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writes:Ok, Im 21, im gay, and have been going out with this amazing guy now for a couple of months. The other day we 'went all the way' for the firs time- with each other. Thing is, he's got the most amazing smile and eyes, but he is REALLY hairy on his chest, stomach and below.. problem is, it's really a turn off for me. Should I say anything? And if so.. what? Because I do really like him but just cant get passed that.Thanks :) x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 December 2012):
 He is the way he is. Take him or leave him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2012): I don't think it'd be that big of a deal to let him know what your preference is. Be nice, don't tell him he looks bad, just tell him you find hairless bodies to be very attractive and it'd be nice if he'd try it.
No big deal.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (12 December 2012):
 It might just take some getting used to. If you end up having strong feelings for him, then youll probably get over it, and if you dont, it could be a sign that your feelings for him arent that strong. You could turn it the other way and suggest that smooth skin really turns you on, and you both could get waxed?
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reader, Jovian Erinys  +, writes (12 December 2012):
 *Sigh* this could be a sensitive topic to approach because if you do say something, there is an underlying message that you're not happy with his appearance which tells him that you don't accept him completely or that you may come across as valuing superficial qualities that you need in order to be sexually satisfied. I understand the visual satisfaction playing an important role in intimacy, especially in the early part of a relationship but if you care about him I would proceed this topic carefully and with sensitivity to his self-esteem. I would say something along the lines of, "I would love to feel your beautiful skin against mine. Would you mind if I help you trim the hair off your chest?" I would take gradual steps and see how he responds to just a trim rather than a complete shave. Perhaps you can keep it playful but remember to back off if he doesn't respond well, at first. As the relationship progresses, maybe you'll learn to like him for him visually and otherwise, and this may not be an issue for you but for now, keep in mind that there may be some feature(s) that he doesn't particularly care for that you possess - how would you want him to express that to you?
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