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writes:Heyyah Every1 I dont no what to do it was my party on sataday and me and my boyfriend had an arguement and 1 of his best friends jordan, told me to come up stairs so he could talk to me ( we were both drunk ) and he were telling me to talk to dale ( my boyfriend ) and try sort it out and i said il leave it untill things have calmed downAnyway i lied down then he said how gorgous i looked which was sweet and then he went to kiss me and i kissed him back and then we ended up having sex but i dont remember this but aparently some of my friends walked in and saw us and plus jordan told meThe problem is we didnt use protection and i dont think he pulled out before cumming inside me and brad who is another 1 of my friends said he smelt of spunk alot Im so scared i told my boyfriend last night it was just a kiss ,, but i want to tell him the truth how can i do this it meant nothing and il make sure it will happen again Please any advise on what to do Anyadvisers be greatly apricioated
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): tELL Your boyfriend, i'm sure he'll dump you but still you have to tell him.
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reader, ugh101  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 oh btw happy late b-day!
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reader, ugh101 +, writes (13 July 2009):
If it makes you feel any better mi bestfrend just did that. Just a lil diffrent.
Ok she went out wit Austin for a while and he still has feelings for her and thinks that he is able to control her, but he id tlkin to another girl.
She and his best friend were over at Sarahs house (her best friend on vacaction) ANd things went too far. And they had sex witout protection and he pulled out before he came.
She told austin. He called her selective wrds and put her down. But she knew that she would never be with austin again so she let her self go. And i think that everythin will turn out fine.
Best Of LuckXX
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reader, Harry Castle +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Grimm, that was VERY harsh on a young lady.
I hear what you say, but how responsible, mature and full of integrity were you at her age?
Harry.
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reader, Harry Castle +, writes (13 July 2009):
Hi, Danii.
Um, you have landed in a mess!
Firsdt thing, as has already been suggested - solve the immediate problem with the morning after pill. It won't be pleasant, by the way, but better than a pregnancy.
As "bows" and others say - tell him! You can be sure that if you don't, "well-wishers" will do it for you!
I'm not sure about the rape issue, if you wanted to pursue it?
No witnesses and just your word against his? I actually think he has more to fear from Dale than the police....
Good luck with all this, Danii - you know where I am if you want to talk more.
Harry.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Look at your post! WTF?Your responses to the other posters tell us how remorseful you really are. If you were really remorseful, you'd be accepting and understanding of the criticism that Snowy Water and now I am about to heap upon you, If you were truly remorseful, you'd stand here and take it and understand why. But you are only worried about saving your own skin because you already lied to him, and he is going to find out with or without your admission of guilt. And you are busted!Think about your clueless boyfriend whom you love so much. You love this guy so much that somebody tells you that you are good looking and BOOM,,,,your legs are spread.And of all the things, you have the audacity to insult your boyfriend(whom you haven't told) by telling us (and him obviously)that this meant nothing? Let me get this straight...you pull this crap and it meant NOTHING?I would pay to see that reaction when you tell him that after your argument, that you were just so upset that you simply felt that the best way to feel better about yourself was to screw another guy? Let alone that it just didn't mean anything?Are you this delusional? Do anyone of you who see this as a Mistake understand what bullshit that really is? Did she trip onto this guys cock and say "OOPS your cock is in the way"?Own what you did, tell your boyfriend the truth(all of it) and put yourself at his mercy. You lost any right to have a decision in the future of the relationship the minute you spread your legs.And make sure you get tested for an STD before you sleep with anyone else.And for those of you who are telling this person that she should just tell her boyfriend that it was a mistake or that she was drunk, you know how I feel about that......Try getting cheated on by someone you love,destroys your life and everything you think is good in that person and then come back to me and tell me that you accept your significant other's excuse that it was a mistake.
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reader, Cale03 +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Kinda late to anwser this but not to imply anything but i think a guys P.O.V. is needed. You're doin the right thing telling him i know you think he'll be mad, or upset, or angery, ect. but you need to tell him and if i we're you i'd do it in person it's easier to forgive if you can see the emotion of it in their eyes and now for the guy opinion i've been cheated on and she told me and she did it face to face and i could see she ment she was sorry i loved here and she loved me i like to think she moved though this is rambling but if he believes you mean it and he loves you. your fine. and if you hid that and he finds out i think you can say goodbye because thats what i'd do and have done.
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reader, Danii-N-Dale +, writes (13 July 2009):
Danii-N-Dale is verified as being by the original poster of the question SnowyWater can i say i came for advise not a lecture obviously i didnt want it to happen i love my boyfriend more than ever i am disgusted with my self and feel so dirty
and im going to tell my boyfriend When i see him ,, It will never happen again !:((
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reader, Danii-N-Dale +, writes (13 July 2009):
Danii-N-Dale is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou x ilovebowsandcherries x U really understood and have helped me thanks sweetie xx
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reader, Danii-N-Dale +, writes (13 July 2009):
Danii-N-Dale is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI mean make sure it WONT happen again :)
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reader, SnowyWater +, writes (13 July 2009):
How on earth do you think this was o.k. to do...? For him and for you? Do you remember the sex yourself? did you want it? if not, if you didn't consent then this was a sexual assault, as this guy as used the fact that you were too drunk to consent as a permission to just do it to you. This is not right.
Take some damn responsibility for your body!!!!! You cannot go around and just let someone sleep with you even when you don't really want it or when you are too drunk to consent. Get some counseling and go to a sexual health clinic there are many in the UK- you will get a morning after pill and a sexual health check up. You can get the morning after pill in a pharmacy as well for around 20 pounds (it is free from a clinic)- the pill will work for up to 3 days after unprotected sex, so you still have time today to take it. Run to the pharmacy and buy it if you can, you still have time today, or go to a clinic if there is one in your area.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Honey! just tell him otherwise he'll find out from someone else and you may EVEN be pregnant so either way you're going to have to tell him.
just say you were upset because you guys argued! and he wanted to talk to you and you were both drunk and things just happened tell him that you don't even remember having sex with him but people have said you have and that you would never have initiated it should you have been sober!
you need to make him understand it was a mistake and then the ball will be in his court as to whether or not he wants to continue this further with you he'll be crushed of course but at least you'll have told him the truth!
otherwise this could eat away at you.
hope this helps sugar!
message me you want to talk further!
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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