How do I help my girlfriend stop blaming herself for bad sex and start blaming the GUY?
Q. My girl friend met a guy and a party and began dating him - he pressured her for sex. After a couple weeks she gave in because he said all the right things and she trusted him. Once he got what he wanted he dumped her. She moved on to me - and ...
A. 28 January 2009: The best you can do is tell her how you feel.
Maybe say, "Look, how that guy treated you was wrong... but I'm different. I think you're great and no one else could tell me wrong. I won't treat you like that guy did, so just forget about him and ... (read in full...)
Can sex be used to control someone or a relationship?
Q. I've never done "it", but can "it" be used to control someone or a relationship?...
A. 28 January 2009: Absolutely. It can only control someone, though, if they let it. Only you can control yourself and make decisions; no one else can tell you what you HAVE to do.
I hope this helped a bit.... (read in full...)
Has anyone heard the expression "I should have rubbed you off...?"
Q. Hi, I must be getting old but has anyone heard the expression "I should have rubbed you off...". Does anyone know what this means specifically? Thanks....
A. 28 January 2009: It basically means, I should have rubbed your genitals until you orgasmed.
It sometimes is said, "I should have gotten you off."
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Girlfriend not a virgin - but what can I make of this sex act?
Q. My girl friend told me recently that she had sexual intercourse with a guy before we met. Now stay with me - she explains it like this. He did not ask her to have set, he laid down on her and did it for a few minutes. She said that she had broke ...
A. 28 January 2009: Have you ever thought of the fact that maybe her ex has a smaller member than you? That might be why she couldn't feel it as well.
Here's an example. I was dating a man whom had about an 8" (he was my first) and I could feel everything (like yo... (read in full...)
Can we get into trouble if we were to date?
Q. Hi folks, I suppose I really just wanted some advice. I'm 19 and in my first year at university. Since I started in september, I've begun to get quite close to one of my lecturers - he's in his first lecturing job, only mid twenties and absolutely ...
A. 28 January 2009: I believe that if both of you say that you are interested in each other and a relationship, then you should go for it... BUT be aware of the consequences, like him losing his job (as others have said.)
I hope everything works out for you!... (read in full...)
At first it was great...now he feels distant.
Q. Ok this is a kinda long story so ima try to make it short.. Ok so I met this guy last year(he is now 22 and I am 18) and he asked for my number and he would call me almost everyday, but we lost touch until his cousin contacted my friend and they ...
A. 28 January 2009: It sounds like he DOES like you, but perhaps he's not interested in a relationship right now.
Men (and women) use the "I'm really busy" excuse constantly when they're either not interested in a relationship, OR they already are in a relation... (read in full...)
We fight all the time and treat each other bad..what to do?
Q. we love each other. and we both know it. but we fight ALL the time. like seriously, it's one thing after another. it's mostly cuz of him though. and i just can't take it anymore. he stresses me out so much and makes me feel like crap all the time. ...
A. 28 January 2009: Aw, I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out.
Maybe after he grows up a bit, he'll come back and try things out again differently. :)
Cheer up, okay? Good luck.... (read in full...)
Should I just take it in my stride and be happy or try to change the impossible?
Q. I've been exclusively dating this man for over a year and although mostly a happy relationship, we seem to bump heads a lot. I'm 19 (turning 20 this year) and he's 20 (turning 21) so there isn't much of an age gap, yet somehow, he seems to be the i...
A. 28 January 2009: Wow, maybe I should just get him drunk and ask him stuff, lol.
And that would be really helpful to get a guy's insight, so thank you. I'll definitely give him incentive, haha!... (read in full...)
Should I just take it in my stride and be happy or try to change the impossible?
Q. I've been exclusively dating this man for over a year and although mostly a happy relationship, we seem to bump heads a lot. I'm 19 (turning 20 this year) and he's 20 (turning 21) so there isn't much of an age gap, yet somehow, he seems to be the i...
A. 27 January 2009: We've told each other pretty much everything about ourselves. I'm not sure it's the fact that he's afraid to open up to me, but he doesn't know HOW.
He lost his mother while he was a baby, so he never had a mother-figure to handle all of the "mom... (read in full...)
My pics are with my ex!
Q. this is very urgent !my ex bf and i broke up 6 months ago after an intimate relationship that lasted for 2 years .i actually suggested that we be friends and keep in touch . now im with another guy and the other day my ex texted me asking if ...
A. 27 January 2009: He probably won't misuse them, unless you specifically know that he would do something like that.
The best course of action would be to politely ask him to respect you, your family, your friends (etc) by deleting the photos from his phone, c... (read in full...)
What "season" am I?
Q. What season am I, so to speak? I think this has to do with looks but i'm not sure... just curious i have long, wavy, medium brown hair with a reddish tinge dark brown eyes very pale skin (pink undertones) ummm... need i include anything else...
A. 27 January 2009: You could either be a fall or a winter. The whole "season" thing really goes by what colors are good with your skin tone, hair color and eyes.
I'm a fall, so deeper colors work best for me... while my younger sister is a Summer, so bright colors w... (read in full...)
