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writes:I am in a relationship with a woman--we've been dating for just over a year now. I am happy with her, and love her very much. However, I am bisexual. This has not been a problem until recently. I live with a very, very attractive gay man who is also one of my closest friends. I find myself wanting him sexually more than my girlfriend...this has been going on for a while now. I want to talk to him about it, to ask him how he feels about me, but I don't want to affect our relationship and lose my girlfriend. Actually, I'm not sure what I want to accomplish, but I feel this burning desire to talk to him about it. What should I do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, IRDave  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 I would talk to him. If you want him more than your girlfriend then maybe you should reconsider your relationship. Is it fair to string your girlfriend along when it seems to be heading towards an inevitable bad finish?
I know you don't want to lose her or hurt her but you can't have your cake and eat it.
I'm not saying that talking to him is going to end up in you leaping into bed together but at least he'll know how you feel. And you won't lose him as a friend.
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reader, meforyou +, writes (8 October 2008):
maybe u shud talk t him about it, it sounds like u like him more than ur girlfrend anyway. or if u want ur girlfrend u shud try n c likin this man as a phase that way it mite b easier t stop likin him. its up t u but u cant ave both. but, please, if u dont want t b wit ur girlfrend deep down, tell her so she can move on. dont keep her on the basis of u kinda likin her, go with whichever 1 u like/love most. gud luck! ope this helped
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