an...
A. 18 December 2012: Unfortunately, you will not feel better by Christmas because you are having a natural reaction to a messed up situation and it will take a natural course in forgiveness and acceptance. This may take years as the dysfunction is within the family. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend plays the victim but am I the real victim of emotional abuse?
Q. Hi, I’ve been in a same sex female-female relationship for four years and I suppose I can’t think straight anymore. I feel so confused! she tells me things, makes promises and fills me full of hope then completely reneges on her word but will ...
A. 18 December 2012: You are very welcome :). Your situation is very complicated by her alcohol use and her environment (eg. family). Just those two things have strong influences on people's thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in general. You could walk around ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend plays the victim but am I the real victim of emotional abuse?
Q. Hi, I’ve been in a same sex female-female relationship for four years and I suppose I can’t think straight anymore. I feel so confused! she tells me things, makes promises and fills me full of hope then completely reneges on her word but will ...
A. 17 December 2012: It appears that your girlfriend is in far worse shape than you are. She doesn't seem to know what love truly means and her emotional dysfunction will continue with or without you because her sense of security (or lack of) cannot come from you or ... (read in full...)
What should I do? My best friend stole the girl who has been the love of my life.
Q. So, about a year ago I had a huge crush on this girl. I told her and she told me to try to get over her. Later in that school year, she told me and a friend of mine that she had feelings for us. My friend didn't really care, but I was extremely ha...
A. 14 December 2012: It sounds to me like she's uncertain about herself and who she wants. She is in the process of discovering her own identity through how different guys view her. She may be taking an (emotional) inventory. You have a choice to join her in her ... (read in full...)
Is it cultural thing that guys in the USA like to make girls wait because it's supposed to be a power play/dominant thing?
Q. I have a date with an American guy next week (I live in the US by the way), what should I expect? Dating looks so coded here... We met on a casual hang out (with common friends) a few days ago and i notice that he was very attracted to me....
A. 14 December 2012: I don't believe it's a cultural thing but an individual thing. Like you said, he's a little on the shy side so trust your instincts that maybe he doesn't know what more to say. Be patient and allow this friendship (or more) to blossom on its own. ... (read in full...)
Why does my bf get upset if I ask questions about his drug use past?
Q. Why does my bf get upset if I ask questions about his drug user past? He's pretty open about it and it almost sounds like he's proud of all the experience he has with drugs but as soon as I ask questions like how many times a day he used to shoot or ...
A. 13 December 2012: Probably because he is not really 'proud' of his past and maybe he is just talking about his drug experience to get things off of his mind or really accept that part of him - on his own terms. That's important that you understand he handles his ... (read in full...)
Can't get past his excessive body hair!! Help!
Q. Ok, Im 21, im gay, and have been going out with this amazing guy now for a couple of months. The other day we 'went all the way' for the firs time- with each other. Thing is, he's got the most amazing smile and eyes, but he is REALLY hairy on his ...
A. 12 December 2012: *Sigh* this could be a sensitive topic to approach because if you do say something, there is an underlying message that you're not happy with his appearance which tells him that you don't accept him completely or that you may come across as valuing ... (read in full...)
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