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writes:I was surprised and a bit shocked by some of the responses to A recent post about a guy wanting to know if women found it attractive when a guys junk happens to show. Several of the women say that they would slap the guy in the face if his junk happened to peek out.Do you all think that it's OK to strike another person in the face if they do something you find offensive? What if it is inadvertent? Even if the guy mistakenly believes this might attract or be exciting to a woman, does it really give her the right to strike him in the face?I have to admit, if I was unexpectantly hit in the face, I may well just strike back w/o even thinking. And I can tell you gals that if I were to strike you in the face, there is a good chance of some significant damage (broken nose, busted lip, etc).It's just shocking to me that you not only think it is a female prerogative to strike a man in the face if she feels in some way offended - you also blindly assume a man has no right to strike back, even in self defense, or perhaps as a knee-jerk instantaneous reaction. Weird... Reply to this Question
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 907queen, we're not talking about our other halves, we're talking about a random stranger doing it in public. I love the sight of my fiances at any time, but wouldn't if it was in public towards others. Nor would i like it if it was a stranger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): I dnt knw if i would slap u because i wouldnt want to get close to u. Whn i was younger i sall a guy do tht and my mom and dad said it was a preditor? Or somethng like that.
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reader, Beingblack  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 How on earth can a man have his penis and/or balls on display by accident? BY ACCIDENT??? Hahahaha!!! Come on now.
I'm in my mid forties, and even after all this time, I would KNOW if I was hanging outside of my jeans or trousers, simply by the sensitivity of the thing. The 'put away' or 'zip up' reflex is second nature by the age of around 6 or 7. Who are you trying to fool? What man, in his right mind, would believe, mistakenly or otherwise, that the sight of his limp ass penis hanging from his fly would be attractive or exciting?
If I was walking around in central London, or in a superstore hanging out, I would EXPECT to be slapped! Who knows, maybe even laughed at! I would expect the police to arrest me on the grounds of complete insanity, and take my sad ass to jail.
Women on the whole, do not find that sort of thing attractive, so best you don't do it. And there is NO WAY you can object to a womans reaction to this particular offensive action. Who is the 'weird' one here ......
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reader, Nime +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Would I slap a guy for showing his junk accidentally? No. It's obvious when it's accidental. Would I slap a guy for deliberately showing his junk if he's 10 feet away from me? No, I'd walk away.
Would I slap a guy for moving into my personal space and showing me his junk? Well, a man did this to me once while blatantly holding open a porn magazine and grabbing himself. I am a boxer; I smashed his face.
Your passive-aggressive, vaguely threatening post here is just disturbing. You're clearly angry that none of the women find your exhibitionism a turn on. Believe me, the 14 year old girls at the pool do not find it sexy that a middle aged man is examining their private parts, nor do they want anything to do with yours. You need therapy.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (21 October 2010):
 I seriously doubt anybody would run up and slap a dude with his junk out if its accidental... but when would it EVER be accidental??
And if you flash somebody- you deserve a slap.
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reader, 907.Queen +, writes (21 October 2010):
Uhm..well i have a boyfriend..and i find it particularly hot when my guys junk flashes me...he doesnt even notice...so im like babe..i can see your penis..lol and it usually leads to jokes and kisses..so i dont know what the hell is wrong with you ppl who dont like it!
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reader, smiliek +, writes (21 October 2010):
ummm yeah i was one who said i'd 'be more likely to slap you then like it' As in... Seeing that intentionally, i wouldn't enjoy it. If someone flashed me in that way my first concern would be that they would attempt rape. Hence i'd fight or flight. If it was an accident, and thats happened to me before, i avert my eyes and make any excuse to leave. Calm down buddy. You can see no woman likes what you wanna do
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Isn't it interesting that not a single woman found your peeking pecker idea the slightest bit erotic? Kinda burst that bubble didn't it!?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Besides, an outlandish act such as flashing would most likely get a last minute response in return...We're shocked, revolted we don't think but act and defend ourselves.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Uh..aren't you the same poster who asked about the "flashing"??? I wasn't one of those who said they'd slap the guy..but I'd sure call him a creep, a jerk, and go looking for a policeman..Trust me..most women DO NOT want to be out in public and see a man's junk..OK?? PERIOD. There's nothing sexy about a total stranger showing his goods. I don't condone violence in any way shape or form..and after being married to an abusive spouse, if anyone had the right to hit back, its me..and still I wouldn't. But please stop assuming women get off on seeing a total stranger's privates. We don't.
