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*TheAlmightyDuckx
writes:Qeustion for the men. What do you think about bigger women ? Would you ever date one, or do you prefer smaller women, do you find bigger women attractive or do find slim women more attractive ? I ask this because well im trying to start dating and ive kinda been rejected alot, i was wondering could it be because im abit on the chubby side ? Be honest with your answers im just kinda curious x Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 Some men will prefer slim women
some men will prefer chubby women
some men want women with blonde hair
some like redheads or brunettes
some like small breasts
some like large breasts
some like big butts (they cannot lie)
some do not...
EVERYONE has different taste that's why there is vanilla chocolate and strawberry....
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (28 October 2011):
I've always gone for someone who is an average weight but has the right curves in the right places. But above that, someone who is healthy and active.
You said be honest with your answers so regarding chubby or fat women, they are a massive turn off for me. The look, the feel of them, it just doesn't appeal to me at all.
You should be confident in your size for yourself, if you don't feel quite right then get on the exercise and eat less crap.
But if you are happy being chubby then that won't be a problem dating as there are plenty of guys who like bigger girls.
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reader, Abella +, writes (28 October 2011):
 Dear Almighty DuckI find your answers delightful and I imagine that you have a great quirky sense of humor too. And a interesting personality. I know you do it tough at times. But your great spirit shines through. Love can blossom when you least expect it. True the guys will go for the slim fit looking girls. That is a given. But check out the wedding pages and you will see a fair proportion of very proud very tickled pink grooms standing next to their brides. And the brides look wonderful and happy and in love and so happy to stand beside their new husband. And the said brides are large. Not just a little chubby, But large large. And they all look so happy and so beautfulAnd I will say that some girls can be very bitchy and catty about any girl an ounce bigger than them. But most guys see through this pettiness.But I also have a theory about love I have seen well matched couples who are still in love after many years of marriage and such happy couples tend to look more attractive in every way, Because they are in love. And I have seen apparently good looking couples, who learn later that they do not love each other, to look hagged and miserable after only a few years together. So my theory is that real true love with patience and trust and a few extra qualities results in a happier marriage where the bridge and groom look better and better every day. Even if they did not look "perfect" by shallow society standards.Keep up the great work Almighty Duck.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 Size 10-12 ? That's all? Then you are only too big to appear on Vogue covers, but perfectly normal for everyday's life.
Maybe it has to do with your age bracket , 13-15. At this age boys haven't had the time/ developped the self confidence for establishing a personal taste, so they will conform to the herd's tastes and fads. Today it is only
skinny girls and tomorrow will be only tattoed girls and the day after only platinum blondes etc.
Be patient, this changes and improves with age.Give it a few years and you'll see that your size won't be an issue.
Don't think though that physical perfection would shield you from rejection- pretty girls get rejected too,- rejection is a fact of life. You simply can't win them all and there will always be someone who is just not drawn to your physique or personality or mindset etc. Don't take it personally and just be yourself.
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (25 July 2011):
 To echo the others here if you are going to go about chaning your appearance do it because you want to and not because you think you nee to.
I am very attracted to girls with a little bit of meat on their bones. I am a pretty big guy and feel uncomfortable around rail thin women.
Also it all goes in how you carry yourself. If you are a size 16 wear clothes that make you look good. I trip over myself for women who dress right no matter what size they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): A girl is a girl
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (24 July 2011):
 Your still a girl, please god don't go trying to adjust yourself to what you think other people will refer. Millions of women will tell you that is a tried, tested and failed way of existing!
Each man/woman likes different traits. Some don't care whether you are 120lbs or 200lbs! As a bisexual woman I like a womanly figure, I'm not a fan of cuddling a bag of bones and to be honest anything under a size 10(uk) would be a turn off for me. As a size 5ft5 16(uk) I am overweight, but I am fit and healthy despite my weight, I run 5k every day and eat lots of good stuff.
Size 10-12 is a very desirable size to be. If you want to lose a bit of extra love handle then do it for yourself in a healthy way (limit some foods and increase activity).
