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writes:So me and my hubby have been together for a year and 6 months.Weve been having serious issues over a staring problem Ive picked up out of nowhere. I seem to train myself to look at people without actually looking at them and I dont even realiZE it. He gets extremely upset because he belives im looking for a reason and of course it gets me upset because its never my intention to make him feel that way. I love this man with all my heart and soul, but how can I prove to him that I dont do it on purpose? How can I show him clarity? am I the only one with this problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2012): If you have trained yourself to stare, cant you now train yourself NOT to stare? It seems a strange problem to have developed so suddenly. It is usually associated with shyness and lack of confidence. Staring is not only uncomfortable for you and your partner but might also be very uncomfortable for the people you find yourself staring at. As with all habits. It will need to be `broken` and you are the only one who can do that. My partner used to stare and he didnt know why. It had always been a major problem for him apparently and he said it led to a number of fights with guys. Either because he was staring at them and they felt threatened and confronted him. Or he was staring at their partners and they became jealous and challenged him.Generally it is socially unacceptable to stare because it can easily be viewed as aggressive or sexual. And most strangers are made uncomfortable by such blatant `interest`.My partner has trained himself to stop doing it. You have to WANT to stop and work at it, then you will stop doing it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2012): We all go off in wee day dreams now & then.
Have to explained to him that you aren't checking people out?
In my personal opinion I think this behaviour is really controlling.
Do you argue about it?
If so then I'd see it as a big issue of him being controlling.
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 Are you "staring" at other men or men and women? If it causing this much of a problem you need to try and stop. Everytime you find yourself staring to stare, stop.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 April 2012):
 do you mean you are zoning out when it appears you are looking at someone?
is it him that you are doing this too
or are you doing it and he thinks you are looking at other men...
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