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reader, Napalm_Angelripper  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 I've also, unfortunately, been in the position of having a man masturbate in front of me while watching me, ON A SUBWAY CART, while feebly trying to cover up his genitals with a briefcase. Needless to say, it was also FAR from arousing at all. I was so shocked and disturbed, I just got up and went to the other side of the cart. Although it was kind of humorous, and my friends and I can't help but laugh at the incredulity of it, I'm pretty traumatized by any man who walks into the metro cart with a brief case.If it was accidental, though ... I don't know how exactly it could be accidental ... I would be more understanding of course, albeit still disgusted. I wouldn't go up and slap the guy in the face, as he is clearly deranged in some way and isn't thinking right ... if anything, I would feel bad for him ... I don't know how someone in their right mind could show their junk in public or masturbate ... I mean, honestly, I just don't think that as a guy, you could 'accidentally' show your genitals ... unless you time travel back to the '70s and wear those eerie short shorts guys used to wear ... *shudder*-The Resident Metalhead
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 October 2010):
If a flasher, flashed his junk to me in close proximity, I would most definitely scream, or slap him. He's committing a crime. Do I expect to be hit back? Well if he's capable of exposing himself in public, he's capable of anything.So sure I'd brace myself.
Of course if a man's balls peeked out and I got offended, it's my fault for looking. Now, if he did it on purpose such as what I mentioned above, depending on the woman, he could be slapped for his actions. That's just inappropriate and uninviting. If she doesn't react back, then he thinks it's perfectly fine to go around flashing his stuff and will go on to claim more victims. We don't live in a ball flashing world..That's 2 women they would POTENTIALLY slap a man..they would act quickly.
Now, you're telling me that if a woman slapped you in the face, there's a great chance you would break her nose in return? How does that compare? She would come no where close to the damage she's getting in return. Did your mother not tell you growing up that you don't hit women? I do understand there are some men out there if the woman has the balls to hit you, she better brace her self for something in return. Is it right to retaliate? Someone hits you, you hit them back, it goes on and on, who stops it?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 I'm hoping to hear that the man has reconsidered his idea to flash his genitals, and that he doesn't try to look up skirts, that's what I'm hoping for. If he's not out there trying to drum up sexual interest in unsuspecting women, he's much less likely to be the victim of an inadvertent reaction like a scream accompanied by a slap to the face.
This reminds me of the time I had a willy wagger encounter, some pervert in a pickup thought I would enjoy watching him wank his willy as I was coming out of a shop. I went in and got the friendly policement and made a report, that's how exciting it was for me. Blech. I don't know what I would have done had he been in striking distance. I think the perve thought it was hot but I promise it was the opposite of arousing. It was disgusting. Just thinking about it now makes me want to take a shower, yuck. Like Eyeswideopen said in that other post, it kinda makes you throw up in your mouth a bit. Blech.
It was kind of funny though, the policeman assumed I was a wreck and emotionally upset and actually I was furious and revolted.
Maybe these poor guys are deluded into thinking that it's sexy for women to see this. As that other post so plainly shows, women as a rule consider it an assault rather than a sexy moment. Watch out you don't get arrested, this kind of thing is what gets men on the registry of sex offenders.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): No, as a girl I would not slap a guy in the face. No one deserves to be physically assaulted unless that is your only recourse. I would, however, think he was creepy if by some strange gravity defying condition his junk "accidentally" sprung from his pants, like some kind of penis malfunction. I have seen a guy try to remove his penis from his pants when he is trying to "relieve" himself and believe me it doesn't just pop out accidentally. So forget the argument that a guy's junk "happens to show". Now I have to admit that as a healthy young girl, I have peeked up a guy's gym shorts but that is not the same thing as it jumping out at you. The key is subtlety.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 October 2010):
"If I caught a guy trying to look up my skirt, I would immediately label him as a perve and either slap him, yell at him, or both."
"If i saw someone looking (as it sounds you do) i'd more likely slap you then feel good because of it."
Are those the 'several' responses (2 out of 29) you are refering to?
Nowhere do they say they'd slap a man for showing his genitals. The first one is reacting to your comment about having a guy try to look up her skirt, which is a gross invasion of privacy.
The second one says she's more likely to slap than to feel good, not that she WOULD slap.
I think you're a little upset that the women weren't thrilled at the idea of looking at your genitals and you are lashing out a bit.
Of course it's wrong to hit someone.
It's also wrong to invade their privacy and to flash your genitals.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (21 October 2010):
 basically having you're cock "slip" out is indecent exposure and the only person who will get aroused by that is the one who owns the penis in question. asking women if they like being flashed will always elicit a negative response...
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reader, lacrymosa_652 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 I never saw the original post you mentioned, but no I don't think it's right for a woman to slap a man for that reason. You're right, what if it was just accidentally on show?
To be honest I think it's unfair that women seem to get away with hitting men and if it were vice versa it would be terrible. When I say I believe in equal opportunities, I mean it in every aspect, and don't think women should get away with physically hurting men anymore than men do [and they shouldn't - get away with it i mean].
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