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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): It is purely mith... Boys and Girls can masturbate as required by their mind and body.. One one should force to do or forced to stop masturbation for Boys and Girls.. as both are human being.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): I am 50 years old. Maybe it is different now but my mother discouraged both the boys and girls in our family from masturbating. There wasn't a wink wink nod nod I know the boys are doing it and I am not saying anything.We were taught that sex is for marriage only and masturbation is sex. It wasn't seen as being acceptable for any of us.Girls have much more control than boys in this area and they often get better grades because they concentrate on what is important instead of masturbating like boys do.Boys need to be discouraged as much as possible. It really isn't seen as acceptable for boys to masturbate. It is more of a recognition that women know that boys are doing it all the time and can't help themselves. It is a recognition that boys should be ashamed of and embarrassed by.
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reader, ptownpetey87 +, writes (14 January 2008):
 everyone can masturbate!!! ITS HEALTHY!
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reader, core_confusion  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 Ok, theres two answeres to this one.
1) I dont think that it is seen as un acceptable for woment to masturbate anymore. Its natural and perfectly acceptable. There are always some people who are a bit squeamish and wont openly accept masturbation in either sex but they are in the minority and thankfully a dying breed.
2) In the past women have been unfairly repressed by a masculine socity which afforded acceptances to the male gender whilst denying them to the female. Whilst I dont think anyone could yet trully say that all scoieties treat the sexes as trully equal, it is on the way and much better than it has been. The idea that it is more acceptable for men than women - would that have been started and spread by a male dominated society by any chance?
Do it, enjoy it and dont feel bad about it.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (12 January 2008):
 In my honest opinion what's good for one is good for the other. Blokes do it. Girls do it. I don't see any problems with it.
Men and women both have their needs be they emotional, physical and sexual, and I think it is perfectly NORMAL for both mena nd women to "satisfy themselves".
I think this can also be applied to other situations too. Ok, we all know it appears to be more acceptable for men to "sow their wild oats" but if a girl were to sleep around she'd be branded a slut.
On the flip side, if a man cheats and has an affair he is branded a nasty piece of work (even more so if he's married with kids) and often the woman is seen as the victim. However, in the same situation if the woman has an affair or cheats, often, she's seen as the victim and simply ran into the arms of someone else.
Of course, I'm talking generally here. I'm not sure why this is to be honest although I have to say this isn't the way I think and for the record I don't agree with cheating but then I'm sure people have their reasons and it's not ANYONE'S POSITION TO JUDGE since you probably don't know the FULL story. There's ALWAYS 2 sides.
I beleive WHAT'S GOOD FOR ONE IS GOOD FOR THE OTHER so I wouldn't worry too much about it :)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 It is some old wives's tale to make the girls look good.Good girls don't masturbate.It comes from the Victorian era.
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reader, xylplxym +, writes (12 January 2008):
Ok this is not all that hard to figure out. The reason is because of the double standard existing in current society. Boys that are sexually active and open about it are usually given recognition but a girl who is just as sexually explicit is seen as a slut. So the same applies here. Its not a good thing its just truth.
Now I'm not going to go into the moral aspects of masturbating (cuz fyi it is immoral), but biologically speaking it is neither benifical nor detrementary so its not like you should do it. And as far as the natrual desire for sex, learning how to control it is an improtant part in maturing as a person; otherwise you are no better than the animals who have no free will.
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (12 January 2008):
 The answer to your question has more to do biology then sociology. It seems like a lot of people, especially liberated thinkers, love to think that women and men are the same. Notice how every one was quick to answer "Oh yeah, were both the same!"
I have to laugh here.
NO we are not the same! We are different! Men have penises, women have vaginas. Men have testosterone, women have estrogen. Women can be multi-orgasmic, while men have just a few orgasms at best. Women have periods, men don't. And by the way...we pretty much look differently too. Do I have to keep going on here? Boys and girls, men and women are different.....period!
Excuse me but I had to preface that before answering your question.
