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writes: Hi everyone, I wondered if anyone can help me. I am 16 and I am really friendly with a 32 year old male teacher at my school. He is like a best friend to me he has helped me through some really tough times in my life. I tell him everything, but I don't know if I should tell him that I fancy him. I feel that I am keeping it from him. I don't want it to change anything between us. Please help me. Should I tell him or not? thank you xx
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reader, teencrushoffender  +, writes (19 March 2011):
 I am in the same boat as you right now.I know what I'm feeling is normal , you can't help how you feel right? You just have to remember the teacher/pupil boundary. I feel attached to my chem teacher at the moment who I have had for nearly 2 years now. He has enthused me about the subject and I really enjoy his company. When I see him it lights up my day , even a simple smile or 'hello' makes me feel warm inside as it makes me think that he cares.But the reality is :1. He's my teacher.2. He's about 25 years older than me.3. He's married with kids , one of which is older than me already. I know my feelings are just a phase and nothing will ever happen between us so I keep it secret that I fancy him, but I guess he already knows about me liking him and just has to push all these schoolgirl crushes to the back of his mind as he is after all, a professional. I have decided to go somewhere else for sixth form and continue the subject as I don't want to become too attached and needy and find I don't like the subject , I just like him. This would be disastrous to my future.But if you think you have something special, there is only one way to find out if it is true. Just don't put all your eggs in one basket.Good Luck in Love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): i know exactly how you feel, i fancy my old history and literally it has turned into an obsession. my bff threatens to tell my parents but i just cant stop thinking bout him.
do not tell him is my advice it can really mess things up :s
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Hey :)I fancy my RE teacher, and again I'm not even sure why, it would be understandable it everyone thought he was fit but it's just me, he wears skin tight cardys/jumpers and he always looks sexy.;)He has stubble which I really like because it makes him even better looking. But his eyes, they are perfect. absolute perfection. The nicest blue I have ever seen! He always has sex hair:)When I'm in class he always asks me questions and I challenge him and he enjoys it because he always smiles when I'm around (he never usually smiles) Out of all my class he always remembers my name, and I'm pretty sure he has been staring down my cleavage. I really want to go out with him but in reality he is in his 20's and probably has a girlfriend.I wouldn't tell him if I were you, how awkward will that be? and all the teachers will find out as well as your parents :}good luckxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): i fancy a science teacher at my school.
he's a lot older, but he's gorgeous.
i think the intelligence is veryyyyy attractive too. ;)
don't tell the teacher!! you could get them into serious trouble, they could lose there job, even get put in prison.
just keep it to yourself and enjoy the days.. :')
good luck! :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): hey :)
I fancy my RE teacher, and I don't even know why, he hasn't exactly got the best physique, he has sexy stubble though ;)
and the most beautiful blue eyes in the world, he is in his 20's and seems so kind :) Although I would like to date him I'm 13 and it is illegal, I suggest NOT to tell him, how embarrassing will it be? How would you tell him? And afterwords he would probably feel pity for you.
Good luckxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): i thought i was alone on this one. i'm glad to see so many other girls like myself fancy a teacher! well, it started a few months ago, when my english teacher kept looking at me in class. also i love love love michael buble, and he likes his music to, and i was going to a concert of his, and i was in his class and talking to him about that, and about what other singers he likes. i've been through alot of family promplems atm, so i started to cry in one english lesson. he took me outside, and asked me what's wrong. although i was crying my eyes out, i could see him staring down my clevege! also he told me he's there for me and whenever i'm upset, i have to come see him.-which of course i didn't. this carried on when we had this health day, and he was running it, and he asked me to help him greet guests, so i said yes, i got at school at 8;20, and helped him. at the end he said thanks for your help lauren, and kind of huged me! i went back to class half daydreaming. the day after that i was in his class and i'd realised he was wearing fake tan. which is really werid. i asked my mate,and she said he's gay! i didn't want to believe this at first. but i did. okay another time i was walking home late from school on my own, and it was pooring down with rain, and i saw his really nice car, and it stoped on the side of the road. to my amazement he'd offered me a lift home. being the idiot i am, i got in the car. but i've never felt so much excitment in my life. i havn't told anyone that bit before. i told him my feelings for him on the drive home, it was alright. but now were ignoring each other at school, which is for the best i supose, cuz now i've got a boyfriend, who's my age :) i would tell him how you feel, but just for heven's sake don't get in to trouble like i have!
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reader, KathySleek +, writes (17 March 2010):
 Hi! I always feel so much better reading these posts as I too feel EXACTLY the same way. I'm glad not to feel alone.2 years ago a new Science teacher came to my school. He's so wonderful. After, like, 2 lessons we'd always have a laugh whenever we saw eachother. In lessons when he assigned work for us to do from a textbook, he'd immediatly come over to me and have a conversation and a joke with me. He didn't do it to anyone else. Just me. However, at that time I didn't fancy him. I just thought more of him as a "friend" if you get me. He taught me for 2 years then I was moved into a higher set (probably because of his teaching..ha) and he wasn't my teacher anymore. And that's when I realised I fancied him. Whcih is crap because what use is it now when I don't have him?! But when ever he sees me in a corridor he looks up and smiles. Or says hello. Or makes a joke about something. Even in a crowded hall, he'll always find me and smile. No one else. Just me. I like that.I used to go up to him during lunch as well, for the past few months I've been having some bad family issues and even though he doesn't teach me anymore, he still felt honoured I went to speak to him. He was so lovely and caring. And he's not too bad looking either ;)He's 27. Only 12 years older than me. Not too bad...but he's married. And recently has a kid. That really, really hurts my heart when I think about it. I am uncontollabley in love with him. I know, deep deep down nothnig will ever happen...but sometimes I canreally picture a life with him.I've got another 2 years at school,I'm probably not going to tell him how I feel, even though it feels like I have to let it out. I'm not going to stop dreaming or thinking about him. I'm going to make the most of what I've got and make memories with it. Good luck! xx
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reader, mysterious_blonde_lady +, writes (27 December 2009):
I am sure if you spend so much time with him-- he already knows u like him. The fact that he spends time with you knowing this is not a good sign. i wud detach a little and spend some time away from him- nothing abrupt and be pleasant. if he fancies u he will start trying to find excuses to keep you to talk to you. seeing that he is 32 and a teacher -- i wud be very very wary. Also; be aware that telling a teacher that you fancy them puts u in a vulnerable position i.e. if that teacher (even if he likes u) is interested in self-preservation he will report it to a senior member of staff and you will get to have a nice cosy chat with ur parents and a senior teacher about whether he 'made himself absolutely clear'.. Another thing to be wary of-- he has control over your grades he can mess with them, and when u report him insist that u 'iniated things'. Keep your distance let him run after u, that way u can stop things short if they start to go anyway u dont want. key is -- dont worry about him worry about yourself. These things can go really bad. One last thing look up 'sexual predator' on google and read the signs.
good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): Hey !
This website is so good ! haha
Yeah, I was in love with my form tutor all through school, well he was my form tutor for 3 years and then in yr 10 and 11 we had a different one.
We were really close in the years he was my form tutor like he would talk to me everyday and smile.... I didn't actually know i liked him at that point!
And then when I got back after the holidays and had a new form tutor, he completely ignored me ! right up untill I left school ! I started falling in love with him in yr 10 too ! when he wasn't talking to me ! I really did not understand why he wasn't talking to me and was quiet upset all the time, just completely blanked me ! Any ideas why?
Then my brother got to the school the year after I left, and was a pupil in his class, he noticed the surname, and instantly said, your Grace's brother aren't you? then he said he 'yeah, you look like her' Then I went to a football match to support my brother, having no idea he was the coach, and it really threw me, and he started talking to me after the match like- yeah, hows college and what you up to, what do you plan to do after college? I was like why you talking to me now if you didnt talk to me for the last few years of school?
