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writes:I had a baby and now I have stretch marks. Are men turned off by stretch marks?
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reader, PhenomonalWoman +, writes (29 September 2008):
No!! Men love REAL woman and REAL woman have stretch marks..most men have them also because of their muslces.... i have them and have a very nice figure and evrytime i mess with a bguy i ask them if it bothers them and they say no...
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 Nice one Uncle Trev. Thumbs up to that message, and if you don't mind, I'll use that in persuading people how change their attitude towards their appearance and make them feel better about themselves.
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (17 March 2008):
I hope nobody minds me continuing on my post here about the problem with stretch marks not being any more of a problem than anybody wants them to be.
I am going to disclose a small but very true story of what happened to a good friend of mine when we were both holidaying on a farm in the mid seventies when we were both about 12-13 years of age. The farmer on this farm was teaching us both how to milk a cow by hand and whilst we were both indulged in learning this new skill the cow suddenly kicked out and the force threw my friend across the milking parlour. The cow had kicked him in the side of his stomach and the hoof mark had actually cut the skin so he was taken to casualty. Anyway after a little attention he came back to the farm and we continued the rest of our break choosing not to try any more milking.
The scar looked a lot worse than it was and is still there today. Nevertheless, a few years later when we were going out looking to meet up with varius girls at various clubs in the mid eighties this scar was and had always remained a problem to my friend. He felt that he had to wear a shirt tucked into his trousers incase anybody ever noticed it. Even to the extent of avoiding to let anybody see it even in privacy if he was invited anywhere back for coffee so to say.
One evening we had all had a fair bit to drink and his shirt was hanging out of his trousers. We were talking to a group of girls and another of my friends pulled his shirt up to embarress him in front of these girls saying out loud this one comes as a patchwork quilt - you can still see the join here.
Seeing how bad the situation was for my friend I chimed in and said to this other friend "My mate here sustains a horrific injury in the Falklands conflict and all you can do is take the mickey out of him."
The reaction from the girls we were talking to was amazing and instantaneous. He had suddenly became the war hero and from these girls taking relatively little notice they were now all over him fighting for his undivided attention.
You see the scar was still there - it was exactly the same but he went at that moment from feeling embarressed and ashamed about the it to feeling very proud of it.
He is still proud of it today and he knows it doesn't cause a problem for him anymore - it never relly did, for the problem all the time was in his head and not upon his skin.
If any of you have a problem with any external mark or disfigament try to change the way you feel about it and you will find it will never be a problem to you or other people either.
Once my friend knew others respected and had no problem with the mark all his problems with the mark vanished.
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (13 March 2008):
 It depends...if you had a baby, I would hope that your significant other would love you unconditionally. If you are planning on seeing other men, then it is up to each man to decide. I don't think they are pretty to look at, and there were ways to help fade them during the pregnancy.
Depending upon your genetic makeup is to whether or not they will 'go away.'
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Well, my wife never had any children and has no stretch marks, but she has about a 4 inch scar on her tummy from an operation that she had in her mid 20s. That never turned me off in any way, so I think the answer is no, it won't turn him off. We are both over 60 now and don't look nearly as good as when in our 30s and neither one of us are turned off by the others body faults. I also dated a woman long ago who had a couple of kids. I suppose she had some stretch marks, but I never noticed.
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reader, youngandconfused90 +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Honey,
I wouldn't worry to much about it. I had my son very young and im scared for live! My stretch marks are pretty bad. I didn't take off my shirt for my boyfriend or even let him touch my stomach for a long time. I found out that my lack of confidence was more of a turn off then the marks.
PS
Bio Oil works like a charm I've been using it for 3weeks and I can already see the difference
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (11 March 2008):
The only thing I can think of that would turn a bloke off about stretch marks is if the lady concerned keeps on letting them get her down. It is more a question of how the woman reacts to them as opposed to the actual marks. If it doesn't get you down then it won't get the bloke down.
Any bloke who has a problem with them is not worth bothering with as a bloke being turned off by these is just showing himself to be the waste of space that he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): well i had a baby and ive them and my ex and my new guy doesnt mind but what you think guys are thinking are two differnt things guys mostly dont worry about that kind of thing unless there really shollow and they will probley be alone or never have kids because its rare if a women that has a baby that doesnt have strech marks
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reader, rockelle +, writes (11 March 2008):
 I do not know a women who doesn't have stretch marks. Thin women, fat women. Hell I even know some men who have stretch marks. To be honest I am sure men notice but I do not think that any reasonable man would be turned off by them.
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reader, angy +, writes (11 March 2008):
hi,i have stretchmarks which i think are really bad from pregnancy and i've lived with them now since i was 17 when i had my first child, I'm 40 now.My husband, who i was with from age 15 until a year ago, never ever put them down or said they were horrible, even when i got upset over them and tried to make him agree with me.He always encouraged me to wear a bikini on the beach and never a swimsuit so that the sun should get on to them. They do fade out and they become a part of you and any man who loves you wouldn't and shouldn't worry about them or let them bother him, if they do then you should question why he's with you.Think positively about your body and concentrate on your good points to show of, try and keep fairly slim, excercise and take care of yourself, this will help enormously to feel good about your appearance.I now have the attitude as i lie sunbathing in my bikini, if someone looks at my body and doesn't like what they see then they can simply look away! Don't let them bother you!Take care x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 March 2008):
 My husband calls them my "battle scars" and since he is responsible for them as well he damn well better not be turned off by them. Besides they represent that wonderful bundle of joy. They will fade and be less noticeable in time anyway. Don't sweat the small stuff, chickie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): Brutally honest? It is probably for most men a negative.Before you think your life is over and all men are pigs, ask yourselve this, would you be turned off a guy who has a few "negative" body marks? Beer bellies are a universal turn-off, would you stop having sex with a guy because he developed one?Same really with men and stretchmarks, sure he might prefer you without, but most likely you are the one making a far bigger deal of it then he is.It is your total package that counts, your body, your attitude, love. Only in beauty pagents would stretchmarks get you disqualified, not in the bedroom.Sorry if I sound mean, but I don't want to lie to you and say men don't notice or don't care, just that it ain't a deal breaker.
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