Where were we….oh yes….The real question is not why it’s more acceptable for boys to masturbate more than girls, but this: Why do boys masturbate more than girls? I can sum it up in one word…testosterone! Oh yeah...testosterone! It’s something we guys got loads of and women pretty much don’t. Women just don’t understand how much a role testosterone has in us men. Testosterone…let me describe it to any women who do not have an idea what I’m talking about. It’s like an engine…a machine inside us that you can’t turn off. Like an engine that never runs out of gas…it’s in idle even when we are not thinking about sex. It has been sited by some unknown source that we men think about sex once every ten seconds…maybe it’s eight, I don’t know. I agree with that. It’s pretty much how we are wired. But when women hear that they laugh….why? Well they just don’t understand. They easily scoff at men who say that as freaks. HA! Of course if they had testosterone they would know.
Some women actually have experienced through testosterone injections some incredible feelings of increased sexual desire. And they describe it exactly like I just did: a machine that won’t stop! And most of them would even say this: Now I know what men go through!
SO I just want to sum up my answer by saying it’s the increased DESIRE in us guys that makes us masturbate more than girls. And because of that it’s more socially ACCEPTABLE to think men masturbate more than women in the social sense. This is not politics, its not tradition, it’s not sexism or anything like that….its BIOLOGY.
This is not to say woman can’t or shouldn’t masturbate more than us. It’s just that plan and simple the level of desire for it in women is not the same as it is for us guys.
I hope what I have said here will illuminate a few out there.
Peace out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): I don't necessarily think it is any more socially acceptable for a guy to masturbate than it is for a girl. I mean if I heard some guy talking about masturbating I would think he is vulgar. What IS perhaps more socially acceptable is for guys to act like little players and all girl crazy and more openly talk about it. Whereas girls might be expected to be more subdued and "repressed." With this in mind, what is more acceptable is for a guy to be more open about his sexuality than a girl is. But this has to do with alot of things and not just masturbation. Guys are just "allowed" to be more open about everything that is taboo for girls to talk about. I mean even things like flatulence and gross humor and stuff like that, guys are just "supposed" to be open about that. They act gross and vulgar. But usually do so in the presence of other guys. That's just being a guy. That is society's expectation of them. What is also expected is that guys don't act gross and vulgar in front of girls. So while maybe it is acceptable in some circumstances it is also unacceptable in other circumstances. But it is totally cool for a girl to masturbate and most guys would even love to watch you do it. What is NOT necessarily cool is to talk about it openly in a vulgar way, especially in the presence of random guys. But the same goes with guys. They are not going to talk about it all vulgarly with you. Unless of course he is your boyfriend. I don't know, I hope you understood what I am saying.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (11 January 2008):
 That is an excellent question! And I believe the answer lies somewhere in the ignorace of our society to understand a woman's sexuality or believe that she actually likes sex (and orgasms with masterbation)! Men may lust after a bad girl, but they usually marry one that seems more "good", which locks us into the role of hiding some of our naughty side, and forever not talking about our sexual needs, masterbation and alot of other taboo things that men don't like to hear good girls talk about. These are the girls they want to take home to Mother! I don't know if it'll ever change. Maybe with your generation, men will begin to understand that we're all bad girls. We just pretend to be good so they'll want to marry us. Silly, I know. But it's sometimes true.
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reader, CaliGurl +, writes (11 January 2008):
yes its just more common for boys to be open about the fact that they masturbate. Both sexes do it but girls just haven't caught up with the boys as far as being so open about it (in general). I know there are girls out there who realize that its nothing out of the ordinary, but simply a lot of them still feel like its something better left unsaid.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Its ok for both. Thats just a sterotype. Proberly becuase noys will admit to masterbating, while some girls will not. In reality both do and its ok for both to do it.
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (11 January 2008):
 The reason why its more "acceptable" for boys to masterbate is because society allows for it. It is "normal" behavior for boys, boys are supposed to be more sexual beings than girls. Girls are not taught to masterbate or shown that it is okay, its taboo. Just another way to keep women in the dark when it comes to sex. The same reason why its more acceptable for a boy to not be a virgin when girls are expected to, the same reason why a man that has many sexual partners is not called a whore while women who are sexual deal with more scrutiny.
In all reality, it is healthy for both males and females as birdynumnums said.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (11 January 2008):
 It's a misconception, Dear. It's a perfectly normal habit for both men and women and the "safest sex" that there is! How else can you enjoy your sexuality if you don't know how your own body works? Practice makes perfect!
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