Am I making too much out of nothing?
Q. I’m having a conflict with my partner. I need some advice about whether or not I’m making too big a deal out of nothing. We are both 30, and living together. I’ll try to paint the scene: We were getting ready to carry some stuff to the car, a...
A. 8 June 2023: Look if you were busy lugging stuff the car, I can see how your GF may have had a shorter fuse than normal. But you say it happens often. And even hours later when you should have been kissing and making up, the opposite happened, your GF took the ... (read in full...)
Am I making too much out of nothing?
Q. I’m having a conflict with my partner. I need some advice about whether or not I’m making too big a deal out of nothing. We are both 30, and living together. I’ll try to paint the scene: We were getting ready to carry some stuff to the car, a...
A. 8 June 2023: Look if you were busy lugging stuff the car, I can see how your GF may have had a shorter fuse than normal. But you say it happens often. And even hours later when you should have been kissing and making up, the opposite happened, your GF took the ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him but I still love him.
Q. I have being living with my boyfriend for several months. We have a lot of arguments over small things but lately it’s becoming worse. He’s 34 and I’m 31. He doesn’t think he should help around the house and when he does he said he wants thanking ...
A. 8 June 2023: I agree with Kenny. It sounds like your bf is slowly eroding you. You need to leave. This can happen slowly over months or years during which time you will become less and less of your normal self, you’ll be miserable, second guessing yourself. An ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 11 April 2022: Ok, for anymore interested in the conclusion. Ina nutshell….
I explained my concerns about the situation, that our plan was beholden on her brother being in a position to get his own place, and my apprehension around this, given that he is show... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 7 April 2022: I also see a few options after our conversation. She 1. Says ok if that’s your decision, and is secretly relieved. 2. Says ok, is disappointed but still doesn’t make it clear to him. In which case would in my opinion anyway, haha, be madness... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 6 April 2022: The trouble I have with your advice WO, is you make far too many negative assumptions about the sincerity of the explanation of the situation, completely unfounded. The decision to move in together has not been pushed by me, but an agreement ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 6 April 2022: Sorry, another response. HP you wondered about upbringing and parents. He has had a very loving upbringing, privileged even, parents currently live abroad. Why does my gf feel the need to look after him? I think partly the age gap of 14 years, I ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 6 April 2022: To add, the 18 months deadline was given as a fair time for him to save a deposit to buy, rather than rent. His gf does not have her own place, lives with parents, and pays them rent.. in my head I’m thinking…wellll if you both pay rent now, still ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 6 April 2022: Thanks for the advice, anon. You are absolutely right in identifying that I am so frustrated at my lack at being to exert any control over this situation, haha. Just to clarify folks, it was a joint discussion to move things to the next level, we ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 5 April 2022: To add WO, presuming I would mooch off her…you are very wide off the mark, my integrity is the exact opposite of that. I care not also whether her brother ever buys an engagement ring, my point is he can’t even commit to buying that before he pisses ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 5 April 2022: FA, HP. Top notch advice and what I needed to hear. I knew why thought processes about it all were getting immature. You’re right I do not like the terms, at all. Let me re-read your responses and mull.
WO, sorry for the low rating but your adv... (read in full...)
Childhood friend has turned into a bully
Q. I’ve had a childhood friend ask me for so many favors like borrow money but then can’t pay it back or takes months. Then he will take me out to eat only to charge it for me later by saying he owes me less. He also told two people I was molested ...
A. 25 July 2021: The definition of a friend, a true friend is not someone who makes you feel bad, stirs trouble and is seemingly against you.
You don’t need this person as a friend, you know that. Try and get the money they owe you (you don’t say how much) th... (read in full...)
She was out all night and didn’t text! I need outside views as I’m angry!
Q. OK, this may seem a little trivial but I'm really interested in other's views. My gf, who I have lived with for 2 1/2 years went out for a meal and drinks with work. I dropped her off at the train station at around noon and said if you're getting ...
A. 21 October 2016: Thanks everyone, appreciate your time. To conclude this tale, the evening ended in an almighty row. I called bullshit and said the story didn't add up, I suppose I was slightly mean really with my words and said it was pathetic and she was a tw*t. ... (read in full...)
She was out all night and didn’t text! I need outside views as I’m angry!
