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writes:i had a relationship of three years with a VERY attractive girl,although a loved her and i know she loved me we were going to have to have a long distance relationship and i felt all we had was a physical relationship..so i ended it.now i can see shes having casual relationships with very good looking guys.its breaking my heart every time she updates her facebook or myspace...i cant get with a new girl unless they look like her...i feel like im going crazy...its affecting my day to day life...im tring so hard to get over it...but i cant..ive told her how i feel but she doesnt seem to care even though through our relationship she obviously was into the relationship more than me..which was a major problem between us..im having problems getting new girls and they all say im moody.i feel this is because im still not over her.i really never had problems getting girls in the past.im not sure if i can get over this...i know i sound like a sad case.can anyone help..please?
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reader, Lostlife  +, writes (20 October 2008):
Well sounds like something ive been through... I tried to get her back but she didnt want me... Best advice, get over her! Well she said i should just move on, it was hard but i did it. Now ive found someone else... But trying to get her too lol... Well all the best bro, just try it... Meet new people, u neva know you might just find someone way better:) all the luck, btw read my question, mayb u can help me out!
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reader, antt123  +, writes (29 September 2008):
Hello there. Getting over someone can be very difficult. I would say it's one of the hardest things i ever had to do. But you shouldn't put yourself down. The first thing you should do is open your mind. Try to figure out exactly why other girls are pushed away from you , i bet it's because you wish they were your ex. Second , go out and have some fun with good friends. that always helps. You need to wipe out everything that reminds you of her , because thinking about her less is crucial to getting over her. DO NOT allow this to run your everyday life. You already told her how you felt about her , and if she's not understanding , back away from her. give her space and time to miss you . maybe that way , when she does miss you , she may realize what she really feels for you.
Good luck.
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reader, antt123 +, writes (29 September 2008):
Hello there. Getting over someone can be very difficult. I would say it's one of the hardest things i ever had to do. But you shouldn't put yourself down. The first thing you should do is open your mind. Try to figure out exactly why other girls are pushed away from you , i bet it's because you wish they were your ex. Second , go out and have some fun with good friends. that always helps. You need to wipe out everything that reminds you of her , because thinking about her less is crucial to getting over her. DO NOT allow this to run your everyday life. You already told her how you felt about her , and if she's not understanding , back away from her. give her space and time to miss you . maybe that way , when she does miss you , she may realize what she really feels for you.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): While most people find lond distance relationships hard, it sounds like you really care for this girl... more than just phisically.
I think you should talk to her about trying the long distance thing. see how it works and how y'all both feel.
It is very possible that she does care about you a lot too, and is just trying to get her mind off of you.
Just talk to her, try to get back together. Trying something different is the only way to make progress in feeling better. If you keep doing what you're doing, how will things change?
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reader, GirlyonFire  +, writes (29 September 2008):
Honestly, doesn't sound like she's over you either. She is only having casual relationships in fear of getting hurt again. and she is only telling she doesn't care because she doesn't want u to hurt her again. You broke her heart! She thinks you only want her at the time. She probly doesn't know you actually feel this way, she probly thinks u are just looking for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Well, Iam in a similar situation. I dated my ex for five years and even had a ring. When we broke up I thought that all of our problems would disappear and I would suddenly become a "Happy" person again. We werent even broken up for longer than two monthes and he was dating someone new. She is eight years younger and she is also pretty. The one helpful information that I can give is STOP being superficial. You are just trying to get back at her and feed your ego at the same time. Take a step back and when you are secure in your shoes then you will realize that the other guys dont mean anything. Girls are attracted to strong secure men, not insecure boys who are into revenge. The new girl will eventually see straight through you also, and realize that you are in it to get back at your ex. Sit back and breathe and pat your back for not sinking to that level.
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