Don't ever change yourself for another person.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (24 July 2011):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the question P.s im not majourly fat i am just abit overwieght im an adult size 10-12 so i would class myself as abit chubby not obese. Its just around here especially being a teenager, if your not really thin normanally boys don't take as much intrest in you. I think its rather un-fair but i guess thats just growing up for you. Once again thanks for your comments.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (24 July 2011):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAhh thankyou :) And yeah i know that personality always wins over looks. I was just wondering but thankyou for your advice :D
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 July 2011):
 Im bisexual, will my opinion do?
I like curvy women. They could very well be a bit on the chubby side. But with age you learn to apprechiate personality and character above how one looks in a photo. How you carry yourself, how you speak, if you're intelligent, how you resonate, if you are fascinating, all these things make a person interesting. Not their looks.
But yes, if I have to choose I prefect the chubber, however not overweight. Curves and feminine traits are desirable to me, but there are all kinds out there who prefer different things.
Woman to woman though. I am conviced it is only the chubby or fatter ones that get married. Over the years I've looked at the wedding pictures in the newspaper, and only about 1 out of 10 women are slim. Also I know 5 couples who got married, all in which the women were either fat or chubby. Apparently a man wants a model type girl for sex and to look hot, but he wants the rounder one to give birth to his children...
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (24 July 2011):
I am a woman too but I'd like to put in my two cents.
Yes, that could be part of the problem ; bigger women have their admirers too, but mainstream current tastes prevalently favour slimmer bodies. No point in whining about how men are shallow and superficial, in every society and age there has always been one body type that's considered hotter and better than the others. In Jane Austen's times, real beauties were supposed to have very narrow, sloping shoulders- a bottle shape- and an athletic , attractive (for us ) swimmer's body would have horrified people.
Also, it depends from what we put under the generic definition of " bigger " - bigger than what ? A fit, toned , well proportioned size 12 will still attract men even if she is far from the runway model type ; a walking mountain of flab will not. You've got to be honest with yourself and understand that " a bit chubby " is not the same as "morbidly obese " and won't elicit the same response. This is a case when you need to call a spade a spade. Calculate your BMI ,talk to your doctor, and see where you stand.
If you find out that your weight is really excessive, you still have two choices : working hard to reduce it ( which may be a choice to consider not so much for " catching " men, but for health reasons. ) Or decide that you don't care and wait patiently and serenely for someone who will like you precisely the way you are . As it is certainly possible , after all if only the hot bodies could find a partner... human race would have been extinct long time ago.
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (24 July 2011):
At 13-15 your body is still changing, and probably for the better. As I progressed from junior high to high school, it was interesting to see the flowering of two slightly overweight/formless girls who'd been in my classes from grade 7 onward when we were all 11 or 12. Both blossomed at around 15-16, and it was a lovely thing to see. The one I was friendliest with (we never dated or anything, just would chat in school now and again) told me it just sort of happened, without any real effort on her part, and she became very popular. She told me that the advantage was that she'd learned a lot watching people while she was 'invisible' and thus she could now determine which guys were only interested in her looks, rather than her, and treat them accordingly. So, just get on with life and things will turn out ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): Im a girl, but I can say from experience that there are some men who will only date one certain type of girl, be that slim, chubby, large breasted, blonde, brunette, whatever, and then there are the ones worth dating who will date the woman they are attracted to, who they get on well with, and whos personality and looks they find beautiful. Youre only young so dont worry too much about this, rejection is only part of what makes us stronger, and you will find someone who loves you for exactly who you are!
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reader, iluvsox +, writes (24 July 2011):
Every person is different. I know some people that will only date blond hair blue eyed people. I know a gentleman who will only date Christians. There's a woman I work with who refuses to date a guy who is older than her and she must be at least 4 years older than him.
The point is, everyone is different. I myself prefer women who are at least a head shorter than I am (around 5 feet tall), and it just so happens that these girls are athletic because I'm an athletic guy as well.
I would also like to point out that you're, at the maximum, 15 years old. You have an entire life to date and get married. However, If you're really that concerned with your weight, you could always join a sport and eat healthier overall.
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