I was completely besotted with him, and if he asked me out now, I would having a really hard time turning him down, I think I would have to say yes just out of curiosity- 3 years later. I still catch myself thinking about him sometimes- i've never been that obssessed with anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): I know exactly how you feel. In my first year in High School (Britain), I had a tiny crush on my English teacher, as he's such a warm and sweet man. He's in his mid-30's, but doesn't really look it. Three years later, i'm so sure I love him. He's married though, and it's gutting, as I love him so much. I'm not sure you should tell him, like other's said, in case he doesn't feel the same way. But, if you want to do it, you go girl. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): I have this english teacher, and i cant stop thinking about him, everywhere i go he's in my head and whenever i talk tohim butterflies seem to come up. A few times he's caught me (well not staring) but gazing at him while he sits at his desk marking stuff. He looks up and smiles while i sit in a day dream, resting my chin on my hand looking straight at him. he'll smile and ill suddenly return to reality and blush uncontrolably. My friend asked me today and i had to admit it to her. It's probably just a "crush" but...i wish something could happen, but i know it never could. for starters he's like 32 or something early 30's. and im...well 14...16 years...I'm really close to him and he is constantly going out of his way to talk to me. It was parents evening today, and he was looking at me the whole time while explaining what the course work was and how well i was getting on. Complimenting me over and over again. Everytime i looked up to look him in the eyes his started to sort of sparkle and i had to avert my gaze wI so badly want to tell him that i REALLY like...but...i dont want to ruin what he have, besides. I dont know if he has a girlfriend, but he isnt married. He's so charismatic and enthusiastic. I love it X3 I want to wait til i leave school and tell him...but then im worried incase he doesnt feel the same way. thats three years i have to wait. I've got him for two years, only had him for 3 months. already im obsessed. I take the long way round to my classes just so i can walk past his door and smile. even just for that one second ^^ Its so difficult.I hope you guys somehow sort it out, maybe it will work out...but then i dunno. who am i to judge w Good luck xxx
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reader, freckletonmonami +, writes (5 November 2009):
Seriously, going through the same thing as you are right now!
I'm absolutley head over heels for my teacher, he's somewhere in his 30's (I think) and I do think he likes me as a student and has said to me I'm one of his best pupils! I flirt with him a lot and he flirts back but I really wouldn't reccommend telling him - just in case he doesn't feel the same. It would make it awkward and he could get into trouble.
You posted this ages ago so maybe its all blown over but if not - good luck hun! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): Hi, I'm 16 too and just left school. there is this guy he wasn't a teacher but he was a technician a member of staff. and i fancy him to death. he is amazing. He is cute, sweet , funny and hot. we used to sit in his office and eat pizza together and laugh he was only 23.I think No you shouldn't tell him it will make things awkward but if you really really do like him thenI'd suggest you wait, till your out of school and let the whole student and teacher thing die down a for a while. If you really like him it will be worth the wait. Then go back and see him and see if your still really close.
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reader, ukiow +, writes (13 July 2009):
well i am 17 and when i first started year 9 i got a new pe teacher and after a couple of lesons i just completely fell in love with him, hes really cute and we got on really well and i always focused on my lesons with him and my grades went right up, but then i found out he was dating one of the female pe teaches and i was so upset because i also het on really well with his girl friend!
Anyways, he always used to flirt with me, even my mates would comment on it, and gave me mixed signs. Through the summer hollidays i couldnt stop thinking about him but when i returned to school i no longer had him teaching me and i was gutted, but he still always stopped and talked to me when ever i saw him even if ment making me late for lessons but he would always stick up for me and flirt with me.
Then one day after school when everyone had gone home and he was the only teacher left in the department i asked him to help me with my pe coursework, which he did and he then offered to help me a couple times a week after school so he did, an the first couple of times he looked a bit uncomftorble so i made converstion with him like what he was doing at the weekend and stuff and after thaty we were geting on really wel and he was flirting with me and i was flirting with me and he kept complimenting saying stuff like your hair looks beautiful today and you have a georgeous smile then one day we were in deep in conversation when we both gazed into each others eyes and kissed (he kissed me i kissed him) then he pulled way and appologised, i said its okay ten there was an aukward silence but then he kissed me again but this time with real force and meaning he then lifted me up onto the desk and we made out but we never had sex.
After that he ignored me for a couple of weeks but then i heard that him and his girl friend and i felt so guilty, but after i left i left school for good me and my teacher got together and we are still togeter now. and i do love him
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reader, soph:) +, writes (24 June 2009):
hey i have the same feelings as all of you....i am literally in love with my head teacher he is about 40 and im 16....last week he went on holiday to canada and i missed him loads,i actually got really upset that week and felt like i had lost something when he has gone.
i think people are beggining to find out now that i like my headteacher because right he has his own parking spot right next to his office near the entrance of the school and when i have german i look out there to see his car and then i go all read lol also he stands at the front of the dinner line to make sure no one pushes in or anything and when i see him there and he says hey or you ok? i always blush,and when he is walking down the corridor and smiles i smile back and blush hehe.
the other thing is i was going to get my dinner the other day and the deputy head was there and he saw me and smiled then the headteacher walked in and smiled and they both stood behind me in the dinner line do you think they no about me likeing my headteacher or not??
we do activity days they are called at the end of the academic year and this year i am going on the same one as him,we do swimming,kyaking,rope climbing,ice skating etc and we all had to have a meeting about rooms and stuff last friday and it was really odd because he was late and he sat next to me and was talking to me saying did i miss anything and how are you?? i was confused because he knew my name its like hes been studying me??all i want to knw is should i tell him or not im confused because i also have a boyfriend and i feel its wrong on him someone help my my emotions are everywhere at the moment?? what if he feels the same?? plz answer back x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): I'm leaving my old school soon. At the end of the summer term I'm off to a new school because mum and dad want to move. There's this teacher that I REALLY like. I've liked him since he started teaching me, and even when he stopped teaching me. I can't get him out of my head now, and I feel I should tell him but I know he'd say to get over it because I don't think he feels the same way.
I think we've both caught each other staring during lunch times, but I don't know if it's proper feelings on his behalf.
Here's the thing. As much as I'd love something to happen between us, I know it will never be allowed and I don't think he likes me back, he's been avoiding me recently which is strange. I'm fine with that because I don't want anything serious to happen between us (well not illegally anyway) because I wouldn't want to have to keep something like this away from my best friends. All I want is to know how he feels about me, whether it's a crush or just student/teacher standard relationship (aka. no feelings of any kind, just simple 'You're my student, do the work please')
I know I'd never have the guts to tell him, but it's so difficult because I will probably never see him again. And I get this feeling in my stomach when I see him. Sometimes I WANT him to see me looking at him. :( :S Confused...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): To the question below:
You and your friend are in the early stages of developing a teacher crush. I wouldn't stop talking about the teacher I liked and it turned into mee actually REALLY liking him.
But I wouldn't do anything, I know you don't want to hear this (believe me, I'd hate to hear it) but nothing can happen between you two, not now anyway. And if you did, and your friend fancied him and somehow it got out, how do you think she'd feel? It is probably a crush, but make sure nothing happens until it's legal and your friend would be ok with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): One of the PE teachers who I speak to regularly on daily basis, always has the tendency to make my heart melt. He has such an amazing personality, with such a perfect smile which makes me feel warm inside.
Year 11 have just recently had there prom, and he was there. I couldn't help but just stare @ him, in that suit which looked stunning on him. Me & a close friend had our photo taken with him on that night, without actually realizing he put his arms around both of us, we felt so special. He smelt incredible, I could still smell him the next morning.
Ever since that night me & my friend are always constantly talking about him (maybe far too much) & when we see him but can't help ourselves from giving him a smile.
I wouldn't say I have a crush & I wouldn't certainly say I fancy him, do you reckon I feel more than I should?
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Most teachers don't attempt to put their arms around students in photos, so why me & my friend? Does he feel something for us?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): My friend had a relationship with a teacher. I don't know the full details but word got out that people knew and were going to tell the head teacher, so he packed his bags and left after many threats from parents etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): I've fancied my teacher for a couple of years now.
2 years ago, I had my first lesson with him, and his smile just made me melt. It felt strange. I've never felt this way about a teacher before, not even for another guy my age. Sure, I'd fancy them but not like this...
I'm not sure how old he is, but I'm guessing probably 20 years older at least.
I soon tried really, really hard at the subject and I got top of the class. I felt so proud that he had faith in me, and I was one of his favourite students as I always listened, and got the work done first.
It's amazing how he's changed my life without even doing much. I was bad at the subject in my younger years and now I feel I'm doing so much better.
I had been in his group for a year until I was moved up. I was really upset that I may not get to speak to him as much, but I still try really hard at the subject and it's still my favourite subject even if it's with a different teacher. I was hoping I'd have him next year.
But it got worse. He said he was leaving. I was devastated.
That the whole problem. I've been thinking should I tell him before he leaves because I won't see him again. I've actually only now just come to terms that he's probably forgotten me already. It hurts :( I've never told anyone about it. My friends have mentioned stuff like this a few times but they think it's stupid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): Aaah I'm in the same boat as you lot!I have a big, biiig crush on my Drama teacher, I'm in sixth form (Not giving exact age) and he's 36. We get along pretty darn well, seeing as we love pretty much the same type of music, films and shows (Doctor Who especially). He's a very respectful guy and kind too, I find him attractive in a strange sense that none of my friends would understand, but it's mainly his charisma, optimistic approach and open laugh that makes me go all tingly inside. (And maybe that if you put in a pinstripe suit, Converses and give him ruffly hair, he'll look like David Tennant.)I know I can never tell him or get involved with him, since he has two kids and a wife (Whom he sadly doesn't see as much anymore due to our exam preparations). And considering the fact that I am almost a year into a relationship with a bloke who loves me and would do anything for me, so it would almost be a massacre if anything happened between us.Besides, the best I can get with him is being his student and him being my role model =D
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reader, Charlotteannex +, writes (2 April 2009):
 Hey. I was shocked when I read this page, I thought that i was the only one with a crush on my teacher. And, with the stories I have read, i think you should all have a shot at telling the teacher that you fancy. But just say before hand that you don't want it to be awkward and ruin the friendship or whatever you might already have with them.
