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writes:im 13 but i look way older. And the other day a guy came and started talking to me and my mate. He thought i was his age and was asking which college i attended. i said i didnt go to college but he didnt believe me. He asked for my number and my mate convinced me to give it to him as i was getting a new phone soon anyway.After he called me asking to meet up. We all met up at the park. He wouldnt believe me at all when i said wich year i was in or my age.I was really Cold and he asked for a hug. We were just standin there watchin everyone hang around while hugging.After somehow we started kissing.He gave me several love bites and all of a sudden took my hand down 2 his pants and made me touch his .. :|Some more things happend .. Not Proper sex as i wouldnt let it go That far.But i jus feel as if im a slag or something. Hes 17 :|Does this make me a slag Or something?Some of the stuff i didnt realise until after as he had me held tightly.i wouldnt class it as rape though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): Well personally i think it was very silly going out with him, he is 17 & you are 13 your putting yoself in very dangerous situation, did you tell anyone where you were going or who with?? when i was 13 i wasn't interested in boys, you've got a long a head of you yo worry about that.
Just be careful in the future.
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reader, Amit_bd  +, writes (10 October 2008):
Well, i would like to say one thing . Just be careful in da future, this world is not full of good persons. Take care
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reader, gembo +, writes (10 October 2008):
a hand job does not exactly make you a slag at all just dont talk to him or even if you see him in the street walk away at the end of the day he hit on you,did you just put your hand there or did he do it?Because in my opinion if he put your hand there then he's the one to blame not you my dear.
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reader, gembo +, writes (10 October 2008):
I agree with the other answers it's simple changed your mobile number and report him to the police it's not your fault you look older and it does not make you a slag or anything so do not put yourself down about this.
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reader, IRDave +, writes (10 October 2008):
 No, your not a slag.
As someone has already suggested I don't think he really believed you were his age either, just taking advantage.
My advice is to just please, please, please be careful. If a guy comes and starts talking to you in future I would be very, very cautious and would certainly not give him my number. It's in these situations that things can go very wrong. You say this guy was insistent, what if he just didn't take no for an answer?
These type of guys can take basically your whole youth away in an instant, no one deserves that.
At the end of the day, meeting up with guys you have just met in the park is never a good idea, especially not alone.
I don't want to sound like a parent, believe me, mine still annoys me and I'm 20, but I would hate to think you would compromise your safety after a friend convinced you to give your number out. If you ask me, they aren't such a great friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): He's way too old for you, he could get into serious trouble for messing with a 13yr old girl. Yes you may be called a slag at school (if they find out) why? because most girls that age aren't doing those things, even more so with a much older guy they just met. Next time, please be more careful.
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reader, :):):) +, writes (10 October 2008):
No, you're not a slag, but I feel you have been taken advantage of. This guy 'says' he dosent believe you are only 13, but chances are he does and is trying to make the justify what he is doing.
Anybody who tries it on, the second time you've met has little respect for themselves or anyone else.
I'd stay away from this guy if I was you. x
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reader, shiraz +, writes (10 October 2008):
hiyah if you felt uncomfortable in any way then you should stop the whole thing now. none of it makes you a slag but do you even like the guy? you shouldnt feel so pushed into things the guys a lot older and has a lot more experiance your still growing up and finding your own way dont rush there or let him wreck the experiance for you. your not a bad person at all and you shouldnt feel like it- i take it all this was in public? just remember you dont really know the guy and he seems to want a lot from a girl of your age this shows no respect from him and still a side of imaturity be the stronger person and leave it it might seem fun now but in the long run you need to think whats best for you- your still young dont let someone you dont know take away who you are
sorry i sound all strict and mature! lol best of luck plz be careful x :)
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (10 October 2008):
 okay well i'd definetely say be more careful in the future because otherwise you will get hurt/ a name for yourself i know its harsh and im sorry to be blunt but you need ot be careful, i know how bitchy girls can get so i just want you to be careful. if you don't want this attention ignore his texts etc or block him if thats possible on your mobile. the new phone idea is a good one.
it doesn't make you a slag
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): I'd say no. You like him (I assume) and he likes you (I assume). Although, him forcing you to touch him and make you feel uncomfortable is ILLEGAL. If you don't like him, dob him in to the Police.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni think i should add that i think i gave him a "hand job"
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