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writes:I am currently dating a bisexual guy. I know he loves me and would do anything for me - that's not what is in question here. I recently found out that he's been looking at pictures of naked guys. Fine- it's like how straight guys look at porn. What's worse is that I found him looking at pictures of his former crush (a guy). It's one thing to look at something in general and another to search up a specific person. Is this a huge warning flag? I don't look at pictures of my old crushes... do any of you? Is this normal or should I be worried?Please tell me what you think. Any feedback is appreciated.
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reader, GirlyonFire  +, writes (3 October 2008):
Yeah, not sure I would refer to it as a FORMER crush. Sounds to me like there is definately sexual attraction. Do you know exactly just how Bi-sexual he is? Is it like 50-50% or 60-20% Is he more attracted to you but now and then gets gay urges? or is it more like he's more attracted to these men and now and then gets an urge for straight sex? I really think you should think about (yourself) or ask him directly before deciding how severe his actions are. I am still undecided how I feel about the situation I don't think there is any harm in having feelings of "Gay" (for lac of better words) but I do think it is harmful to be with one person wishing and secretly wishing you were with another. I am not trying to scare you, I am just trying to figure out which situation more suits your bf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2008): I asked the question. Yes, he's "come out" and only close friends know that he's bi.
And thank you for your response. But do you think looking up someone specific is a danger sign? Or is it like guys and porn. I think that with porn though, there's less danger because you're not putting faces with the bodies. Do you know what I mean?
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reader, GirlyonFire +, writes (29 September 2008):
Did he come out of the closet? or is he using you as a cover-up for his sexuality? Are you the only person who knows he is Bi? Almost sounds more like he is gay, just not accepted it yet.
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