Q. OK, this may seem a little trivial but I'm really interested in other's views. My gf, who I have lived with for 2 1/2 years went out for a meal and drinks with work. I dropped her off at the train station at around noon and said if you're getting ...
A. 20 October 2016: Thanks for the reply. She said that they couldn't find a taxi. In a busy city? Really?? I just don't buy it! Suffice to say, we haven't really spoke tonight (and I'm not a silent sulky type!). I'm just so p*ssed off, but I don't want to say anything ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's clothes are, 'Not acceptable to me'.
Q. Me and my gf are recently fighting over this issue that is her "Clothes". Sometimes she wears disgusting dresses which are revealing and I really don't like it. When I tell her not to wear such dresses she doesn't listen and gets agitated. The dres...
A. 20 October 2016: What I'm wondering is, how did your girlfriend dress when you got together?
If the answer is "the same as she does now" you've got no call for complaint, sunshine.
If she's just started dressing different then maybe that's a sign that she's vi... (read in full...)
Not sure if I love her yet? Should I continue this relationship?
Q. i've been seeing a girl for about 10 months!! We do have a lot of fun together, we have sex and sometimes she stays over the night !! Today she sent me a mssg saying 'love you'! She seems really nice, she's beautiful,smart, cares a lot abt me, and ...
A. 3 September 2013: If you've got to think about it, then the answer is no you don't love her. Do nothing, let it carry on as it is. If it develops then it will naturally. As for getting hurt, I reckon if she dumped you tomorrow you'd be hurt anyway if you're being ... (read in full...)
She hasn't invited me to her friends' wedding?
Q. My girlfriend has been invited to one of her friend's wedding next month (an ex, but they're still friends, which is totally fine with me by the way). It's in the middle of a week we both have off on holiday. Anyway, she told me that it didn't come ...
A. 3 September 2013: Well, I've done nothing. It's not been brought up again. Guess it's just one of those things. Who cares? Screw 'em and their wedding...sort of hoping it rains all day and is more boring that the boringest wedding in boresville :)). I'll keep those ... (read in full...)
She hasn't invited me to her friends' wedding?
Q. My girlfriend has been invited to one of her friend's wedding next month (an ex, but they're still friends, which is totally fine with me by the way). It's in the middle of a week we both have off on holiday. Anyway, she told me that it didn't come ...
A. 24 August 2013: Thanks for all the replies. On reflection then, I think what I'll do is just mention how come I'm not invited to the evening. (I completely understand not going to the day, that's fine). As the evening is held in a place where it's a public bar ... (read in full...)
She hasn't invited me to her friends' wedding?
Q. My girlfriend has been invited to one of her friend's wedding next month (an ex, but they're still friends, which is totally fine with me by the way). It's in the middle of a week we both have off on holiday. Anyway, she told me that it didn't come ...
A. 23 August 2013: Highmaintenance 101. You read it wrong. The groom is my girlfriend's ex...
Either way, you're right, I should just not give a damn :)... (read in full...)
How should I act around the man who rejected me?
Q. I had a crush on a man, who was out of my reach. It was inappropriate. But I told him I had a crush on him and he pretty much rejected me, with no answers after a lot of flirting, when we'd see each other, smiling, waving, winking etc. he didn't h...
A. 23 August 2013: He'll be flattered. Everyone likes to be adored! However, he doesn't feel the same, so yeah, just act normal and treat him like you would any other friend. If you get the opportunity at any point could be worth making light if the situation by ... (read in full...)
What do you do when everyone around you is happy and you arent?
Q. Why is it that everyone around me either getting engaged getting married having a baby or their pregnant, although I am happy for them it's really hard to be happy when I'm 29 years old and I'm not married or engaged or anything, I'm a single ...
A. 12 November 2012: It's the old adage of time will heal. If your boyfriend had decided that it's the end of your relationship and it's over for certain then you can't control that. What you can control though is how you feel about it. Cry, grieve your lost ... (read in full...)
What do you do when everyone around you is happy and you arent?
Q. Why is it that everyone around me either getting engaged getting married having a baby or their pregnant, although I am happy for them it's really hard to be happy when I'm 29 years old and I'm not married or engaged or anything, I'm a single ...
A. 12 November 2012: It's the old adage of time will heal. If your boyfriend had decided that it's the end of your relationship and it's over for certain then you can't control that. What you can control though is how you feel about it. Cry, grieve your lost ... (read in full...)
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