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writes:i am at my wits end. I just dont know how to go about this situation, i am hoping i get some advice on what to do here i go .. I saw a pyschic the other day, and he was spot on about a lot of things that he could not possibly know of. but the one thing that is going over in my mind, is something he said about my man in my life. it was him he was talking about cause he told me things about him i could only know. he told me also he was very secretive and was hiding something from me to do with a woman. and then the pyschic said, oh no i am not going there. so it sounded as if it was something badhe just told me to tread carefully and whatever he tells me my man, it will be up to me if i can get my head round it to stay around and stay with my man. i am wondering what to do. do i ask my man if he his hiding something from me,? or do i just carry on and hope one day he tells me if there is anything?its really upset me this this is why i am on here once again, and dont think i could not say anything to him about this. my man knew i was seeing a psychic and just let me get on with it, but he does not know what i got told. and how would i start a conversation off about this.... please dont think i am crazy it was a one of the things i wish i had not done but glad i did.... Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 Before you saw the psychic did you have a gut feel that something was wrong with your relationship??
It does sound that you have trust issues, and a clever psychic works on body language, we dont realise that when they say something they watch your body language, and lets face it... no woman would like to know there is another woman in her man's life.
So in effect, this psychic has probably instilled the first seed of distrust in your mind. Not very nice, when this distrust could cause the end of a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): thanks again for all your answers and i cant not say anything like it would chew me up not to say anything and he would know there was something wrong to how i was acting i am sticking to what chigirl and mrg123 said and i am going to ask him is there anything he would like to tell me and see if he breaks down and says its not about trusting my man i trust him 101% and i am not thinking it is a affair either like chigirl said could be a few different things to do with a woman but i do have to ask him and i am seeing him this weekend i could just tell him what the pysichic said out right everthing he said or just not say a word and ask him does he have anything to tell me its LDR and i am looking to moving nearer to him but i dont want secrets like this popping up one thing my man said to me when we first met was anything i ever want to say to him thats bothering him to speak up and we have and always been honest about things with each other thanks again for your kind words and differencies but i do feel in my heart i need to try and get round this my pyshcic also said if and when my man does tell me this secret it will be up to me if i can stay if i can get my head round it if i cant then i would have to walk away see its not doing me any good i have not ate for the past few days with the worry and like i said wish i had not done it but glad i did thanks all but going to to go with the last two chigirl and mrg123
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 I can shoot your psychic if you want me to. Her lies are complicating your love life. That is bad.
Don't tell your boyfriend anything about this. He is probably seeing his mum (granted, that is a woman). You don't know if the crystal ball was a little dirty and the psychic when psycho about what she saw.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): i like you answer chgirl and i am glad of your answer too it all makes sense and its true and your right i do have to tell him what was said and then i am hoping he breaks down and tells me and might not be as bad as i am thinking but i do know that psychic was spot on about everything he told me he said i have a faulty plug socket in my bedroom i have to wiggle the plug and god to this honest truth he was right i do have to wiggle it and sometimes it flashes he told me my mum who he was speaking too i had to get a new one so i am but yes your right i do have to talk to my boyfriend about what he told me cause i feel i have too wont be easy but i have to say something cause like you said i wont be happy..thanks again for your answer.. can sleep a little better now
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): I get the feeling not trusting your man and thinking he was hiding something was what brought you to a psychic in the first place instead of dealing with the lack of trust in your relationship. The psychic picked up on your concern and gave you a little validation. You'd be surprised what we leak to other people in our body language and questions. Keeping quiet and saying nothing is what you've already been doing this whole time. The psychic just seems like another distraction and a buffer between you and the truth. If you have suspicions and distrust for your boyfriend and want to confront him, own your feelings so they come from you and not a 3rd person.
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (15 April 2011):
 Well, im more than open minded about these things so wouldn't dismiss it at all. If he wasnt going to go there though I do think he was remiss in mentioning it in the first place because you cant say that and not expect it to have a effect. Having said that he did and we have the situation that we do. His words kind of imply you will find out; and then be faced with the choice. How you find out though is something you have to be careful of. Rather than take this aggressive 'are you hiding something' line, id go with something softer 'is there anything youd like to tell me'. If you wade in a la the first line he wont say a word because you will put him on the defensive.He's obviously not going to tell you if its not good. Regardless of what people think of psychics there is a piece of mind issue here now and I think it will chew you up if you don't say something. He knew, does he have any kind of faith in it? As to starting the conversation...id start it by reporting how it went; again if you start it like an interrogation he wont say a word. Good luck.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 Don't ask questions you don't want to hear the answer to. That is a good rule to follow. Now your psychic could be right. He could be wrong. You probably assume your man is having an affair, but that might not be it. It could be something else, maybe he owes money to a woman? Maybe there's a business of his you do not know about? There could be many things. Or it could be in your imagination.
However, you believe in these things. Talk to your boyfriend. Just tell him what your psychic told you and see how he reacts. Then do as the psychic said and use your head to see if you can get around it. Walking around being suspicious wont give you a happy relationships, and in love there are no guarantees. You can not ever be 100% certain your boyfriend will not hide things from you. The only thing you can do is trust him.
But to get this out of your system and head, I suggest you tell him what you were told. If it comes down to trust I advice you to trust your boyfriend over what a psychic tells you. After all, you are in a relationship with your boyfriend, not your psychic.
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