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writes:So I have never been more confused in my life. I've known this guy for three years and we have always been good friends and recently he told me he's madly in love with me. I feel like I have feelings for him but my friends tell me I can do so much better because they think he's 'fat'. Some nights I cry because one day I think I love him and the next I just want time away from him. I just want to make up my mind somehow , do I stay and act like I'm always happy with this guy who would move mountains for me or do I just leave like I always end up doing?Thank you you guys. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your advice, your right & no matter what others say I'm going to stay with him because he treats me better than all the other guys on this planet. I love him & he loves me & that's all that matters.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 Well maybe they'll all marry thin and trim guys who will all get fat and/or all your friends will get fat.
While their self esteem diminishes yours will still be intact because you have values and the ability to see past the dressing.
My friend is married to a great gal, 5 years into it she was in a terrible motorcycle accident. She is a quadruped in a wheel chair and they're still together adding 5 more years of devotion and love. Fat somehow has little meaning for me when I consider humanity.
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (15 April 2011):
So you're going to let your friends destroy this bond with him just because he is overweight. If you can see past that, ignore your friends and things might work out with the guy.
If you cannot see past this, let go of the guy. He deserves someone who can see past the physical part.
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reader, Capri2 +, writes (15 April 2011):
Well. It doesn't matter what your friends think. Do you think you can do better than him. If you find him less attractive for being fat, you shouldn't date him. Sex appeal is integral part of a relationship. If there isn't any you should stay friends. And you should try to avoid accepting him for rejecting him later. If you appreciate him, don't hurt him.
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