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Does anyone out there believe in Soulmates???

Q.   This is more of asking your opinions... does anyone believe in soulmates? and if yes how do you know when your find your soulmate? Thanks....

A.   9 October 2008: I believe a soul mate is someone you do not have to look for, it just happens. All of a sudden you realize that you have everything in common with one person, You share the same likes and dislikes, most of the same morals, you seem to agree on ... (read in full...)

On having a bisexual boyfriend.....

Q.   I am currently dating a bisexual guy. I know he loves me and would do anything for me - that's not what is in question here. I recently found out that he's been looking at pictures of naked guys. Fine- it's like how straight guys look at porn. Wh...

A.   3 October 2008: Yeah, not sure I would refer to it as a FORMER crush. Sounds to me like there is definately sexual attraction. Do you know exactly just how Bi-sexual he is? Is it like 50-50% or 60-20% Is he more attracted to you but now and then gets gay urges? or ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend hurt his back muscle slightly 2 months ago and ever since then he has not been able to orgasm during sex.

Q.   My boyfriend hurt his back muscle slightly 2 months ago and ever since then he has not been able to orgasm during sex. I am very confused by this because usually his back only starts to hurt after more than 20 minutes of sex but there have been ...

A.   3 October 2008: OMG, I just learned about back injuries affecting the ability to orgasm from some research. Take it easy and let him heal, If the injury doesn't heal properly he could be like this for life. Being it's a muscle he injured it probly will heal ... (read in full...)

Why are my orgasms not as powerful as they were when I was younger?

Q.   I have found in recent years that my orgasms are very faint, and last only a second or 2. I remember when I was younger that orgasms were much stronger and I could feel them all down my legs. They were never longer than a few seconds though (exc...

A.   3 October 2008: I hope something I said was able to help you out, In the reading I did I found a lot to do with hormones and stuff like that affecting orgasms. but also I have recently learned that injuries or stomache surgeries can have massive affects on the ... (read in full...)

He's hot but I think he may be gay! What should I do?

Q.   hi i met a guy how is hot and i think he is half gay. i really like him and we make each other laugh. i tried calling him but he wont answer or even txt. he is on to drugs and were the same age 13. the other day 9/27/08 i was asleep at a sleep over ...

A.   30 September 2008: littlesuziepie It's a boy who wrote this question, not a girl. They are sleeping over cause it's just 3 boys. That's why the mom's not worried! Ummmm... How do you feel about this situation? are you confused? scared? or attracted? OK if you were... (read in full...)

Why are my orgasms not as powerful as they were when I was younger?

Q.   I have found in recent years that my orgasms are very faint, and last only a second or 2. I remember when I was younger that orgasms were much stronger and I could feel them all down my legs. They were never longer than a few seconds though (exc...

A.   29 September 2008: I did a little research for you! I hope this helps! This website was the most useful one I found http://www.probido.com/faq.html http://www.probido.com/ This article is extrememly medical and I couldn't understand some of it, you may be able ... (read in full...)

How likely am I to be pregnant? I am starting to worry!

Q.   Okay aunties and uncles ... I am on the pill, and I had protected sex 3 weeks ago. I am on my pill-free week (3rd day in) and no hint of a period.... how likely am I to be pregnant? I am starting to worry....

A.   29 September 2008: It is very normal to just be "late". Especially if worked up a little about it! So try to relax! If it drags on too long then worry! I have actually skipped periods before just thinking I was pregnant (when I was trying). I think your period will ... (read in full...)

I can't get over this one girl!

Q.   i had a relationship of three years with a VERY attractive girl,although a loved her and i know she loved me we were going to have to have a long distance relationship and i felt all we had was a physical relationship..so i ended it.now i can see ...

A.   29 September 2008: Honestly, doesn't sound like she's over you either. She is only having casual relationships in fear of getting hurt again. and she is only telling she doesn't care because she doesn't want u to hurt her again. You broke her heart! She thinks you ... (read in full...)

When's the earliest for me to tell from some sign that I could be pregnant?

Q.   Me and my bf have been having unprotective sex once, twice, or more a day, for almost 3 months.. how many days is the earliest for me to tell from some sign that i could be pregnant? -Michelle...

A.   29 September 2008: The first day the period is due, some tests claim that they can be taken earlier. I never had luck with those ones though. Clear Blue is the best!... (read in full...)

How likely am I to be pregnant? I am starting to worry!

Q.   Okay aunties and uncles ... I am on the pill, and I had protected sex 3 weeks ago. I am on my pill-free week (3rd day in) and no hint of a period.... how likely am I to be pregnant? I am starting to worry....

A.   29 September 2008: How long have you been on the pill? If this is the first month you could be pregnant. The pill takes a month to kick in! How long is your cycle usually? Mine is 32 days and I can't take those kind of pills because when I start the new pack my peri... (read in full...)

