A
male
age
26-29,
*ackalus
writes:Hey guys this isn't about relationships but this is now the only place I can get advice. My parents are going away for the weekend and my older sister is having people over. They are all gunna bring alcohol and some will bring fags. My sister asked me if I have ever been drunk before and I told her no. So she now wants me to get drunk tomorrow, should I do it and have a laugh or just keep out of it?
View related questions:
drunk Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Jackalus +, writes (15 April 2011):
Jackalus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys you helped a lot tonight I didn't drink anything and just stayed away from all of them
A
female
reader, DrPsych +, writes (15 April 2011):
 I think there are a couple of issues here. Your older sister should be protective of you, since you are younger and under-age. She maybe trying to get you drunk to humiliate you or because she gets a thrill from corrupting people. Alcohol isn't a great thing and caring-guy is right - someone needs a cool head. If things get out of hand and you, your sister, a party-goer or the neighbours ring the police and they find you or others(under 18) passed out on the floor then they are legally obliged to contact social services (it could be a child neglect/ abuse issue). This could cause all sorts of bother for your sister (as presumed guardian?) or parents. Teen parties are notorious for being chaotic as young people getting drunk in someone else's house usually spells trouble, lack of respect and a whole load of red wine and vomit on the floors. I have known parents who came back to find their houses half destroyed since teenagers tend to bring along 'friends of friends' who don't care, steal stuff and cause mayhem. As the sensible younger sister I suggest that you tell your parents what is about to happen if they don't know - the neighbours sure will if it gets noisy. If damage is done they may not even be able to make an insurance claim if they weren't at home supervising events at the time. If you don't feel able to snitch, put everything of value away in a locked room or cupboard. Laptops, phones, jewellery, ipods have a habit of growing legs at such events and walking out the door.
...............................
A
male
reader, Jackalus +, writes (15 April 2011):
Jackalus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey I'm 14 almost 15 if this helps and thanks guy I think I am going to leave the smoking but maybe have 1 drink and then go in a different place in the house.
...............................
A
male
reader, C. Grant  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 First-time drinking is a minefield. The problem is that drink creeps up, taps you on the shoulder like a friend, and then lays you out flat. In other words, it takes time for each drink to register. You start feeling good from the last one. Then you feel great, and have another. Then you feel invincible, and have another. By that point it's all catching up with you, and you're losing your judgment. If you're lucky you keep your head long enough to get to the john to puke: "talking to Ralph on the Great White Telephone". If you're less lucky, you puke on a girl you thought you were getting friendly with. If you're horribly unlucky you pass out on your back and drown in your own vomit. Not a particularly distinguished way to die, but it happens.
From the sounds of things, this isn't a good environment for you to learn how to drink. Far better to be supervised by someone who is paying attention to you and how drunk you're getting, which your sister will decidedly not be doing given that she's got a party going on.
And BTW I was very close to puking with my first cigarette, without the 'benefit' of alcohol. The two together? How cool do you think barfing in front of your sisters friends will be?
Just sayin'
...............................
A
female
reader, fishdish  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 I'd like to offer a different theory. Drunk does not have to be blackout vomit/stomach pumping drunk. You can be tipsy and still be in control.
It honestly sounds like you don't want to drink. If that's the case, you shouldn't be pressured by your sister to have 'a good time', just opt out, people have already given you some great tips.
If you do choose to drink however, you can drink responsibly to the point that you will NOT be as much as a mess as people are saying here. If I were you, I would limit your intake: do NOT mix drinks, stick with one, probably beer cause it will be more filling (ie. don't do beer then wine then shots,that will likely make you sick). Also, I would limit the number of drinks to 3. Personally, when I used to drink, I only really drank to the point of tipsiness, but NOT total incapacitation. 3 is enough. If I were you i would talk to your sister beforehand, and say, hey this is my limit and i'm sticking with it and as soon as she has another agenda, whether that be NOT 3 drinks, or mixing drinks, or getting her friends in on the mission to get you drunk, LEAVE. go to your room and chill. I would think your sister would have enough respect for you that she wouldn't want you to get ILL, she would just want you to be happy and maybe bond with her, but if she takes it in a different direction, you turn that direction right back around. She might think you're being a jerk, but you'd be responsible, which is commendable.
All I have to say about smoking is that combining smoking with drinking can be a bad idea if you haven't been exposed to either before. I know people who have vommed just from having their first cigarette.
Lastly, don't make this a regular thing. I don't know if you're closer to 13 or 15, but the younger you are, the more likely it is that drinking at this age could get you addicted, so that's why I tried to highlight moderation over obliteration. Stick to your guns, whichever your choice, have a backup plan (movies in your room, etc.), and I hope everything works out for the best.
...............................
A
male
reader, Capri2  +, writes (15 April 2011):
What's the fun in being drunk. Chances are they with laugh at you for being drunk. And you won't laugh at all. Specially the day after tomorrow.
Tell your sister you will be at the party. But you won't get drunk.
...............................
A
female
reader, Ima FreAk! +, writes (15 April 2011):
 Hiyaaa,Unless you wanna smoke your lungs till it's black or drink till your liver goes big then be my guest!Honestly STAY OUTTA IT! Trust me these parties are dangerous coz there gonna be fags and you could start smoking at the age of 13-15 which is kinda scary and drinking too. Someone could like smash things up.Go to your room do your homework, who am I kidding! Play games watch movies whatever keep your mind of this party and learn how to say NO! But do you wanna drink and have fags? Just asking outta curiosity looooool Hope my advice helps!Good luck!Lots of love,Ima FreAk!x
...............................
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 April 2011):
 do not do it.is there a friend you can spend the night with?
...............................
A
male
reader, The Realist +, writes (15 April 2011):
 It will be tempting but you are better off not drinking or smoking. I'm not saying stay away from the party, you are the best eyes and ears for your house and you can still have fun being the little brother. You don't want to get drunk and sick and not remember anything.
I'm not one to tell everyone to stay away from alcohol till your old enough but you sound like a smart guy so just tell them your not interested. Wait till you can experience it with people who will take care of you and share in the time. You can even still tell your friends you about the party. You'll remember it if you aren't drunk.
...............................
A
male
reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 April 2011):
Buddy, let me tell you straight not to do it. Parties like this can go wrong, and you might be the only sober one left to call someone if something does go wrong.
...............................
|
