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writes:Last night my boyfriend asked my what does love mean to me. I told him it means everything to me .He said i dont understand. I told him its hard to describe love for me. Then he told me how can i love someone if i cant even describe what it is to me.Does this mean anything ? Reply to this Question
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reader, tomanypeoplehavethenameiwanthere  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 it is the strongest feeling in the world, like you are bound to that person forever, if you are really struggling. a strong desire to be with that person? you could always turn the questionarund to him sweetie :) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): There are many types of love ex: love with mother & daughter is different, love with father & son is different, love with friend to friend is different, love with b/f is different love the neighbors is different so it depends on person any how love with men to women/women to men is what always people consider, most of them don't even think of other than this b/f& g/f love this is how the world is. as for me people who think of only opposite sex is person, that is only for long time or short time sex purpose and nothing else only thing is the opposite person need to be cooperative otherwise it will be failure love story.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (29 January 2011):
 If he needs a quantitative answer, tell him love is funny chemicals in our brains that make us behave like idiots. It's evolution's own adaptive form of sexual attraction that leads to strong feelings of loyalty and affection, causing two people to be more likely to contribute to the upbringing of a child, thereby ensuring the child is less likely to be eaten by a bear.
More importantly, love is seperate from that "spark" many people claim to feel. The spark is just infatuation, the response from the oldest, most primitive parts of our brain to attractive stimuli. Real love comes from higher brain functions, from the attachment of shared experiences and belief in their value as a person, from the knowledge that the two of you are in this life together, as a team. It's trust, respect, and desire, with the looming threat of jealousy just to keep things interesting.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (29 January 2011):
 It is all too possible to love someone without being able to describe love itself. Love encircles a mass of emotion. Far too much for someone to easily explain exactly what love is and even if they could, I doubt anyone ever really knows what it is they are feeling. Anyone, adult or teenager could feel that they are 'in love' with someone and they could be right, that is what they feel and no one else can tell them that it is not love but then, sometimes someone else comes along and they find they feel someone more powerful than anything they have ever felt before which leads them to believe that this new feeling MUST be love. Love is not one emotion, love is not just action and it most definitely is not just thought. Love is the ineffable urge to protect, to hold, to be comforted in the presence of the loved one and to ensure that they love you too. . Like a death drive for the sorrowful. I suppose you could break it down into chemical basics but then, even when you do you realize that it is still so much more than that.
I hope that helps.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (29 January 2011):
 To love a person, first and foremost you must KNOW them personally. Lots of teenagers say they "love" a celebrity or are "in love" with them but of course this can't be, they love the idea of who they are but if they've never met them then it's just a crush or infatuation.
Real love on the other hand is very different. If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small. They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
Real love stands the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
~Eve~
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (29 January 2011):
 Love is not something that can be easily described. It is something that affects our emotions, and one person can feel it differently from another. I think what he wants to hear from you is how you feel when you love someone. Does it mean that you feel you want to spend every waking moment with them? Or maybe your heart skips a beat every time you kiss the person, or when you hold hands with them.
For example, for me, love means that I don't want to live without my fiance. I know I could live without him if I had to, but given the choice I wouldn't want do it. I hate leaving the house without giving him a kiss. I love the way his hands feel on my skin, even if it's just holding hands. I can't imagine kissing anyone else or being held by anyone else.
Hopefully that gives you some ideas on what to say to him.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (29 January 2011):
 Love is something that can't be characterized. It is an indescribable feeling within us that for 99.99% of us is the most important thing in the world. We fight for it, we even die for it yet no one knows how to truely describe it. It's almost easier to say that it is just magic but that doesn't get us anywhere.
I think what he means is he wants you to describe what you love about him because a defintion of love just isn't practical and I wouldn't expect it from someone if they had a life time to figure out.
I think that this means he is searching for something that he will not find until he stops searching and all you have to do is recognize when love is there or not.
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reader, just a female  +, writes (29 January 2011):
 dear a female, your boyfriend i think was testing you because alot of people just say i love you without really knowing what it means or even if they even mean it. Love i think is when you feel completely comfertable with the person you are with. when you couldnt imagin not being without them. i think the next time he asks you that answer with love to me means that i dont ever want to be with anyone else, it means that you are the guys that means the most to me, it means that i love everything about you and i would never judge you for something that meant alot to you. love is when you accept people for who they are and i accept you. i love you.i hope this has helped you.
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