Good luck girls :) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): Let's face it girl, you're 16 and he's 32. Do you really think things can work out between you two? there's a 16 year gap between you two. He's not looking for a girlfriend amongst his students. Telling him that you fancy him would make things really awkward. You have a friendly relationship with your teacher. LEAVE IT THERE. Don't bother telling him. Its just a crush. Before you know it would have gone away. Having a crush on a teacher is extremely normal. In fact its a good thing. Look for qualities of him that attract you so much and perhaps try and look for them in your future boyfriends. I remember having a crush on one of my teachers. Its really hard cause I really liked him. but you need to draw a line or else both of you could get into trouble
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): Im 15 and I have a crush on a teacher in my school. It really is silly, and obviously I know that it is just a silly crush but it doesn't stop me fantasising ha! I've never had him for any of my lessons, I've never spoken to him and I don't even know his last name! But he has got this manly charm which the boys my own age just don't possess. The boys in my year look exactly that, like little boys, and it completely turns me off! Plus most of them have the brainspan of a hamster ... My friend told me he looks like a burn victim but I think his wear and tear appearance is rather sexy! mmmmmm .... Obviously nothing is going to happen because he's got a ring on his finger and he's my teacher! But still ... nice to have abit of eye candy!
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reader, ixlxoxvxexyxoxu +, writes (13 March 2009):
Hey.I definately think you should tell him.You are obviously hiding a lot of emotions inside, which are desperate to come out. It's best to let them out, rather than keep them locked inside and regret it for years. Who knows, he may even like you back!? Its worth a shot! Good luck!
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reader, ixlxoxvxexyxoxu +, writes (13 March 2009):
Hey.I definately think you should tell him.You are obviously hiding a lot of emotions inside, which are desperate to come out. It's best to let them out, rather than keep them locked inside and regret it for years. Who knows, he may even like you back!? Its worth a shock! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): Hi am in the same boat i fancy my teacher to but i feel really in love with this teacher but am to scared to ask the teacher anything
if i was you i wouldnt tell him but if you are truly in love with him
I hope everything turns out ok for you xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): Im So In love with my teacher
im only 13 and he's like 28-30
i had to spend all day with him on friday because i was in isalation with him because he is my head of house.
I just got butterfyls in my stomach when he sed i had to work with him all day because i love being around him every time i see him walking i cant help but smile.
We look at eachother and smile and we could stand there for miniutes.
He has a wife and its like i hate her and i havnt even met her but i dont want to hate her because she hasnt done anything wrong.
I think he feels the same way but.
I could never ever ever do anything because i could never put his career at risk.
I just probably have a teenage crush but i really do care for him and if anything ever happend to him on my behalf i would kill myself.
He put his face close to myn the other day and i just wanted to freaze the moment forever he whispered something in my ear but i cant remember cuz i was to happy oh well lol i will just have to get over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009): Just forget slowly and whatever you do dont you will embaress yourself just forget and keep your mind off him dont worry people have been there is normal but dont do anything silly trust me its embarassing
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): Hello, well maybe my story can help you. I fancied my male teacher like crazy when I was 12/13. He was 32 at the time. We got on like a house on fire both during lessons, trips out and summer camps. I used to feel butterflies in my tummy just getting dressed in the morning knowing I was going to see him at school. I wasn't the prettiest or cleverest, but I worked hard to please him and behaved impecably. I also acted really cool in front of my mates with regards to him (who would have spoilt it all out of jeaulousy) and parents (who would have spoken to the Head straightaway and got him into trouble). Looking back, the teacher probably knew I was infatuated but at the same time I gave him enough signs that I understood things couldn't go any further for both our sakes (even though it was killing me inside, like a fire that you can't put out). So I think I earned his trust and we had the closest to "special times together" without causing a riot. I missed the bus home one night after talking to him after school, so he gave me a lift home on his bike. I got to hold on to him tight for 15 minutes and I was in heaven!!!! I never said a word to anyone. Then another time he invited me to his house (with his wife there) to sort out his computer (I was an IT expert for my age and he was clueless about computers). my parents always insited on giving them an address where i was going and i couldn't ask my mates to lie for me to keep the secret. I kinda knew my parents would say absolutely no way and freak out, so I invited another friend along with me like the most natural thing in the world. I said I'd be back home for 2pm but time dragged on and I was loving it, my friend headed home but i wanted that extra time to nose around his house and talk to him! I didn't hate his wife, she was nice, I just thought "lucky girl". I didn't dare ask to use the phone (and no mobiles in them days) so got home eventually at 3pm and my parents were sick with worry despite knowing that I was going to "sort out his computer with a mate". At least I got off with just a telling off, phew! (though i think they were starting to get suspicious so was real careful from here on).At camp one summer I got to sleep next to him under the stars even thought there were 30 of us he could've chosen. I can still feel the shivers on my skin... it was beautiful. Nothing happened. We just whispered to each other thoughts about the world and the future. He taught me loads about life and I think he liked me a lot, but would have never done anything to keep us safe... I certainly WOULD HAVE (ha, ha!) but chose not to.Fast forward 18 years. I started dreaming about him again. Thought I could get in touch again. Managed to eventually track him down through old pals, networks, etc. He was dead happy to hear from me. We're meeting each other soon, he's now 50 (but appears 40! jammy sod) and I'm 30. We both have families. I don't expect anything spectacular to happen. But our friendship (platonic now) has clearly lasted. And it's better than spoiling it all when you're a kid. He didn't get into trouble. I didn't get into trouble. He was special to me and I'm still special to him. We're now adults and can handle things better. what I'm saying is do not give up on your love if you find it too difficult (I know how it feels and you don't really want to, most people will tell you forget about him but YOU SO CANNOT!), focus on other thins too so you don't freak anyone out by becoming a stalker, and let things flow nice and easy. Keep talking, spending time with him and away from him, being in touch via email, etc but resist temptation if possible (i know it's tough). the price at the end is so much valuable, a lasting friendship for the rest of your life where you retain control and noone gets hurt. I'm certainly reaping the benefits because I'm seeing him again and we've so much to tell each other...I will still get butterflies when I see him again, no doubt we'll kiss on the cheek and hug after all this time and spend time together or go for a meal, ring each other at times, etc. It'll be fun and ten times more meaningful than a quick fling that is likely to go wrong and bring all the embarrassment in the world when school finds out and your parents call the police and brand your crush a paedo. It'll break your heart to see him go through sh*t because of you. He's unlikely to want anything to do with you afterwards for his own safety. So you would've blown it. My way, you keep him forever, and who knows what the future may hold? Keep strong girls, been there, done that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): I'm going through the same thing...The worst part (as I'm sure you know), is that you know he'll never see you as anything else but a student, no matter what you do.It's so frustrating!!Why couldn't I just fall head over heels for someone my own age, rather than getting weak at the knees whenever a teacher, of all people, looks my way.It's pointless. It's stupid. It's also the best I've felt in forever. Oh well.
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reader, Gossamer +, writes (15 December 2008):
Hi,
I stumbled upon this page just now, and I'm sooo glad I did! Now I don't feel like a complete freak! lol ;p
I've had a few crushes on various teachers whilst I've been at school. None of my friends have ever admittted to fancying a teacher(although this by no means indicates that none of them have ever had a crush on a teacher. I say this because I, myself, have never admitted to ANYONE that I've fancied a teacher - that would just make the situation a whoooole lot worse!)
I've just moved to a new school and I feel a little ashamed to say that I already have a crush on one of my teachers. He's my English teacher, and he's not exactly that physically attractive but I swear I am just in love with his personality! I wouldn't DREAM of making a move, or telling anyone. (let alone him! haha) I think it's nice just to have a secret crush and fantasise a little about something I know will never happen. I feel a little sad though because I really like him, and I feel that it's mainly just age that is separating us. It's incredibly heartbreaking and infuriating to think that if I were a little bit older, we could be together... *sigh*
And omg on the last day of term, he sang "I'm Dreaming of a White Christmas" in front of the whole school! (how brave! :)) I discovered that he has the most gooooorgeous voice!
