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writes:Dear Cupid,I have already lost interest in having sex with my wife whom I think to be frigid and I had been masturbating about my sister-in-law whom I think to be horny as I saw her on many occasions masturbating with her pillow. I have plans to secretly approach my sister-in-law to propose sex with her, which I am struggling to pursue or not but my desire towards her is so intense already that I may not able to hold myself anymore. Please advise (again).Thanks,Desperate man
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): i agree with eyes. Furthermore I think this is a troll post. You've posted various versions of this same scenerio. If by some stretch this post IS real, I dont think you are seeking advice...but permission. Which anonymous gave. But not mal. Not in your previous post, not in this post, and not in the next one that you are probably penning the next one as we speak. so my answer is no joy for you.
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reader, long_john699 +, writes (21 December 2009):
long_john699 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhy save the marriage? - well it is all because of our beloved little children whom i would want to raise into a successful and happy individual.
in fact my sister-in-law's name is Joy.
i think my wife wouldn't be affected nor hurt as long as she doesn't know anything about it while my sister-in-law and I will be careful also to maintain the secret between us.
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reader, long_john699 +, writes (21 December 2009):
long_john699 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhy save the marriage? - well it is all due to our children whom i dearly love so much and would want to raise them into successful individuals.
in fact my sister-in-law's name is Joy.
i think my wife wouldn't be affected nor hurt as long as she doesn't know anything about it as my sister-in-law and I will be careful also to maintain our secret between us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): If you want to cheat, then go ahead. I'm not saying it's alright, but if anything, I think you should talk with your wife first and tell her that you're not really feeling it anymore. Cheating may, and highly will ruin your relationship and once she's gone, she'll be very hard to get back. Experiment with your wife, new positions, anything to bring the spark back. If nothing works, then tell her. If she doesn't really approve of anything, go ahead and cheat. But make sure that's really what you want. And if you do it, do it right and don't let her find out -.-
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reader, aprils  +, writes (16 December 2009):
hey, quit pretending to your wife, get out of the marriage then go for it, but take my word for it, my husnband does what your doing jerking off and ignores me, I'm way better looking then him treat him like a king, what esle do you sex crazed masterbating men want from us, be honest with her first, if you are married and jerking off thinking these things don't make yourself look worse file for divorce f you don't want that then fix your marriage and be with your wife, #1 give up the wacking off first if you want to keep your wife, it will most likley make you want her again, you maried her for a reason and apparently once wanted her, give it a try, or you will lose her for sure, to be frank you men are selfish that jerk off and don't pay attention to your good wives, my guess your wife is a good person,right? Get your marriage straight, give up the wacking and thinking about the other girl if you did chose her and she said yes to you, you would do it to her also,get my point?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): Hell no you should not cheat! Put some zing back into your sex, DO NOT cheat.
Do you know how much that would hurt her and with her sister, what if the sister goes and tells 'your wife'
Then you would be saying 'what the hell was I thinking?'
Not judging you just saying it would not be smart to cheat WITH HER SISTER
A.K.A
Degrassi
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 December 2009):
 I think this is a wind up, I'm not suckering for it. I'll bet the poster is the female anonymous.
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reader, torngirl  +, writes (16 December 2009):
I was recently cheated on and I went from wanting lots of kinky sex to not wanting sex at all.
Brings the spice back into the relationship does it? Get you kicked out the door more like, and bring jealousy into your wife's relationship with her sister, and destroy it should your sister-in-law be interested.
Of all the people you pick your wife's sister? Talk to your wife about how you might be able to bring back the 'spice' *without* cheating. Alternatively leave her because it sounds like she deserves a damn sight better than you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): Despite what Old-spinstah is telling you, cheating is not wrong if it takes place in a relationship of trust, between two consenting adults who are in love (at least for the time being.)
For some women, having their partner cheat on them is a liberating experience that brings spice back into the relationship.
An extra fling now and again can rekindle an old romance bogged down by the constant boredom and repetition of monogamy.
I guess I'm just asking for some of you other girls to give it a try before you judge. Try to be a little more fair and compassionate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): I'm a sister in law and I also masturbate with a pillow. Personally I would find it an incredible turn on to think that my brother in law was secretly masturbating and thinking of me instead of my sister. And I know that there are a lot of girls out there who think like me, but just are a little shy to do anything about it or tell anyone.
I would recommend that you start slow with her. Ease her into the new relationship. You could start trying by trying to find times where you two can be alone and just talk. Bring her gifts and shower her with attention and compliments just as you would with any other girl you wanted to make love to. Make sure that you wife never finds out or you guys could be in for some trouble so you'd better delete any evidence: photos or videos of you two making love - stuff like that ;)
Above all, just be yourself yourself and have a good time. You only live once. You don't want to miss out on all of life's joy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): Dear OP you posted about this same question on june 5, 2009...
www.dearcupid.org/.../do-you-think-my-sister-in-law-might.html
in that post you proceded to tell how you spied on her and watched her masterbate, etc. You must not have liked the advice, but i really dont think anyone is going to tell you to go for it. I personally think you have an overactive imagination at best and are a pervert at worst. mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): When in doubt, cheat. You'll never know which girl you like to have sex with until you try both. Her masturbating with a pillow is a good indication that she is ready to have you.
Remember, your wife isn't getting any more attractive so get on with it.
Keep us up to date on your progress with your sister in law.
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reader, old-spinstah +, writes (16 December 2009):
Cheating is wrong. I don't think you'll find any registered aunt on this site will tell you otherwise.
Cheating with your sister-in-law is even more wrong.
Divorce you wife if you must.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (16 December 2009):
 I think that you know that cheating is wrong.
Even if we were to say, ´´Go ahead and cheat, it´s 100% fine!´´... that wouldn´t alter the fact that it´s wrong.
Marriage means going before God (or whatever higher power you believe in) and promising to be faithful to someone, to love and to cherish.
In a marriage, there WILL be times when you both want out.
I ask you this: Do you truly love your wife?
You need to do some soul-searching, my friend.
if the answer is ´´no,`` then why fight to save the marriage?
If you love her, then don´t screw it up by losing her trust. you both need to see a marriage counselor or therapist.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 December 2009):
This is a very bad idea. First of all, you need to communicate with your wife. Talk to her and tell her your marriage is in trouble. Don't cheat, or you will destroy your marriage and maybe hurt both your wife and sister in law very much. You need to talk to your wife and tell her the marriage is in trouble. If it can't be fixed, divorce her. But don't cheat.
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reader, puds123  +, writes (16 December 2009):
I dont think cheating is the anwser just because a woman masterbates doesnt mean seh wants to have an affair with her brother in law. If your having problems ith your wife you need to talk to her about it not have sex with someone else. Cheating woulo ruin your marriage and ruin your wife relatioship with her sister its definately the wrong thing to do.
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