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writes:I need help with having an orgasm with my partner. i know he tries very hard and this is important to him. I can have a orgasm on my own by stimulating my clitoris in 15 minutes but I have never had a vaginal orgasm. Is this only when you hit the g spot? I cant find it. Which i would take either one with him. I need some ideas. Maybe postions that would help? and he doesnt like using toys. he thinks he should be all I need. Is there anything in the stores you can buy that you would recomend? thanks for you advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): The fact that you have to TRY is probably the problem.
Trying to hard causes stress. Stress equals inability to relax. This leads to no orgasm. And no Orgasm leads to the dark side.
Just relax ang go with the flow. Use a toy on yourself if he can;t get you over the line and learn to use foreplay and keep things diverse. Switch positions several times in the one sitting like in Porn or movies.
Always, Always use oral sex somewhere.
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reader, GirlyonFire  +, writes (18 September 2008):
The G-spot is not a "place" it's a frame of mind. Literally "how bad your body wants feel him inside you" before you even begin. When your body is "begging" for it, (vagina is feeling/searching for him and let your pelvis tilt forward and back) Deep sex and it doesn't matter which position. Let your pelvis lead the way. If you try this and it hurts, work at it slowly. Let the pelvis tilt at it's own free will. And all you have to do for a clitoral orgasm is imagine the same things you imagine when you are alone (the first few times it also helps to imagine he is not there)even if he happens to be doing exactly what you think about during masterbation, your mind still needs to imagine it for some reason. Let the brain, clit and vagina all work together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): Many women do not reach orgasm from penetration alone. I also need clitoral stimulation during sex. We use positions where my husband can manually stimulate my clit during intercourse. Spooning is good because his hands are free to stimulate me. Often he will penetrate me on his knees in the missionary position and use his thumb to gently rub it. It sends me over the edge every time! If that doesn't work, try stimulating yourself during sex. You might also have some success riding him on top where you can control the action and grind your clit against his body. Anything that provides friction on the clit is good!
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (18 September 2008):
 Dont be upset that you cant orgasm during sex alot of women cant, so heres something you can try, have him do oral sex on you before you start having sex and have an orgasm that way you had what you wanted and he gets what he wanted, even if you want to step it up alittle, when you are having intercourse rub your clit at the same time. If it takes you that long to reach an orgasm on your owne try some lubes and see how that works. well good luck and i hope i helped you out.
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