At the end of the same day, we were having an assembly and I was just sitting with everyone else, daydreaming a little. Suddenly, I saw my English teacher walking across the hall - I stared at him, not attempting to hide it because he was quite far away so I thought he wouldn't see me. And then he looked at me, straight in the face. We stared at eachother for a second, two seconds... I have no idea how long it lasted. But when we locked eyes, I swear it felt like an electric current had shot through my body. I couldn't tear my eyes away from him but at the same time, I was terified to maintain our eye contact.
However, I was probably just making the eye contact stuff up to make myself believe that he fancied me too. I wish I knew!... :(
Well, anyway, the bottom line is that I would NEVER tell ANYONE about my teacher crushes, at least not while I'm still at school. This is because I know full well that my fantasies are - well - fantasies, and will never come true. Furthermore, even if they did come true it would be a scandal, my teacher's life and career would be ruined, I would be expelled and my family would probably disown me!
Even if, right now, you feel like you couldn't live without your crush, you will eventually move on, believe me. There are many more fish in the sea!
I found the following advice on the internet, given by an agony aunt:
"There’s no harm in thinking he’s cute as long as you don’t act on your feelings. Teachers are in a position of trust and must maintain high moral standards. He would get into big trouble with the school as well as his wife if he ever considered a romantic relationship with a student.
Crushes often indicate we’re testing out the idea of dating, so try to figure out what you like about him. Does he make you feel smart or important? These are the qualities you should seek out in boys your own age. When you know what you want in a boyfriend, it will be easier to find it."
I think that what she says rings true! I hope this helps you :)
Good luck, everyone! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Hi! I thought I'd gone MAD. I've kinda fallen for my biology teacher. I'm actually English, and I've lived in France for 2 years now.Before he found out I was English, since I NEVER put my hand up in class, becaue I'm quite shy, he always asked me to answer a question, like 3 or 4 times in the lesson, whilst if he asked my friend Eva, he'd only ask her once, and then that was it. I ignored that at first.Then one day he said "I noticed some English surnames", and then asked this guy in my class if he was English, he said no, then he asked this girl who is half English (mum's Irish, dad's French - she was born in France), and he asked her if she understood and she said yes, she was born in France, and then everyone else said "it's most likely Emma who's going to have problems." And then he looked at me and said "You're English?" and now everyone's calling me his teacher's pet. I didn't like him at first, but now in each lesson he's getting nicer and nicer with me and a bit stricter with everyone else.Like last week's lesson, there was a new guy in my class, called Greg, and he was sitting next to this really funny guy called Alex. Mr B said "Oh Greg, don't sit next to Alex, he talks all the time, change places." and Greg took the table next to Alex, then Mr B said, "Maybe you should sit next to Emma, she's a really nice girl." and he saw my face and he said, "Well, that's if you want to." Then a minute after he asked me to see me at the end of the lesson. I was so worried because I'd fainted the day before (you can see how weird my life is) and I thought he might have a go at me because of that, luckily he wanted to borrow my folder but he didn't tell me why.I could NEVER tell him that I fancy him, even though I fancy him A BIT, because my life would be so over. Me and my friends pretend to fancy the teachers as a joke, and I "pretend" to fancy Mr B, but I could never tell them that I really did. I'd only say something if he made a move, and according to French people on Yahoo Answers, I think it's legal for teachers to be involved with a student.What I recommend you don't do is send him cards on Valentine's Day (I did that when I was 7 and it ended up in total embarrassement) or walking up stairs with him nearby, because you'll end up daydreaming about him and then you'll fall over, and then he'll work it out.Maybe you should wait until you've left that school, tell him on the last day or something. Avoid embarrassement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): I used to really fancy my p.e teacher. for like a year and a half. my best friend knew but she didn't really understand and she made fun of me. i only saw him on fridays and i would be so happy on those days. i just used to give him a sexy smile as i walked past and hope he'd talk to me. we flirted for months but at the time i kept telling myself that he was just being friendly. then one day he asked me to meet him after school. it was really good. we were dating in secret.. it was really exciting. he didn't groom me or abuse me in any way, it was what i wanted and i learnt so much from it. but i was only 16 and he was 25 so i ended things after about 6 months. But then at school i got kinda bored, so i told people.. i knew what would happen but i wanted to take the risk. the school found out, my parents found out. and you can imagine their reaction. he lost his job but wasn't arrested. i regret telling anyone, even my best friend. i thought it was something to boast about but i really upset him, because he told me he loved me. I wanted to believe him but how could i believe a 25 year old man was in love with me.Now i go to college and none of my new friends know about the teacher. i can kinda feel myself falling for my new teacher though too. I don't know if i geniunely like him or i'm just doing it to prove a point to myself? i know he likes me too, he does the same as what my p.e teacher did at the start of last year.If you fancy your teacher... my advice is don't tell anyone. make yourself attractive to your teacher ie. be impressive with work, look attractive. and make sure he knows you like him but don't exactly spell it out. look at him and smile... catch his eye. You will find that he starts to do it back to you. Good luck!
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reader, gumchewer +, writes (7 September 2008):
ithink my science teacher fancies me because every time we have a class together he keeps staring at me and smiling at me i may fancy him to because every time he smiles at me or any time i see him my face turns red and i have to look at the floor to hide my face
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reader, xpaigex +, writes (7 August 2008):
i fancy the german assistant at my school! hes 26 and im 16. well its his birthday on monday. i really like him and hes left now to go back to germany, i really miss him. there isnt a day where i dont think about him, im obsessed! im so glad to hear im not alone!
i couldnt tell him although im sure he knew. he didnt seem to mind so i wouldnt worry too much, if u want to tell him, i dont see why not. good luck. xxx
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reader, StaceysInLove +, writes (21 June 2008):
well..im 14 and i've fancied my music teacher for aaaages! he's 19. so not that much of an age gap! one lesson we got talking loads..he gave me his msn and at first we started talking over that..he asked for my mobile number, we met up a couple of times and now were dating (: i go round his often and we always go out together! my friends think it isn't going to work as he's my teacher! but we are sooo happy together :D so go for it and tell him ! xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): OMG! I never knew that there were so many other people who liked their teachers, I just thought I was weird.
Gosh, where do I start. Well, I've fancied my Geography teacher for two years now. It wasn't a love-at-first-sight kind of thing, I grew to like him as I got to know him.
But now, it's kind of an obsession. I've been on his Bebo site, Myspace site, I know his mobile number [only becuase he was stupid enough to post it on the internet!], and I know roughly where he lives. I even try to get to school the same time as he does, just so that he can see me with my new hairstyle or whatever else new I have to show off.
I suppose when you fancy someone, you ignore all the bad vibes coming from them and and only focus on the good, so you feel 100% confident that they like you back, because you're only paying attention to the good signs.
We went on a school trip together once, and we had a really good laugh and I really felt happy. He laughed at all my jokes, smiled at me when he our eyes met [not that I had been staring at him, waiting for our eyes to meet.] I had really convinced myself that he liked me.
Now when I see him, sometimes he smiles at me with this great, big, beaming smile, and then on other days, he doesn't even notice me.
And trust me, telling your friends certainly won't help! There's nothing worse than the teacher walking in the room and everybody [and I mean everybody] screaming out your name and wolf whistling. Gosh and I call them friends?
And as for telling him. . . I would definitely wait until I left the school. At least then, if he knocks you back, you will probably never see him again so you won't be embarrassed every time you meet, and at the age you leave school, it wouldn't be so bad to maybe meet up with them, seeing as you would be old enough, and he would no longer be your teacher.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): omg im going through this too!!
Its got to the stage of being totally crazy, a day doesnt go past without me thinking about him!
He's married with a baby daughter and yet he is still young compared to most of the other teachers, I would guess about 30 years old.
I know he isnt the most attractive guy in the world, but I live for a chance of seeing him in the corridor, I will constantly think
'if I walk slower here then I might catch a glimpse'
I try to stop myself when I think of any excuse to knock on his office door and ask a question but it is really hard to stop. I even spend our social time out in the area his office looks into and I always am checking if he is watching us or not
This time last year I was having problems at home and at school and I ashamed to admit that I turned to compulsive lying. There wasnt anyone I could tell about the issues I was having and so the only way to make myself feel better was to get the attention of other people
I would lay awake for hours at night thinking of ways, mainly clumbsyness and accidents that would get me noticed.
Then we went on a school trip with the teacher that I still have a dangerously large crush on.
On the first day I made sure pretty quickly that all my friends knew that I wasnt feeling good, even though I was. Once the lies started then it was really hard to stop.
My friends told him that I was ill and he was really really kind to me and made sure that I was ok and stayed with me while I was eating. I felt so guilty for lying to him but there was no way I could back out then or I would have lost the only friends I had as well as his trust.
