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writes:Well, I have has a crush on this teacher in my school for about 6 or 7 months now and I decided to tell my best friends 3 months ago and ever since then he has been ignoring me ( my guidance teacher knows ) and one of my friends was tricked into telling one of the boys in my class to be fair he never told anyone but someone else overhear and told everyone , he used to talk to me like say hi if we walked past each other, but we nearly walked into each other the other day and he didn't even look at me. I think it's cause he knows cause people have started telling teachers and stuff and shouting my name when he's around. Weekends and holidays are nightmares cause I miss him so much even though when I do see him he ignores me and that hurts just as much Should I do anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2012): Its important to remember this is nothing serious, it only seems magnified to you because of how you feel for the teacher. In reality, the teacher will see this a lot with teenage girls because its common, and I doubt he will be viewing this situation in any other way than a professional way, and he will be used to it. The reason he will likely be distant with you now than he used to be, is because he knows lack of interaction with you where possible, is the best way to lesson the chance of you mistaking his professional kindness for something more personal, which will only feed your crush. The last thing he wants if to do is to provoke this crush you have for him any further. I wouldn't advise making a bigger deal out of this than necessary, it will only make you feel worse. Just give yourself time, try not to concentrate on him as much as you do, and tell yourself its only a crush, its normal, but should end soon because nothing could become of this, and above all, you'll feel miles better for putting this behind you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2012): You need to accept that this teacher is being a good person and a good teacher by ignoring you. Its not that he is trying to hurt your feelings, he could get into alot of trouble if people thought that he was in a relationship with a young student. He would lose his job and be in trouble with the police. He might be married or have a girlfriend and children, how do you think they would feel if they knew people were making jokes and saying he is having something going on with a girl your age! It would also make people treat you badly if thats what they thought. He is a grown up man and because you are under 16 you are a child even if you dont feel like one. Try and be mature, leave this teacher alone, he is trying to protect you by avoiding you.
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reader, Jovian Erinys  +, writes (22 December 2012):
 What you need to do is to realize that you have a crush on the "idea" of this person/teacher rather than on him. The sooner you realize this, the better off you will be. Remember that you're jeopardizing his position as a professional/teacher and also his personal ethics if he chose to be responsive to you and his kindness towards you could be misinterpreted by 'his' colleagues. Crushes on teachers should be kept private in your thoughts rather than shared with peers to spare him of feeling awkward.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (22 December 2012):
 That situation is unpleasant, but unfortunately now there's nothing you can do. Just keep your head down and it will blow over. These people who shout your name are not your friends.
If you put some distance between the two of you your crush will go away. Even though it will be harder at first, it will be easier in the long run.
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