Why are my orgasms not as powerful as they were when I was younger?

Q.   I have found in recent years that my orgasms are very faint, and last only a second or 2. I remember when I was younger that orgasms were much stronger and I could feel them all down my legs. They were never longer than a few seconds though (exc...

A.   29 September 2008: Maybe try birth control pills? the added hormones might help. I really hope this is rare and doesnt' happen to all women!!! But I guess other women your age could give you better answers than I can.... (read in full...)

I'm very worried, I already have one child, I don't want anymore!

Q.   Hi I had my period 5 days late and my period was not the same, it was lighter and shorter. Could i still be pregnant? I've heard of implantation bleeding but i dont know how often that really occurs... ...if i take a pregnancy test will it show up i...

A.   29 September 2008: Clear Blue works better than doctor's tests. You can buy it over the counter and results will show if it is the day of or later than the day your period is due! I always knew when I was pregnant before it showed up on doctor's tests! Never had a ... (read in full...)

Discharge, abdominal pains, pain during and after sex ! What is wrong with me?

Q.   I am really freaked out! For the past few months my sex life has been really bad;I get horny and that but the sex isn't good anymore..I have also been getting strange,smelly discharge, abdominal pains, pain during and after sex and I don't seem to ...

A.   29 September 2008: Could be an STD but I had many of those symptoms when I had a uterus infection. I had the pain after sex (getting worse & worse) and stuff but never let it get near that bad. I also found out that I had a Cyst in my overy. But the uterus infection ... (read in full...)

On having a bisexual boyfriend.....

Q.   I am currently dating a bisexual guy. I know he loves me and would do anything for me - that's not what is in question here. I recently found out that he's been looking at pictures of naked guys. Fine- it's like how straight guys look at porn. Wh...

A.   29 September 2008: Did he come out of the closet? or is he using you as a cover-up for his sexuality? Are you the only person who knows he is Bi? Almost sounds more like he is gay, just not accepted it yet.... (read in full...)

No commitment, and I think he may be controlling, should I just move on?

Q.   I have been dating this guy for 5 mths. He tells my straight up he doesnt want a girlfriend but on the other hand he says if i see anyone else, touch, kiss, etc. then its over between us.And he's not seeing anyone else.what does that mean? are there ...

A.   28 September 2008: Sounds to me like you 2 are just bedtime buddies. Do what you think is right!... (read in full...)

I can't get 'wet' anymore. Is this caused my by pill?

Q.   I've been on the pill for a little over a year. At firs I was fine but for the last like 7 months I've been having problems getting wet during sex. Is it because of the pills. I'm tired of using other forms of lubrication. Please help! Thanks...

A.   28 September 2008: If the type of pill you're on has estrogen then yes! Try Depo-provera shots, or other types of BC Estrogen free. Depo might reverse the problem cause it has only progestrin in it (I think) Miconor is estrogen free and it works & adds a little fluid. ... (read in full...)

Spermicidal lube vs. Spermicidal foam?

Q.   I was just wondering what the difference is between spermicidal lube and spermicidal foam..? and which is safer to use as well as a condom. Answers much appreciated. :)...

A.   28 September 2008: I believe condoms have spermacide on them already, read the label not sure but I think this is true.... (read in full...)

Is it common for women to cry during or after intercourse?

Q.   I have heard that women sometime cry during intercourse or after sex. Is this common? What does it mean? I appreciate your time....

A.   21 September 2008: Sex is very emotional for women and it is quite common to cry. many women don't even know why they are actually crying. It's just the body's way of releasing emotions and tension. Kind of the mind's way of rejuvinating it's self. in a good way. I... (read in full...)

I haven't fallen pregnant yet. Could iron deficiency be the problem?

Q.   I am trying to conceive but haven't yet, could there be a chance that i have low iron? would that effect me getting pregnant? Would more iron help me or make it faster for me to get pregnant? If so, where would i buy iron pills? -Michy...

A.   21 September 2008: Just over 1 year ago I learned something really neat. This girl I know went to a chiropractor, who told her that her hip was mildly tilted which was causing the uterus to tilt, resulting in infertility. after 4 months of treatment everyday excessive ... (read in full...)

Do other straight males masturbate to other males sometimes?

Q.   I am interested in girls and I can never picture myself with a boy in real life. When I masturbate, I sometimes think about other males (all the males I have thought about are my friends). I sometimes masturbate to pictures of my male friends,...

A.   21 September 2008: I would have agreed with the women until I read the men's answers. I think for women it's normal, and for men it might mean bisexuality.... (read in full...)

I feel gross and trashy after my girlfriend told me how 'going down' on her is so disgusting!