The next morning was typical, I was genuinly ill and no, it wasnt a case of the boy who cried wolf, he was really sympathetic and offered me a ride in the bus when everyone else had to walk. I was really ashamed and refused, but he insisted. I felt so awful that I just sat there and cried and while he was trying to get it out of me what was wrong, there was nothing I could do to explain.
A year on from that and the issues at home and school are worse than they ever were. Because I want to take the subject that my crush teaches next year I had to go and talk to him. My parents wern't very supportive about me taking the particular course, so when he got really passionate about how it should be my decision and I should do what I want to do, I just couldnt stand him being nice to me and burst into tears (which made it worse because he was even nicer. Just for the record I am doing the subject because I have an outside hobby that links with it, not because my crush is teaching it.
Im not asking for any sympathy for my situation from anyone, although I am sure that there are people here who have also lied to do somehing.I am simply saying that before you get yourself into the postion that I have got myself into,
TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS BEFORE YOU MAKE A MISTAKE THAT CANNOT BE CORRECTED
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): I'm pretty much in the same situation, I'm like in love with my 42 year old teacher. & I'm 14. But, the thing is I just got expelled from my school today & I'm never going to see him ever again & I'm never going to be able to tell him how I feel or anything, it sucks. I'm really depressed about it too & idk what to do anymore. I do have his phone number & his address but I would feel weird calling him because it would seem kind of stalker ish. & he didn't even tell me his number I got it online. Lol.
It did seem like he liked me back though, but the last days I've been in school he's been kind of an asshole.. so yeah.
But I personally think you should wait to tell him, I mean I was going to tell my teacher how I felt because I'm leaving the school & its closing down so yeah. But now I'm screwed because my stupid principal had to expell me. But yeah maybe you should wait till you you leave the school or something, like I was going to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): OMG i'm in the same situation as every1 here i'm in lve with my science teacher i'm only in 1st year and i'm 12 and he's 27 and has a girlfriend who i've met!!But my friends found out and they don't help they jst make a jke of it when it's not funny!!But my teacher knows i lke him but i didn't tell him my friends did!!And he acts weird around me know and he nver comes over to talk to me anymore.And it really annoys me!!But there's never a day that goes past when i son't think about him and i get butterflies in my stomach just hearing his name!!Ans i always go bright red when i see him!!So my advice is DON'T TELL HIM!!Cause everything changes when he finds out!!
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reader, Kayla234 +, writes (19 April 2008):
Hey...
Ive only just found this site but god does it help!
Reading through everyone elses problems helps to understand that im not alone in this situation!
I've been completely and utterly in love with my history teacher for about a year now. I fancied him for a year and a half and then it turned more serious.
Im constantly looking around for him at school and just thinking about him or mentioning his name gives me butterflies! I work with him after school two days a week and its just me and him.
We chat and laugh about silly little things and there have been so many times that ive just wanted to blurt everything out to him.
He used to teach me in year eight but im 14 now and i dont have him anymore.
I recently went to one of my history teachers wedding coz her groom is family and when i got there my history teacher was there and i just couldnt handle seeing him sitting with his girlfriend...i just wanted to kill her.
Im so upset and depressed all the time about this and there seriously isnt one minute in the day that i dont think about him at least once!
I know already that when i leave school, i'll never get over him and will have to track him down and tell him how i feel but until then, im just gonna have to deal with it. Ive told some friends and they are supportive and understand what im going through but its just gettin to the point now that i just cant live without him and have been seriously thinkin about harming myself or doing something drastic to ease the pain of not being able to tell him.
There is an english teacher in our school that EVERYONE fancies and i like him too but not in the way that i like my history teacher...I need help or something so if anyone can then write back...
Kayla x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): Hi, I'm kind of in the same postion I mean I like my history teacher,well he doesnt teach me anymore which i suppose is good and iam leaving in like four weeks so its not something i feel worried about. Its like looking at a celebrity you fancy,nice to look at but you know you can never have them!! so if i was you i would push your feelings towards this teacher to the back of your mind and just carry on with a friendly relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Me too! I really fancy my art teacher ... and it really upsets me cos i know it's so pointless and stupid - like if anything did happen it would be illegal and weird anyway.
I think it's cos he epitomises the kind of guy i find attractive (arty, attractive in an unconventional way, travelled, mature) and there are aren't any guys like that who are my own age. I wouldn't tell any of my friends as they gossip and the last thing i would want is rumours getting blown out of proportion and him losing his job when he hasn't done anything.
I know it will change when i go to univesity next year and meet people who are my type, but it really does upset me and what makes it worse is that I could never tell him or anyone else ... I know that he wouldn't be interested as he's about 10 years older than me at least and he's in a relationship ... so i just feel like such a stupid little girl. :-(
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reader, british_girl +, writes (13 March 2008):
 hey i'm in love with my teacher as well, my heart beats so fast i worry im having panic attacks when im near him and i breathe all shallow. i was walking back from a lesson yesterday and saw myself reflected in the glass door and he was right behind me!! my knees went so weak i felt like i was going to pass out! anyway i have him twice a week and i love that, even though its a bit of a risk, depending how the lesson goes: if he speaks and smiles at me, i feel euphoric and it gets me through the rest of the week until i see im again, but if nothing happens, i just want to break down into tears!! its so awful. i have him tomorrow, i last saw him bout 4 days ago, and that lesson was terrible, so im a little worried. im not actually sure if it is love, i mean, it sure feels like that, but i really do admire him, so maybe it could be more of an infatuation. hes really handsome, like david terrant, with dark eyes and hair, and a brill smile, and hes smart and funny and modest, even though he's done amazing things like climb mountains for charity (but he got altitude sickness an never made it to the top - i felt so sorry for him). im 15, if anyone else is in a similar situation, feel free to mail me, its good to talk bout stuff like this to people u dont know, id die if my parents found out (tho my sisters asked me several times if i fancy him - i always deny it, but its hard because if his names mentioned at home, i can feel myself turning bright red!). i dont think he fancies me - it'd be the best thing ever if he did - but often when i look up from my work, hes looking at me, but he had me in year 9 so he probably views me as the child i was then, even tho i answer all the hard questions to impress him. its really tough though. on some days, i think im doing fine, them i see him and i just want to break down into tears, then today, i wasnt feeling too upset about it all, then i accidently bashed my lip and just broke into uncontrollable sobs even though it didnt hurt and i just couldnt stop, i just curled up into a ball n my room and let it all out, because i wasnt really crying over the pain, it was him. im so nervous about tomoorw when im going to see him! i think hes gay cos my sister (who's in his form) says he gives them lectures about gay rights, and she says he lives with 3 other men (??) but id rather he was gay than with a woman ten years older than me. its so hard though. i doubt I'll ever get over him completely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): You and I are in the same situation. Quite frankly I have no idea what either of us should do. I would say just let go because its a rare possibility that anything will happen. But its just too real, i dont want to let go. I want it to grow into something wonderful.
Well anywho, good luck to both of us! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): If you fancy your teacher, you shouldn't pin all your hopes on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): Basicaly im in the same situation except my teachers is only 19, im 16 i leave school in 15 weeks, this means im no longer a student at the school. could i hook up wth him. i see him in my wildest of dreams. you get stuck and dont know what to do. just telling you YOUR NOT ALONE!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): Im in the same situation with my maths teacher, its soo hard becuase hes alot older than me and i know nothing will ever happen between us because hes married and has kids, but i cant help liking him, i havenbt told anyone because i think people will laugha nd make fun of me.i think u should try and forget about the crush and ignore the feelings u have for him , that's what im gonna do :s xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): hey dont worry,if u fancy him its normal,but dont tell him
he'll not get angry but he might find it funny.i also had a crush on my 29 year old teacher n he liked me 2 just as his fav student ,i wasnt gud at his subject.my frndz used to tease me that i had a crush on him but i said no i dont hav any crush on him.i didnt used to come in skool when he did not had a lesson.n my frndz used to tell him dat she didnt came in cuz u didnt hav a lesson with us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): you should never tell tell anyone older than you that you fancy them. it brings along heartache,embarrasment,and a lot of explaining to do take you time dont rush things .its ok to have a crush really it's cool but trust me just leave it at that never show your true feelings untill you have some years behind you
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): I also currently have a crush on one of my teachers, my Maths teacher. I'm not particularly close with him, but I just really, really like him. I think it's because I love Maths, and he's a good teacher, plus he's quite sweet.
Anyway, I know nothing can come of it, so I would recommend that you just enjoy your fantasies, maybe work hard in his subject so this teacher notices you for all the right reasons, and never tell the teacher that you like him. Because even if (1% chance) he likes you back, anything you two do together could result in him losing his job.
Help that helps, dear.
Pizzi Crouch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2007): Dont tell him about it coz it only affects the good relationship you had with him, a teacher and a student thing. Its good just to tell him that youre appreciating the advices and help that he gave, thats it.
