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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): Anonymous is right, don't do it until you are mature sexually, emotionally and financially.
Childhood is a terrible stage of life to waste on wanton pleasure that may emotionally damage your mental outlook for later on.
Put it off until you really know who you are as a person.
No, you don't know yourself yet. Some of us never get to know our true selves because we don't want to deal with the ramifications of those revelations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): PLEASE...DONT DO IT. you are way too young. but if u do(which u shouldn't) do it safe
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reader, scarredkitty  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 Ok, I know that nearly everyone that replied to your question has said don't have sex at your age, but I'm going to say it too. I'm 19 and still a virgin. I am with a boyfriend now and I know that I will not be mentally ready for sex until I'm married. Yes I have thought about it, no I didn't turn to porn for help and I have never masterbated in my life. Trust me, I have a friend who lost hers at age 8 and she was pregnate at age 12 with twins. Please, please concider waiting. Don't do it because you think you're ready for this, because I know that you aren't. No girl in her right mind would put her self in the kind of commitment at that age and not regret saving it for someone truely special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): The best "position" for first time sex is in a committed relationship, and with the financial resources to support a child.
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (22 July 2009):
 Your 13 you should not have sex.You should only have sex with someone if you are in a committed and loving relationship. At 13 you may think you are in love but you will grow up and regret it.If your boyfriend is older than you then he could be prosicuted for rape, any sexual activity with a person 13 and under even with consent is classed as rape. Wait until you are older babe, 13 is too young and do you really want a reputation for being cheep? Liviaxoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): Hey :D
i am 15 and i havent had sex yet and yes maybe i have thought about it but i havent.
I know you feel ready and you really want to do it and in the back of your mind you ar thinking if i dont have sex with him will he dump me ? dont think this okay just think about what you want
my friend lost her virginity at 13 and she is 16 now and she regrets it sooo much she sed after she had lost her virginity she just cried she couldent belive what she had done.
But if you choose to have sex than USE PROTECTION !
good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): Please don't have sex at your age, you are going to regret it. I know it may feel like you are in love with your boyfriend but when you get a bit older you'll realise what true strong feelings actually are and be ready to make the commitment then. I know someone who is nearly 40 and lost his virginity when he was 13 and still deeply regrets it even now.x
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reader, noonespecial2  +, writes (21 July 2009):
Hi there,
Good for you, what a wonderful time for you. I'm glad you feel ready, this may well be a lovely experience for you.
The best position for the first time is what they call the missionary position. You may already know this position but in case you don't, you lie on the bed and he lies on top. It is wise to purchase some condoms and lubrication. The lubrication helps to make it easier for him to insert his penis.
You may also want to discuss which position with your boyfriend so you can decide together and work out what you think would be the most comfortable position. There is some information on the web and books about different positions you could both look at.
I suggest you both shower together first, put some clean sheets on the bed, some music and candles and enjoy your first experience. It is a wonderful time.
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reader, goodcharlotte4life  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 ok i am 15 and just lost my virginity today but still your 13? how old is your boyfriend?? jeez i didnt even think about sex when i was 13. but you have 2 possiable outcomes...1. listen to the people that are telling you that you are too young..or2. if you do not listen to them and decide to do it then use protection and the best position for losing it is missionary...Still i think the best thing to do is wait till your a few years older...i'm not going to tell you to wait till marriage cause i didnt but at your age you dont really understand much about sex and love...plus if your boyfriend happens to be older than 16 you really shouldnt do it cause older guys are smart and they know that they can temp a young girl like you into having sex. you'll probley end up regreting it in the future. i mean come on that will most likely give you a bad reputation at school if someone knows you lost it at that young of an age. enjoy being a kid for now because trust me sex is no laughing matter and should be taken very seriously..sex is not suppose to always be about fun, it is suppose to be about love and if your boyfriend really wants you to have sex and is pressuring you to then i highly doubt he loves you. listen to these people cause we are only trying to help you and your future. hope you decide to make the right choice.xoxo-gcismylife4ever
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reader, daletom +, writes (21 July 2009):
In your situation, the best position is probably you sitting upright in a straight-backed chair - and your mother watching.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): Not to be rude....WHY ARE SOOOOO MANY TEENAGERS 13-16 HAVING SEX!? Sweetie, are you okay? Mentally you are ready.oky sure keep telling yourself that.Phisically, you cant be, your 13 years old.I am too.Omg i wanna have sex sooo bad, i just know that i have hormoans(that i cant spell lol) and they take over my body sometimes.Please dont.One day you'll regret it.
-Aj
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): Best position for you is standing up with your legs closed. Stop trying to have sex now, you will regret it very very much if you do. There are too many variables to know that the relationship with this person will last until it's time for you to get married. Having sex will increase your emotions with this person and then hurt considerably more when it's time to break up. I waited till I was married and it felt great to do so. I don't know how much I would've missed the first person I would've had sex with if I wasn't married to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): SEX at THIRTEEN?! what is the world coming to? i was 17 when i lost my virginity and i thought that was bad! go play with your barbies or something, isnt 'kissy catch' usually what you do when you have a boyfriend at 13? theres a fairly good chance you'll end up pregnant if you dont know what your doing........
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reader, Fay  +, writes (21 July 2009):
I was 18 and finished with school when i first had sex and it was with a steady boyfriend we were dating for a year already and i was on the pill and he used protection
and was really gentle but i never enjoyed it when he was done i bled a bit and asked him to do it again the evening but he done alot of 4play and when he was done i was convinced i hated sex and never enjoyed it again it made me feel sick and our position was missionary as well pls think this through carefully , anyone wants the first time to be remembered i'm not with that guy any longer we parted ways 3 year later because he cheated on me on our engagement party and i haven't spoken to him again and i wish i kept it for marriage , but it's too late now.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 You are tooyoung to even be thinking about sex. you need to fill your live with interests. What are boys going to think of you having sex at your age. You may not be with this boy for the rest of your live. Other boys will find out as they do talk and boost. You will be described as the village bike!
Respect yourself and save it for when you are much older. There is more to live than sex. Everyone has urges. You should find a way of releasing them without a boy.
What will happen to you and him if you were to become pregnant. At your age your body is too young to carry a child and it could kill you or your baby may be deformed.
Think about it!
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reader, shna  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 i think your a bit young to have sex . . everybodys guna tell you that . . believe me but its your choice an nobodys going to stop you . . my first time was missionary thats when the boy is on top ! make sure hes gently cos it will be uncomfortable an you wont feel it the second time so dont worry about that . . make sure on your first time that you dont have sex agai that night . . just as a precaution to vaginal infections because you skin will have ripped so alot of thrusting will make it very vunerable . . . make sure you are totally ready for it
gud luck have fun ;)
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reader, MIzzCC19 +, writes (20 July 2009):
 you are not old enough to be having sex by law but you know your own mind. I hope you are not doing this to please your boyfriend as this should be something that you want to do and not what you feel you need to do.
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