Q.   My girlfriend and I have oral sex. I know that she really enjoys it when I go down on her. This morning I wanted to arouse her so I started talking about eating her pussy. She went on and on about how disgusting eating pussy it. How it’s so gross...

A.   21 September 2008: Wow!!! I know sooooo many women who thought the same thing, even before they ever got with any guy. Luckily I have stayed good friends with these women long enough to hear how thier views changed, eventually as they got older each of them wound up ... (read in full...)

Why does she cry during climaxing, is she in pain? How can I extend the time before she climaxes?

Q.   Hi, I am 36 Male from India. We are married for 10 years and have very good sex (4 time in a week). Almost every time she is coming and it happens little bit quickly. How to extend it?. She also cries during climaxing and when I ask her after the ...

A.   21 September 2008: Climaxes are an extreme emotional release for women. It is quite common to cry during or after a climax. It just releases all the tension in the body, she is probly a happier person all together just because of this release. I would consider ... (read in full...)

My husband's a miserable asshole who only discusses the prospect of us getting a threesome on, so he can boost his self esteem!

Q.   I have been married to my husband (we'll call him steve) for less than a year (we've been a couple for over 9 years) but i have been cheating on him with our good friend (we'll call him rick) for nearly a year and a half. Rick and his wife (cal...

A.   19 September 2008: This is a very colourful story! with many different pictures painted, yet I don't know what to tell you. all I can do for you is listen, i guess.... (read in full...)

I really want to tell him I like him, but I think it's too soon after his break-up.

Q.   i boy who i like had a gf but they split up wednesday. i have liked him for a long time now, and he told my friend i am "fit". i really want to tell him i like him but i think its to soon after his break-up. how should i aproach him, when the t...

A.   19 September 2008: a relationship won't last very long if you tell him right now, you will just be a rebound. Wait, give him lots of time and if you still like him then try.... (read in full...)

How do I get a perfectly shaven vagina?

Q.   This is sorta embarrassing, I feel like I should know how to do this already! Here goes... I have only ever shaved my vagina once. I let it grow right back out and it got all itchy and pretty much put me off doing it again. But now that I'm old...

A.   19 September 2008: There are some things I forgot to mention.... Trimming the hair before the appointment reduces pain because the wax is able to pull from closer to the root of the hair. Trim with an electric razer that has a head on it, scissors may trim too short. ... (read in full...)

How do I get a perfectly shaven vagina?

Q.   This is sorta embarrassing, I feel like I should know how to do this already! Here goes... I have only ever shaved my vagina once. I let it grow right back out and it got all itchy and pretty much put me off doing it again. But now that I'm old...

A.   19 September 2008: Ok, I have alot of experience with waxing. and it doesnt' have to be so painful. Take 2 pain killers tylenol/advil one or the other. about 45 minutes before appointment. I had an estetician that had a routine to go from the butt forward. she said it ... (read in full...)

Do women find genuine compliments addictive from those they are not in a relationship with?

Q.   Hello. We all know women love compliments - especially if they are from a man they find attractive (even if they are not dating him as such). My question is: do women find such compliments addictive i.e. will they start pursuing the attracti...

A.   19 September 2008: Looking for attention is like....... somenting is not quite going right and she needs to feel pretty or happy to think people like her. If she's not looking for attention then maybe she's happy. Girls who look for attention don't actually know how ... (read in full...)

How do I get a perfectly shaven vagina?

Q.   This is sorta embarrassing, I feel like I should know how to do this already! Here goes... I have only ever shaved my vagina once. I let it grow right back out and it got all itchy and pretty much put me off doing it again. But now that I'm old...

A.   19 September 2008: From the back to the front & do your best to hold the skin tight so it doesn't get caught in the blade. Try bikini Zone cream if it gets itchy again.... (read in full...)

Can you offer any advice on how I can get an orgasm??

Q.   I need help with having an orgasm with my partner. i know he tries very hard and this is important to him. I can have a orgasm on my own by stimulating my clitoris in 15 minutes but I have never had a vaginal orgasm. Is this only when you hit the g ...

A.   18 September 2008: The G-spot is not a "place" it's a frame of mind. Literally "how bad your body wants feel him inside you" before you even begin. When your body is "begging" for it, (vagina is feeling/searching for him and let your pelvis tilt forward and back) Deep ... (read in full...)

Does every girl masturbate? Any tips without including sex toys?

Q.   i am 16 years old and ive recently been getting sexual desires, the only way to kind of calm it down is to masturbate... but i really dont know how to.. i dont want to use a vibrator or anything like that, i want to use my fingers. how do you do ...

A.   18 September 2008: I like to create an increadibly sexy man in my mind. I pretend he is rubbibg me & touching me all over (with whatever part of his body I feel like that day) I spend alot of time rubbing my body. until my vagina is asking to feel him inside me. ... (read in full...)

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