Youre 16 and get easily infatuated but if you try to focus yourself with something else, it will help.
I aso experienced having a crush on my teacher but i dot take it seriously as it only affect my studies and hes my teacher for goodness sake!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): hi hun i have a teacher like that in my school but i wouldnt tell him it will change things besides nothing could come of it and it is more fun not lettin him now lol xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): I'm 16 and going through exactly the same thing.My teacher was there for me when i was suicidal, and going through being an alcoholic.It might seem like love,but its just a crush.and thik about it, does he have a wife/ girlfriend? how would they feel. How would you actually feel if he left them for you? or was having an affair with you?It hurts, and you might allways feel this way for him, but soon your find someone that loves you fully, for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Omg you are 16 and have a life he hasnt. Just forget about that CRUSH on your teacher. If you tell him he will laugh at you, just forget and move on girl. Seriously get a grip.
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (14 March 2007):
Hi to 'AHeartsBrokenEvent' soz only just got the comment you left. I sent you a private message but incase u didnt get it then yeh sure we can talk on msn it'd be cool :D Give me your addy in a private message n Ill add you xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): lol, in the same situation, i love my teacher and he is soo hot (only to me cos everyone else thinks hes fat and ugly) but i love him alot and i think he loves me cos he keeps brushing my arm and smiling and watches me alot so yeah, wait til ur gonna leave school forever then tell him and ask him what he thinks, cyaaa xxx
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reader, AHeartsBrokenEvent +, writes (2 March 2007):
 Penny I am in the exactly the same situation=[ Please can we talk on MSN or summet? I know this might sound strange as i dont know you! but your situation is like mine! xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006): i would not tell him if i were you...as i am in the same situation sort of with my teacher(although i have never considered telling him), he's always there for me, and helped me through tough times...and yeah i guess i can dream that something might work out between us...im not gonna give you the advice of "forget it you can never be with him" like all my friends give me....because hell you never know what might happen...but if you two are meant to be together then it will happen....but if you tell him, and he doesn't feel the same way then it would be very awkward, and its good that you get on so well like i do with my music teacher, but im sure you don't want to ruin that close friendship by telling him...
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (29 November 2006):
Hey again. This keep happening! I keep writin too n it dont come up. Its good to heat that you've moved on but its well saddening lol cos i fink he really likes you n i feel sorry for him. Bless him lol. I still like my teacher...haven't spoke for a while im waitin for him to get in contact with me :) Good luck with everyfin :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2006): hey penny soz i aint wrote nefin in agessss! i did but it wouldnt cum up, to be honest my feelings are not as bad as they used to be, a few months ago i thought id never get over him, and even though i still really like him and have deep feelings i have learnt to respect the fact he has a gf of 4 yrs nd that i care for him farr to much to spoil all that. on friday i was outside skool with my boyfriend, whos 17, he was starrin the whole time, he looked soO jelous, and when i went to talk to him all he said was hi, looked at my boyfriend n walked off *not like him* i think he has realised that i have moved on, i get much more lads being interested in me now, and i think he has realised that, and so have i. i do still like him, and that wont ever change, well not for a long time! but i want him to be happy and he cannot appect me to not have a boyfriend, and i cannot do nefin coz e as a girlfriend, so what do i do, move on, it herts sayin that! but its true but if he didnt have a girlfriend things would be different, i would of told him by now, the age gap is not that big, but its not bout that and i dnt fink anyone can stop lovin sum1 coz of a few stupid yrs! x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2006): hiya, well girl I think you should not tell him, things will change, and only for the worst teachers are there to help but not in a personal way. Because he has helped you though some really hard time you will develop feelings, that is naturally.
If you tell him and he feels the same and wants a relationship then he is not good for u (1) he will be breaking the law (2) as a teacher again he will be breaking the principle law of teachers YOU DO NOT HAVE REALTIONSHIP WITH YOUR PUIPLS
All I can say is if you leaving school this year then tell him when you leave you will be out of the school environment and you should be 17 by then, and if he dose not feel the same a least you don’t have to seem him everyday. Also when you start college you will meet some many guys, then the world is you oyster if you like the older guy then you have guys from teens, 20’s and 30’s
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2006): I am absolutely head over heels about my teacher....gosh. And he is married and he has kids. But I want him so bad. I want him in a relationship and I want him sexually. To be honest, if he wanted me too, I would do it. I know how you feel sweetie, sometimes its best to keep it a secret, but sometimes you might just want to say it. You decide. Keep your head up, and dont listen to all the people saying "YOURE SICK! IT WILL NEVER WORK!!!!!!!!" becuase you never know.
xoxoxoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): The last time I posted on DearCupid.Org was during the summer. Back then, I was thinking maybe I'll forget about the teacher I'm in love with some time during this year, as I no longer study his subject. Unfortunately, I think I'll have to take another "All I Want For Christmas Is You" marathon this year, thinking about him...this will be my third Christmas doing so...
He's in his late 30s / early 40s, married with four adorable kids [I think the oldest is about six or seven years old, the youngest being just two]. I've tried many times to move on - especially now that I'm in Year 12, I've discovered so many more mature guys out there.
*sigh* I still can't move on, despite all. I discovered that I still have to see him three times each week due to some extracurricular activities.
It's been quietly known that he hasn't been happy with his marriage in recent years - I'm not even looking for a chance to be with him...I just want him to be happy.
He's not "movie star handsome" [i.e. blonde hair and six-pack], but he's definitely good-looking, at least to me. He's a Scot, with dark hair [kinda greying but that only adds up to his good looks], grey eyes, and a smile to die for. Also, he's very shy [such a cute feature...] and modest - he'd much rather die than admit to his achievements.
Oh yeah. He's also really nice and absolutely hilarious.
What's there to not like about the guy? *sigh* I can only wish that he'll some day find his happiness though...
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (18 October 2006):
Hiya. Lmao I could jus imagine sayin 'babe' to him. I'm quite quiet so I think he'd faint if i said it. I saw him on Monday. I was so scared. I was in his room talking to him and he got this text book n came n stood next to me n started goin though it wit me so I moved rele close to him lol it was so funny. Got to see him 2moro aswell. Have ya ingored him yet? It'll be good to see his reaction. It was nice of him to say hi to ya wernt it :) Yeh I got msn. Whats ya addy. Speak soon xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2006): hiya! i wanna do wot u mentioned.. ill try it! well he went past dwn the corridor past my form nd i was there, my m8z were messin bout but i was just stood there nd e sed hi, lol. wicked i cant believe that actually happened how kwll!!! lol try flirtin, i know e has a wife like, but it wud b a bit of fun, only sumat small like bye bbabe??
ne way i dnt have my own e-mail but i ave msn do you???
i ope u r right bout him XxX
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): Hi. When I was 15-16 I had a major crush on my teacher. But I think due to the fact she was married and in her late forties that took away any temptation. We all get tempted by things but I dont think its a good idea. He's your teacher and so that is just a professional relationship. Plus the fact that if when you say it it comes out badly or he gets embarrassed maybe things could become awkward. Your education is what is important here so its best not to risk that. Your crush will pass and you can find someone with whom you can be with without unnecisary complications.
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (15 October 2006):
Ohh yea 1 thing. I was wondering do you have an e-mail address cos maybe we could swap and talk by that. Don't matter if you dont want to but I was thinkin we talk all the time on this site and its kind of weird knowing theres probz loads of people on the web reading our conversation lol. Its upto you xx
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (15 October 2006):
lol I was in total shock I tell ya that! I dunno this is seriously confusing...it's like he likes you but he doesn't want to admit him to himself. What dya fink his reaction would be if u gave him the evils lol. Maybe u shud start confusing him by one day looking at him n the next day totally ignoring him. See if he notices! Yehh hes allowing me to do the course! Omg the things he was saying to my mum bout me! He said im head n shoulders above every1 else in the year n im at my own level. Hes now awarded me a speech day award which i have toc ollect infront of the whole school and parents. Seriously the things he was saying was AMAZINGG!! Hes setting all the work out just for me and last week i had to speak to him twice in the corridor and 2moro (Monday) i have to go see him so we can arrange a time to go through what i need to do. That means me n him in his room alone talking. I am SOO scared!! Im even nervous bout going to see him 2moro just to arrange the meeting. How will I survive!