She doesn't think she should be in a relationship
Q. Well first me and my have been having a secret relationship for like about 11 months. I asked her if she would like to go out with me officially and she said yes but this was back in October of 08 now it's January of 09. Well she said yes but we had ...
A. 27 January 2009: Sounds like you really like her. :)
My suggestion is this: Sit her down and tell her how you feel. Be honest. Then tell her that you are interested in dating her, but if she isn't ready, then that's okay. Explain that your offer always stands, ... (read in full...)
Why does he never bother to text me back?
Q. When my boyfriend and I are apart and I call or send a text message to him he never bothers to reply. Why?...
A. 27 January 2009: Oh men, that's just how they are.
If your boyfriend is tech-savvy, then there is no reason for him to NOT text you back. But, if he is new or barely familiar with technology, then he might just not know how to send one back.
Usually, thou... (read in full...)
Heaven for the trolls and immature people on the internet? the haters?
Q. Why are people so incredibly mean on the internet? I'm just really wondering. I know that people say that they don't have a heart and they are just starring at a pixel or username, but why do those immature brats keep forgetting about the person...
A. 27 January 2009: Some people have insecurities and personal issues within themselves, so in order to counteract those bad things, they make themselves feel better/high-and-mighty by putting other people down.
I guarantee you, though, that they wouldn't have the... (read in full...)
Why did my GF stop while tossing me off to reply to her text message?!
Q. I was gettin tossed off by my girlfriend other week and about 10 seconds during, she got a text and stopped... Why? We could have perfectly carried on and got down to more.... Maybe she wants to reply to texts more than you know Haha. Anyway... why ...
A. 27 January 2009: To be honest, I'm not sure. I guess it would depend what the text message said and whom it was from.
Have you tried confronting her about this?
Tell her that you were very grateful for what she was doing, but you were curious as to why she stop... (read in full...)
We fight all the time and treat each other bad..what to do?
Q. we love each other. and we both know it. but we fight ALL the time. like seriously, it's one thing after another. it's mostly cuz of him though. and i just can't take it anymore. he stresses me out so much and makes me feel like crap all the time. ...
A. 27 January 2009: The fighting could subside down the line, but only if you two are willing to work together - as a couple.
Perhaps the fighting is due to a lack of open communication? Do you tell each other everything without "sugar-coating" it?
I used to arg... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me - what's going on??
Q. Okay, there's this guy I really like. We've known each other for about five years and have become really good friends (he's a former college prof of mine; I know, I know, age difference, blahblah) and we get along great. I honestly have no problem ...
A. 26 January 2009: There are probably a few factors in this particular situation that could be the reason why he isn't replying...
A.) He's not interested in a relationship.
B.) He's interested, but very uneasy about starting a relationship with you (either beca... (read in full...)
Do guys like petite girls?
Q. Do guys like petite girls? Do they think their smallness is cute and delicate? Or does it creep guys out (especially older guys) that they're small like children?...
A. 26 January 2009: Yes, yes, yes!!
Every man is different, but I am a very petite girl and I've always had luck with men.
Personality always kills looks, though, so make sure to keep both in shape! :)... (read in full...)
We fight all the time and treat each other bad..what to do?
Q. we love each other. and we both know it. but we fight ALL the time. like seriously, it's one thing after another. it's mostly cuz of him though. and i just can't take it anymore. he stresses me out so much and makes me feel like crap all the time. ...
A. 26 January 2009: I'm really sorry to hear that you're fighting with someone you believe to be in love with, that's tough.
I agree with some of the other replies and they are true.
You are young and have plenty of time to have a serious relationship, and it's dif... (read in full...)
What should I get him for Valentine's Day?
Q. Hey... I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years and 7 months. What should I get him for valentines day?...
A. 26 January 2009: Well, what is he into?
Get him something that he needs rather than something he wants - trust me, it's better!
I received an external hard-drive for Valentine's Day last year and it might not have been romantic to some, but it was HIGHLY usefu... (read in full...)
He sexually harrasses me, how do I get him to stop?
Q. there is this guy at school, he is my friend (or at least he used to be) i am not sure if i consider him a friend anymore because all he ever does is sexually harrasse me! he is always trying to get me to either sleep with him, give him oral, or ...
A. 26 January 2009: I had the same thing happen to me while I was in middle school/jr. high and I told the boy to stop bothering me or I'd file a sexual harassment complaint against him through the school.
He didn't stop, so I filed the complaint and he never both... (read in full...)
Should I just take it in my stride and be happy or try to change the impossible?
Q. I've been exclusively dating this man for over a year and although mostly a happy relationship, we seem to bump heads a lot. I'm 19 (turning 20 this year) and he's 20 (turning 21) so there isn't much of an age gap, yet somehow, he seems to be the i...
A. 26 January 2009: Thank you acd719 and Emilysanswers for your quick replies! :)
I will really put some thought into this with each of your answers. I actually JUST went and saw him today at work for lunch and he was 100% perfectly fine, back to normal, treating me l... (read in full...)
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