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writes:How do I find a discreet sensual partner without ties?I am a mature man with longstanding domestic committments but with a still strong sexual interest. My partner has had no interest in lovemaking for a long time and I am very frustrated. I have no intention of disrupting my married life but is it possible to find a lady who is in similar circumstances and who would be amenable to a discreet friendly arrangement? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): I am a married women and have been for 15 years and have a very loving sexula relationship with my husband and belive that nobody can go through life without being tempted. I am sure my husband has and so long as I do not know the details then that is cool with me. So I suggest make it very discreet and although very difficult do not get involved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): just masturbate and your sex desire will go away and guess what noone gets hurt...and as soon as you orgasm u actually really think about what u were gonna do and then to yourself your like, thank god i did masturbate than just go mess up my life
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reader, Skeez +, writes (15 June 2007):
 "I am a mature man with longstanding domestic committments"
....sorry but no. Your not being mature at all in this situation. Talk to your wife about this. She is your wife after all and you say that you dont want to disrupt your marriage....well you kind of are if your intensions is to go and hav sex with another woman. Think how she will feel when she finds out youve been having sexual relations with someone else behind her back. I would imagine that you two would no longer be together...im sorry but thats just the way I see it. If you love your wife...talk to her about your concerns, get couple councelling.
Annalyse everything you hve just said in your question...it doesnt seem to fit at all.
Sought this out with YOUR wife and im sure youll both end up on the good side.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): I fully understand what your talking about. If you discuss this with your wife, if she agrees to the sex it is not the same if you HAVE to do it and if she doesn't she will ask you to leave. Don't disturb you home, THERE ARE people you can have sex with WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED. I am in an unhappy marriage and have been in for 15 years. I don't feel it is right to disturb my home life for my husband or my son. I am very discreet about my affairs and i have an affair with the same person for a long period of time. The one I have now has been going on for 4 years. I've learned it is much easier to have an affair with a married person. Single people tend to start getting feelings and you don't want that. Mine usually start with some flirting, then deeper and personal flirting. You have to be able to trust this person before you do anything with them. Like I was saying married people are more trusting. Single people have nothing to lose and don't always stay discreet like they said they would. When you can trust them, then if they feel the same way, then ask if they would ever cheat. Go from there. It has kept my marriage and homelife going for a long time and still continues on. After my son is 18, I might reconsider leaving, but for now everyone is happy this way. Good Luck!
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 I am with the more visceral responders to your question.
Be a man, not a passive-aggressive coward. Have the courage to talk this over with your wife. Make her aware that this is a problem for you and the marriage as a whole and offer to go to counselling. What's the worst that can happen? Your marriage may end, sure. But at least you were man enough to tackle the issue with your wife.
We'd welcome your feedback. Good luck and take care.
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reader, Say It Straight +, writes (14 June 2007):
Disrupting what MARRIAGE, Talk to your wife and tell her what you intend to do, see what she thinks, this is an AFFAIR that you are talking about.
If you cheat on your wife then you have no marriage, if she has a problem with sex then talk to her and both of you go and get some relationship help, maybe all you have to do is rekindle the relationship that you have, make her feel special,
Comunicate, if at the end of the day she decides that she does not want sex and is ok about you going elsewhere then do it but think first, how would you feel if the boot were on the other foot and your wife was off seeing other men,
You've a rocky road ahead I think.
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reader, eddie +, writes (14 June 2007):
 You already know the answer to this question. There are all kinds of people with little or no integrity. Finding one should be no problem.
If what you need is sex and your getting none at home, fix it or leave. "I have no intention of disrupting my married life"....Really? What happens when you get caught? Why do you want to spin a web of lies and create a complicated mess? Fix what you've got.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): There is no such thing as an extra-marital affair with no strings...I am telling you this is bad ground. I've been there, got the T-shirt, sent the post-card, DO NOT DO THIS...there is NEVER any strings involved.
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reader, Blue Rat +, writes (14 June 2007):
There are hundreds of dating/contact sites on the internet. Try some of those.
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reader, babydoll0713  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 As wrong as this question actually is I would assume you could just go to a bar.
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