What does it mean if someone says "you're not beneficial" to them?
Q. Im 16 my ex is 17. What does it mean when someone says 'you are not beneficial to me?' while dating (unofficially). My ex said that and I think he meant i'm not going to go 'things' with him and so he doesn't think i'm going to benefit him? ...
A. 11 October 2008: Well if he think that he's not worth the time of day and I wouldn't give it to him.
Saying your not beneficial to him is basically him saying you are not doing him any good and that he could do without you. If he thinks that I would certainly move... (read in full...)
We have great sex but there is a promlem - he gets turned off by saliva.
Q. Hi, me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and we love each other very much. We have great sex but there is a promlem - he gets turned off by saliva. For some reason I produce a lot of it especially when kissing and sucking his cock ...
A. 11 October 2008: Well you can hardly stop yourself salivating, can you?
I'd say he needs to get over it or you need to hold back on things that involve oral interaction.
The treatments available are harsh and have terrible side effects like drying up all of the m... (read in full...)
Should she take the ex back and trust him?
Q. My daughter was in a relationship for 15 months. she is 15, him 17. they broke up over the summer, mainly due to him hearing rumors and believing his friends over her. At this time anyway, things were stale in the relationship. During the summer ...
A. 10 October 2008: Of course that's not the answer she wants but I think you are totally right. She should move on, always forwards, never backwards.
Just from this he sounds wrong for her. If he doesn't think hanging around with a girl he has just supposed to of l... (read in full...)
Going to see a band tomorrow night but have to walk back to my house. What can I do to keep safe?
Q. Hi im 16. This isnt so much a relationship question but a question i want advice 4. Tomorrow im going into the city centre to see a band play but im walking back to my house in the middle of the night through the centre of the town. What can i do to ...
A. 10 October 2008: Is there no way you can get a taxi at all, or share a lift?
I wouldn't advise you to carry a knife any day of the week. The best tool you can have, not including mace, is a mobile phone. In a city centre police response times are brilliant, so keep... (read in full...)
Does this make me a slag or something?
Q. im 13 but i look way older. And the other day a guy came and started talking to me and my mate. He thought i was his age and was asking which college i attended. i said i didnt go to college but he didnt believe me. He asked for my number and my ...
A. 10 October 2008: No, your not a slag.
As someone has already suggested I don't think he really believed you were his age either, just taking advantage.
My advice is to just please, please, please be careful. If a guy comes and starts talking to you in future I ... (read in full...)
Confused about a co-worker!
Q. I work with a woman who is married, but am confused about how she feels about me. This woman always wants to work with me, has baked lasagna for me, and even had a hand in having my office moved next to hers. We went for coffee a few times during ...
A. 10 October 2008: Sounds like she is fishing for you, setting out a line with bait on but still trying to keep her distance so as not to incriminate herself by making any definite decisions.
From what you have said it seems she really does have feelings for you.... (read in full...)
I want to marry him, but what if this means tearing my family apart? They dislike my boyfriend.
Q. I recently got back together with my ex bf of a year. I am more in love then ever. I am 20 years old, 2 years into college, and I am having a difficult time telling my parents that we are back together, purely on the fact that he was arrested this ...
A. 8 October 2008: You may be 20 but as you probably realise it's still the same kind of thing as when you were in your teens. The more your parents pull you in one way the more you want to push them away.
You can't be scared of what your parents think. It soun... (read in full...)
Help! I love a woman but am attracted sexually to a man who I live with!
Q. I am in a relationship with a woman--we've been dating for just over a year now. I am happy with her, and love her very much. However, I am bisexual. This has not been a problem until recently. I live with a very, very attractive gay man who is ...
A. 8 October 2008: I would talk to him. If you want him more than your girlfriend then maybe you should reconsider your relationship. Is it fair to string your girlfriend along when it seems to be heading towards an inevitable bad finish?
I know you don't want to lose... (read in full...)
I don't know if I am pregnant or not, should I take a test?
Q. I lost my virginity last month, on Sept. 13th, but a week before that I had my period. So I should be expecting it soon, but for some reason it hasn't come yet, and now i am worried that I might be pregnant. However, i just began university, and i ...
A. 8 October 2008: You know, I'm sure you're not pregnant but why not just get a test anyway? If you're a worrier you could have a couple hidden away in a draw for the future, this would save the needless time between buying a kit where you would worry like heck.
D... (read in full...)
Why do I go soft at the critical moment?
Q. Hi, my girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 years (on and off). Im 16 and she's 15. its a little concern of mine which could turn into a majour concern. We've done stuff other than sex and its all gone fine but when it comes to interco...
A. 6 October 2008: Random handy tip, have her put the condom on! With a little practise she can put in on you with her hand or even her mouth.
I must say also, kudos for the condom... (read in full...)
My abusive ex says he has given up drugs and alcohol. Is it possible that he could change? Should I take him back?
Q. I recently broke up with an abusive boyfriend. We have two children together and were together for 3 years. He had a drinking problem, and a problem with drugs while we were together. He says that he has given both of it up and that they both were ...
A. 6 October 2008: It's very possible he could change but as you have said, you have only broken up recently. I'd give it more time. You can't be sure that once you're back with him he won't just relapse back into old habits so give him time to 'find' himself. When ... (read in full...)
Is it a crush or is it love? How should I know?
Q. Sorry to sound so dumb, but how do I know if it's just a crush I'm having or if I've fallen out of love with my husband of 11 years and in love with someone else at work? ...
A. 6 October 2008: EVERYBODY gets crushes now and then, it's human nature. The reason you may feel like you want to stray could be because things at home are making you look further afield.
Has anything changed in the relationship with your husband?
It's very har... (read in full...)
What to do with an alcoholic boyfriend?
Q. Hi. I have been dating an alcoholic for the last 8 months. We live together and have the most wonderful relationship – apart from the alcohol. He is an alcoholic but not a drunk. his parents have put him in rehab and given him all sorts of help over ...
A. 6 October 2008: This is going to be painful, but from what you have said I’d leave. Helping a recovering alcoholic can be one thing, suffering whilst the person you love destroys themselves and yourself is another.
Any good relationship is based on trust and comm... (read in full...)
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