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36-40,
anonymous
writes:this is very urgent !my ex bf and i broke up 6 months ago after an intimate relationship that lasted for 2 years .i actually suggested that we be friends and keep in touch . now im with another guy and the other day my ex texted me asking if im really in love with someone else and i replied yes ..he kept texting me every night for about a week.those msgs were having some kind of intimate words we used to say to each other when we were together.he even told me that he kinda felt jealous when i told him that i love this other guy and said that he was wondering how i could love someone else right straight after our breakup "a matter of days only" and said that "i dont think u really loved me in the first place so thanks for everything".now its been a month without hearing from him.when i call him he never replies.i asked people about him and they said he seems ok .the problem is i sent him a couple of pics of me and some of my family members when we were together and im scared to death that he could misuse them ...im afraid if his not responding is the quietness before the storm !please tell me how i can ask him to delete them and if he said he did, how can i make sure he did!in case he got a chance to read this : i did love you and im not YET over you but u wanted it that way :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): hey guys ...that was me who posted the newest answer & im the one who posted the question but didnt know how to make a back response to ur answers :)
please read what i said & help :(!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): thanks Tanplante & AperfectSchism for taking the time to answer my Q .
i was deeply in love with him but im not sure whether he loved me or not though he used to treat me OK. he respected me though sometimes wouldnt respect my feelings about some sensitive issues..by looking back at the time when we were together , i can say now that misusing my pics is highly predictable & can possibly happen. im completely positive that he would misuse my pics maybe out of jealousy or just like he said "u didnt love me in the first place " doesnt that seem like he was threatening me ??.
getting hold of his computer is not an easy thing to do coz now he lives in another country :(
a week ago he visited the states but NO ONE told me & even went back before i could know :(
now he is online but with the "STEPPED OUT" thing ...& im pretty sure he doesnt wanna talk to me ..OH GOD i just want him to delete them ..im afraid of doing what u AperfectSchism said coz i think he would know that im scared & he may get PISSED OFF & really misuse them.
im thinking of letting go but i know that the FEARFUL idea about him misusing my pic will always haunt me. is there any other way?? i guess im over !
ps.he's been suffering from depression since even before we met .
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reader, AperfectSchism +, writes (27 January 2009):
 He probably won't misuse them, unless you specifically know that he would do something like that.
The best course of action would be to politely ask him to respect you, your family, your friends (etc) by deleting the photos from his phone, computer, and anywhere else they may be. If he asks why, just tell him, "Out of respect for me, could you just please get rid of them? I know it's a strange request, but I would truly appreciate it."
I hope this helps. :)
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