Maybe he didnt say anything wen u sed 'out of breath' cos he cudnt hear u or was in a rush or sumfin. Strange init. Luv me xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2006): oh yeah ndd i cnt believe he foned ya house, i cud amagine that id be like hiya bby lol!!!! bet it was like a dream lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2006): omg ive sent 3 and they stil ant cum i dats wkd so ya guna c more of him woop woop! on friday e was starrin at me and wen i looked at him e looked away??? i really dont get it, on wednesday e went past n e was breathin ded hevy ndd i went ' out of breath really flirty n e dint say out but then next day es smillin n starrin n that i dont get it? my bruva has him sumtymz n e was answerin bk 2 him n e went just like ya sister??? do u get it cos i dont ndd its confussin me sooo much? so wots happened then? ave u got him n do u talk 2 him quite alot now?? hope so x x
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (7 October 2006):
I no it aint hard to talk to someone but im just too shy to be honest. Anyway I better get ma act together cos in a few weeks i might have to spend alot of time with him! Last night I went to ring ma mate but there was a message on the answer machine so i listened to it n it was from him!!!! Bcos r.e is ma fave subject n i can only do the short course my mum knows how disappointed i am so she went to the skewl reception yesterday n asked if she cud meet him so he had rung n left a msg bout an appointment 4 nxt wednesday wit my mum cos my mum wants to no if i can be set more work by him thru the year n he can help me and support me so i can do the full course and if he says yeh itz possible ill have to talk to him all the time n everyfin lol! I was SO terrified wen i heard his voice on the answer machine! I bet ya could imagine lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): yh ino but he really used to look and flirt. y dont you just go up to him and talk why do you need a subject? you could just go hi, how you been doing? its not hard!!!!
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (6 October 2006):
My mates take it quite well...they are like 'look there he is' wen hes nt there n they try tease me bowt it n it can be funny but i fink dey sumtimes shout it too loud n im worried incase ppl catch on. ma new re teacher who i have now said we chnage teachers 4 the differnt topics we have in re n he said tht we have th teacher i fancy! i found tht out a while ago but now im desperate to find out if and when we have him! its becoming a big obsession to me now! hes on duty around one of the blocks on a friday and wen i hang round there i see him talkin to ova ppl then i see him on his own and i so badly want to talk to him but i cnt think of a subject plus id b sooo scared. n my mates refuse to ask him a question so itz so annoying. wish ma teacher wud stare at me lol. i seen him look a few times but u cnt go round skewl n nt look at someone can ya! if u no wot i mean. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006): trust me if i went 2 ask him bout sumat i wouldnt no wot 2 say cos e int involved in anythin ndd all e is now reli is a geography teacher hu walks past the corridor evry now n then! NON of my mates have him, b'cos even the 1nce that tuk his subject ave anuva teacher. wen i go bak in im guna start talkin 2 him on fridays, wen es on bus duty cos i normally c him lookin so ill go up. no e found out 1st cos i went up 2 him n said my mum fancied him lol ( which was a lie) ndd then he went why?? n i went well i cant blame her ndd then my m8z found out n... in lesson last yr though e would jus sit there starrin at me ALL lesson my mates would go, omg he was just sat there starrin at you all lesson n id b like :P:P:P lol es mazin n i miss how we used 2 talk n flirt :'( well, its annoyin wen ya mates find out cos ya like shut up, dont say out arnt you? but mine did, ndd im quite glad now actually. xXx
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (5 October 2006):
How on earth did he find out that you fancied him? Did someone tell him then you admitted it or summin? I was finkin it wud be so funny if he found out I like him but I wud avoid him in corridors which wud be bad cos then I wudn't see him. Does any of ur mates have him as a teacher? Or is he involved in anyfin else around school what you could ask him about in the corridor? Im too shy. I would gobble all ma words up and run away lol. Love's sweet init xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2006): i know, i have only known him a year but it seems like ive knew him alot longer, its buggin me how we dnt talk ne more nd i hardly see him, plus ive been off ill for 3 days, i tryed 2 go in yesterday just 2 see him, cos i miss him reli easily :S nd now im off again cos i got sent home cos i was coffin like a maniac lol.i keep dreaming of me gettin run over and him coming to visit me with flowers lol wish it wud appen. i hate it wen e first found out i liked him, cos it was ded weird cos i wud normally go talk 2 him af2 evry lesson ( wen i add him las yr) but then i cunt cos i found it reli aczuad but af2 a bit i knew e was flirtin so i did it bak lol, i missssssssss HiM lOaDs n LoAdSsS!!! cyoo x
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (3 October 2006):
OMG this is reeeeeele annoying! I keep replying to you but they aint putting it on the site or summint. itz rele sweet bout yous 2 the fact that hes always lookin at you n stuff but you must be well confused cos he has a gf in a serious relationship yet hes still looking at you and wanting you to look back. Maybe he just likes the attention...I dunno. It's getting to me so much cos I neverr get to see ma teacher! And even wen I do its just wen he passes me in the corridor which is nuffin. If ma teacher knew I like him id die cos weve known each other 3 yrs so itz the last fing he wud expect and it wud be relee weird as we not exactly close. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006): i know yea my mates always take the mick wen he walks past there all like awww theres ya bf, he always smiles. i wouldnt say i have a chance cos a 5 yr relationship is a BIG commitment!!! its good that you smiled at him, and ya gettin more like me cnt fink of nethin else but ya baby, (i always call him muh baby lol) im totally in love with him, he was outside the skool gates on friday nd e was totally starin, i dint look at him though my m8 told me and he started lookin reli stressed cos i wert starin bk. it doesnt make me happy wen e dunt look at me cos i feel like es not arsed, but then l8a on hell b starin like :| for agesss. cyaaa
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (30 September 2006):
aww thts major sweet lol. Its good that you say hi to him n talk to him. I dont do anything! I just see him n get all excited n just watch him walk down the corridor n wen i walk past his room which isnt very often I always look in. Its rele getting to me though cos hes all I ever think about n I wish it wasn't. One of my mates let it out to all ma other mates so now all ma mates know n they're like 'ewww' lol. I just ignore em. Last year he awarded me 2 gold awards for r.e and I got them the other week so I gave him a big smile I was well happy n I fink he was too. Wud u say u stand a chance wiv him at all as hes not like in a big commitment? I know I aint got the slightest chance as hes nt exactly young and hes married. I dont fink ma mates understand. When I say 'I know I don't stand a chance cos hes married wit kids' They are like 'So why dya like him then?' I mean I cant help it! And you dont just stop loving someone just cos they are married. Ma mates are stupid in that sense. Cyaa xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): yer i say hi 2 him most of the time, but like yoo i find it really hard, even though i do talk 2 him i really get nervous! i have to plan wot im guna say uva wise i get really nervous and my heart starts beatin really fast! trust me, i know how yoo feel!! yesterday he walked past, he was on his way to the staff room and i was on the corridor on the way and me and my friends were talkin bout our type of lads nd then he went past wen i was describin evryfink he had! ndd he was listenin cos then i went jus like mr*** and he was really smiling at me, i was really proud i did it!! but its better wen i talk 2 him in prsn so im gunna get my courage up again, but its hard b'cos i hardly c him so i get really nervous wen i do see him!
ne way he keeps starin, ndd smilin, its hard init! but i want him sooo much nd i know he likes me 2 but i always have 2 make the first move 2 talk cos hes really shy nd he has a gf which makes me feel like givin it all up, but i cant! cya soon xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2006): oh, yes and i forgot to add something, becuase i liked him i went to the after school classes which he appriciated me for turnig up, and enjoyed teaching me, and with that I had an A at GCSE. If I hadn't liked him i wouldn't have got that grade and I'm so glad i did, and I still like him, and i took it for A-level, so i hope it will help me with that grade too... xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2006): Hi, funny enough I'm in the same situation with a slight twist. I fancy my maths teacher, but i know someone else likes him too. But she's over the top and is like a fly to ... poo!!
Well the twist is that I'm 16 and he's 28-29, and I'm going on holiday with the school in Febuary skiing and he asked me if i was going! OK, you may think that that may be just an ordinary question, but it wasn't he was like, "please come!" that's what his face was telling me, and when i said i've put on the waitin glist, he thought i might not be coming, i just didn't tell him i'm at the top of the list and that someone is bound to drop out of it! He flirts with me, and always tries to have an excuse to talk to me, and i like it, and plus, the added bonus, he's not just nice generally, he looks like Shane Ward off the X Factor too! Can anyone help me on my situation, and good luck to you and your situation, I think you should go on a holiday with the school and incourage him to go! xx
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (22 September 2006):
Hiya it'z me again. I did reply to ya but it obviously didn't work :s I rele cnt flirt with him! hes married wit kids n I dont have a reason to talk to him! He doesn't teach me and we havent like had a special bond in the past so itz soo hard to talk to him. Today I made my mate ask him a question about R.E in the corridor n I was there n i really wanted to ask him a question but I just couldn't do it. I was so nervous! It's not fairrr :( You have to talk to your teacher cos u can! You have reasons to. Do ya say hi to him when u see him?
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reader, kandyisdandy +, writes (21 September 2006):
hey, yeah its the girl from before. I dont know what to do i keep having outbursts of emotions like one minute ill be crying, next ill be excited and its all over my teacher!
