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anonymous
writes:hi, im badly needing some advice as what to do without going mad! i met a guy on holiday we got on really well. he wanted to keep the relationship going when i returned home and keep travelling to his country and him come to mine sometimes. i told him i wasnt prepared to have a long distance relationship, i couldnt cope with that. i said we could remain friends, he agreed and said yes we can be friends then. when i met him sometimes he did seem to be a bit insecure and test me maybe to see if i liked him, now he seeems to be doing it even more, like if i email him, he wont reply until i say ok then i wont contact you again and then he replys always with some excuse. and says he does want me to contact him. i think he likes the attention but he is driving me mad and i dont know how to deal with him? any ideas?
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reader, natmarie +, writes (10 August 2009):
 OMG! I so understand what you are going through!! I am going though exactly the same thing, and am just starting to 'fix myself'. I'm sure it must very painful for you to be going though this.. BUT, The only thing to do is not contact him at all, and see what he does. I know it's going to be very hard, and you will have to go 'cold turkey', but at lease that way you will get your answer as to if he is seiours or not. I mean, why should he be getting all this attention from you? He seems to be keeping you dangling , and I don;t think it is fair, but maybe he was uspet that you do not want to have an LDR. Set youself a dealine of sya tow weeks, and see what he deos. If he emails you beofre that - answer in a very brief non commital, but freinldy way, that way you will see what his feelingas are for you. I have decided never to contact my guy fomr aborad again - even though I am supposed to be going back over there next month. He is doing exactly the same, and I too am sick of it. It drags you down. Drop him for now, and see what happens. NatMarie x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): Well you said that you don't want a long distance relationship so you're contacting him to remain friends with him right? If this is the case why is it driving you mad? If I were you I wouldn't send that follow-up email saying you won't contact him again. If he truly wants to be your friend he will make some effort to stay in contact, and if he doesn't then he wouldn't make a very good friend anyway.
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