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anonymous
writes:A girl i liked rejected me because of my height, i am 5'7 and i never thought twice about my height, it hurt because i cant change how i was born.my question is are all girls that way? I was very good to this girl in every way. Reply to this Question
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reader, LittleMissy  +, writes (17 February 2011):
Your height is about average for a male your age so dont let that bother you. Not all girls are shallow no, but some like a taller boyfriend to feel secure. You didnt state her height but She was maybe insecure about being taller than you as as far as I can see your height is normal.
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (17 February 2011):
 At a whopping five foot four (me) and my bf being six foot one, sometimes I wish he was shorter but I love him just the same.
No, not all women will treat you this way, she sounds very shallow and I think you need to forget anything she has said to you and continue on in your life with no regard to your height.
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reader, Sabrena  +, writes (17 February 2011):
i dated a guy who was short i did that because i liked him as he had really good qualities he was the most amazing guy ever but that relationship lasted for 2 weeks as i was not attracted to him. I didnt tell him i didnt want him because of his height i thought that was harsh i jst broke up by other means. For a while i was sad because i thought i was being shallow but later i realise that i did the right thing. I deserve to be with someone am attracted to and more so that man deserves a woman who loves him and cant imagine anyone else. Would you like it if she stayed with you and looked at every tall guy that walked in the door, or her to be unhappy? no i dont think so, as much as you would like to blame her dont just like u shouldnt blame ur height. There will be a girl who will love u for who u r and who will make ur life full of happiness so just keep ur eyes out for that girl. She could already be in ur life and u havent realised yet u never know. goodluck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): Ever consider that this was just a nice let down speech? Trust me, if she really liked you, she wouldn't give a damn about your height. Or, she is just a shallow bitch and you're better off without her.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 February 2011):
 That's exactly what I am saying !
Same as not only beautiful girls find boyfriends, so also not only tall guys find girlfriends.
Maybe this particular girl is only attracted to tall guys, and,right or wrong that it may be , there's not much you can do about it. But other girls will not care about height ; everybody is different and tastes vary .
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI mean i would think every man would want a beyonce or a kim kardashian but men are not superficial as women are. And yet you the best things in life are the unexpected
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLook being fat thats some thing a person can change if they wanted i dont believe in preferences if so only beautiful girls would have boyfriends and husbands. Because not all women are beautiful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): To understand this phenomena: height for females corresponds to weight for males. It's less so "preference" and moreso biological imperative(shaped by your society's standard of beauty). It really doesn't fall into the same category as hair color, eye color, or other physical attributes.
Ask yourself do men only date slim girls? The answer is, of course, no. But put any two girls together and chances are that the slimmer girl will be rated most attractive. You have outliers as well(men who are instantly attracted to chubby girls or girls who are attracted to short men), but the general concept is correct.
To answer your question: most, if not all girls, prefer taller men on some level. This is your disadvantage. But, like all things in life, you have advantages. Maybe you are really intelligent, very musical, naturally funny, etc...
I am shorter than you, btw, and have learned all this from experience. Ignore all the "your dream girl will come someday" BS and use what you have. You'll be a lot happier if you ignore political correctness and face the issue head on.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (17 February 2011):
Of course not ! Otherwise only the tall guys would have girlfriends and wives, and obviously it is not so !
Now, though, I would have to tell you that this girl was shallow and superficial and that what really counts it's the heart of a person, etc. etc.
True, but, let's face it : people have personal preferences , who make them attracted or not attracted to members of the opposite sex. And without a feeling of attraction you are not so keen to start a relationship.
Maybe you too have your preferences and prefer slim girls to fat ones, or long haired ones to short haired ones, etc. etc.
It's just preferences, that's all, everybody has their own, so don't be upset and don't lose your confidence over this, there are other girls out there that do not care at all about height, or even prefer smaller guys.
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (17 February 2011):
 Sometimes women who are more muscular, big boned or over weight feel more interested in taller men, because bigger men make them feel more feminine. It's a security thing most women can identify with, so try dating women shorter than you.
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