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writes:i met a girl in my school and i fell in love with her and i proposed her and she didn't gave response but i still love her but she doesn't. how can i tell her that i am in love with her
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reader, Heisenberg  +, writes (24 March 2011):
It's quite alright to be a little smitten with someone, at you age. Marriage is a bit of a long term situation, man. I don't really think it's something you should be planning at the ages of 16-17. Especially if it's one-sided. Focus on your studies. You'll be better off in the long run. Best of luck.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 March 2011):
 You asked her out, and she rejected you. It's time to move on. Telling someone you love them before you're even together is a bad habit. You love the idea of them, but you don't know them well enough to truely love them.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (24 March 2011):
You are very young to be proposing to a girl who does not respond! I suggest that you concentrate on your studies and get through high school before becoming so enthralled with a girl, proposing to her, and getting no response. I know I'd be "shocked" if a young guy professed his love and proposed. Have you two been dating? If so, then it would not be such a surprise. But you need to date many other classmates, partake in school activities, graduate from high school, make plans for either college and/or a job, and all that things that "growing up" entails. Also, this cannot be good for your ego to propose and not get a response Did she know you were serious? Or, were you? If so, I suggest some soul searching within you to know why you would propose at such a young age. Maybe you have some self-esteem issues to resolve, etc. Good luck to you.
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reader, adush +, writes (24 March 2011):
In my opinion she's showing more sense than you. Don't ruin her life and yours with love emotions right now. You nor her are capable / responsible enough to handle this at this age. Love brings joy, happiness and feelings of pure bliss. Also it brings along jealousy, suspicion at small things like why she doesn't answer your calls and torture when you are ignored. Speaking from experience. But at a higher age. I'm involved in a relationship now and it's an amazing feeling. I'm 26 now and we plan to marry in 4 yrs.. These emotions need a mature mind to handle. Or else you'll drive yourself crazy. Concentrate on making a career for yourself. Keep her freindship and become her good friend. Eventually things will work out if your destiny wills it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): She probably didn't reply because she was a little taken aback by the proposal especially as you're both still quite young! Maybe give her some space but clear the air and check she's okay with everythign that happened. Proposing to a girl isn't the only way of showing her you love them. We like chocolates, letters, little treats take her out for dinner as a treat. Just be really romantic, spontaneous and personal. But be careful not to overdo it or you can scare a girl away and in time if she feels the same way she'll hopefully tell you how she feels back but don't pressure her into it. I would say just enjoy the relationship and nights in/out etc but stay away from proposals for now. If a girl doesn't give her answer and doesn't talk about it after, she probably isn't ready. Even just a text in the morning to say Good Morning beautiful or asking how her day has been shows how much a guy cares. Good luck, i'm sure she'll really appreciate it!
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reader, whattodoabouther +, writes (24 March 2011):
Bro, you proposed to her. There is nothing more that you can do to tell you you love her. That is the be all end all right there. Marriage is for ever. She knows. My thoughts would be do not contact her in any way shape or form. Give her time to think about your request. If you are the man that she wants to spend the rest of her life with then she will come to you. You have placed the ball in her court. If she does not come back to you it is her decision. If she doesn't want to be with you then it is time for you to move on in life and be yourself. Doing that can be heart wrenching and devastating and may take a while. Once you have moved on then you can figure out your next steps in life. Just don't stop stepping. A wise yet comical friend of mine told me if you sit in the sands of time to long you won't leave footprints....just butt prints. Happy stepping man
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reader, lovelyeyes +, writes (24 March 2011):
Hi! Ok I'm gonna be honest w/u. I think u freaked her out and she thinks your crazy now. U need to act like it was a joke. I think u giys r way to young to get engaged. R u guys even dating? If not she probably is thinking it was to wierd for u to propose. U realy need to chill out. Give it time. U have nothing to lose. The first thing u need to do is apologise for even asking and try to move on from there. Try dating for a lil and when u r in a seriuose relationship in a few yrs ask her what she thinks about getting married in the near future and if she's comfortable then. Then u could propose. Good luck!
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reader, kaykay1989  +, writes (24 March 2011):
 Hello there,She may have not responded because she was shocked or maybe shes not quite ready for that much commitment and it's a lot to think about. Don't take it to much to heart.she's probably thinking the same thing that i'm thinking that your still young why rush into these things finish studying and concentrate on that, also how do you know that she doesn't like you in the same way? has she actually told you this? or are you just assuming because she hasn't responded.Unless you know this to be fact then just carry on dating as you were and sit her down and tell her how you feel and that you didn't mean to scare her off, you just wanted to show her how you felt and that you won't rush her and are happy to take things at a slow and steady pace. xoxox
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