And I know I cant tell him about it but its so depressing cos every time I see him I want him to know!!
Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2006): Well I 'm 16 and I fancy about half the staff at my school. (They're all female btw and so am I.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2006): erm, sorta lol well more than ne fin weve been starrin at each otha, i mean everytime we c each uva lol jus cant keep ma eyes off him ndd seems like e likes me, yesterday we were out side skl nd e was on bus duty ndd e was starin at me smillin ndd that was jus 1 ov the tyms!*! lol i reli think u shud make convo wit this guy get the flirtin goin lolxXxXxXxXx
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (17 September 2006):
lol oh my gosshh yeh i bet she was flirtin wit him but he wudn't be flirtin wiv her im sure! it cud be worse you know. 2 teachers in my school got married lol. ma mate is really great bout it cos at lunch ma teacher was on duty so he just has to stand outside one of the blocks so me n my mate "casually" go stand my the block too so i can watch him lol. i still dont see him much though. so have u spoke to him yet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2006): hey! I fancy my 32 year old teacher too, but im only 13 lol! I personally am torn between whether to tell him or not. But I dont think I will, hell probably be all like- well you know im a married man lol. So I dont think you should! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2006): lol yh i guess i cud, well we both bumped in 2 eachuva 2day (hurrayyy 2 d 1nce lol!) and sed hi, but he was with that teacher i told u about hu was flirtin with him, i cud strangle her!!! lol aww all my lessons r on the bottom floor nd es at the top! nooooo cya soon x x x ope u c him more btw!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2006): i am a 16 year old female soon 2 be 17, i have just recently started college, and i think im fallin for my eng lit teacher, even worse... she's a woman!! wat am i supposed 2 do, i luv english now, and she alwayz pays attention 2 me, wen eva we read something that has a sexual connotation, she alwayz seems to look at me and grin, and i cant help but grin bk, she's even invited me 2 her office 2morrow, i think ill tell her, but i dont no if i should!!!!!!! plz som1, help me!!!!!!!!!
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (12 September 2006):
hus that martini hu wrote on the 11th sayin 'holy crap...' !? yeh i rele am well gutted. plus all my lessons are the other side of the school so i never see him! i havent seen him for 2 whole days now, not even from a distance! well cos u used to talk all the time cant u just like...go see him and say 'hi havent seen u 4 ages how was ur summer?' or summint like tht? i cud never do that lol but i know u cud! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2006): lol cos i avent seen him in 6 weeks! ive got to admit though its been easier not having him, although i wish we still talked cos im missing our lil chats and his flirty coments lol.aww bet your well gutted u aint got him and u reli thought u wud :'( x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2006): Holy crap, how did this get brought up again?!?
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (10 September 2006):
LOL it's a disaster for me! I have no reason to talk to him...as he doesn't teach me and we didn't really talk when he did. But when I walk past him I can't help but laugh so I have to look the other way. I catch myself staring at him all the time. It's crazy! What you make of it? How come you don't have the confidence? You always used to!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2006): yh i was bk last tuesday, wen i first saw him i was like woo, he looked sooo amazin. i avent talked 2 him yet, i cnt build my confidence up 2 go and speak 2 him, as he is neva on his own and always with some other teacher so if i went up 2 talk 2 him id feel ded shy lol. ive cort him lookin tho yehhhhhhhhhhhhh! lol how bout yoo ?X?X?
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (8 September 2006):
Hiya. it's ok I guessed you was on holiday. I don't have my teacher!!! I was soo sure I was gonna have him for that one lesson a week of r.e and I have been given a new teacher! My r.e group is the exactly the same so why change? I'm absoloutley gutted!! I only ever see him walk around school now :( Although on a Thursday we have assembly so I just sit there staring at him cos hes a yr 10 tutor so he has to be in assembly's. How it goin wit you? Back to school yet? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2006): hi im bk now i went the same place as i went with skl lol so i been gettin some memories bein there yeh e sed all that but i know he has a gf hu e has been wid for 5 yrs :S, i miss him like crazy!!!!! soz i aint spoke in ages i been on hol, we visited the same things i did wid skl so im like... u knw wot i mean lol cya soon xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2006): gosh, im a girl, and i fancy my FEMALE maths teacher! gosh she is soo hot!! but she's 35 n im 14:(i think my bruvva may like her too, as he is at the same school!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): hi i have a crush on my math teacher Mr.s he is so nice i like his smlie and stuff but i'm not going to tell him no way he lafe to be on a diffent teami miss him deepy
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (13 August 2006):
I will have him next year but probz won't talk to him. I obviously don't like my teacher as much as you do lol. He really said all that? Oh My God :p Cute! You should ask him if he has a picture of his girlfriend so you can see what she looks like and see what your up against lol. When do you go back to school? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): yea i do lol, im always going the long way to lessons just to go past his room and talk to him :D even though he got a gf ill still call him my baby, i always do lol and he smile. i told him once i had a dream of me and him getting together when i left school and he said, if he didnt have a gf he would date me, and i was like really lol, he also has said im a bit like his gf brwn hair, tanned, big eyes, funny etc. i really like him and i know its going to be hard again when i get back to school but ill try and talk to him more than i did last year (i only started talking to him loads and loads when i went to france with him on a school trip a few weeks ago) i think u should talk to yours more if you have him lol. cya l8a :D
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reader, x.xpennyx.x +, writes (10 August 2006):
Yea but you wait til you get back to school lol. You'll see him for the first time in 6 weeks and your face will just light up and you'll be all over him again but it will be ok cos you'll get to see him all the time. My teacher doesn't walk around school alot he tends to stay in his room so I go out of the way just to walk past his room lol. I bet you'll do that all the time. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): nooo i would never tell my mum or family! my younger brother found out though ( who he also teaches!) he has got him next year aswell which is good for me, i can make an excuse to take to him! i know ages doesnt matter at all, its jus the same as anyone really, they got a girlfriend you know you cant have them. i have got to be honest it does seem to be gettin a weeny bit easier cos its the hols, but i still miss him ldz :'( cya xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): Yea but I'm really not the type of person to flirt with a teacher lol. N like I said, he doesn't get close to his pupils...he just teaches them but he does talk to us. I find it really embarassing talking to him cos I'm a bit shy around boys. I like the idea of you finding a guy just like your teacher...but I wouldn't cos you would be using him in a way wouldn't you? But I can see where your coming from. I dream about my teacher too but none of them make sense! Does your mum know or anyone in your family? I would be too embrassed to tell my mum! I think exactly the same as you! Your age is just how long you have been living on this earth. So what? Age doesn't matter at all to me! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): yeah i no wot you mean, sorry about your boyfriend, to be honest with you i have been out with alot of lads since i met this teacher and i feel so nasty when im with them because the only person on my mind is him and its totally not fair on my ex' so i have had to finesh them! thats how bad it really is! im going to try and find someone who is abit like him in a way and maybe i will find it easier. to be honest i have dreamt about him nearly every night since i have met him, and its really annoying me now because i am trying to forget about us in that was- :@ but hopefully it will start getting easier. just because he has a wife and 2 kids doesnt mean you cant fancy him and flirt, as long as thats all that happens. to be honest i think age is just a number, so if they didnt have a gf/ married, i would of done something about it when i leave and told him but like you said there is no point when there with someone because i wouldnt want to make it hard for him, cos hes amazing. im sorry about your bf btw, i bet this teacher is more on your mind now because your single :S cya l8a :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2006): I have no idea how old my teacher is! But he's definatly older than in his 20's lol. Thats why I bet no one else fancies him cos hes not like really young and handsome but I still really like him. He's also married with 2 kids lol so there would be no point in telling him! It's really sweet that he knows you really really like him and that you are really close but I wouldn't want to be really close to this teacher...I like fancying him from a far if you know what I mean. Yea it will be hard cos a few months ago I broke up from my ex and I was mad about him and it was so hard forgetting him but it's fine now so it will be ok eventually :) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2006): how old is this teacher you like ? mines 27, he told me hes 25 but then i heard him say to another teacher hes 27, and when i asked him why he told me hes 25 he said he was jokin, which i thought was abit weird because he never lies to me, we are actually quite close and i can tell him anything, exept i am totally mad for him, which he already knows. does he have a gf or is he married? i forgot if u told me now lol. i was planning to tell him when i leave school but now i know he has a gf i no i got no chioce than to forget and just be friends with him, going to be hard though :S cya later my names charlotte btw
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2006): Yeh it's cute cos you can tell he likes you too. I think you both know that you 2 are never going to happen but it's still really nice. Have you ever read 'love lessons' by Jaqueline Wilson cos the situation in that story is identical to yours n it's a really good book :P Well as my teacher teaches r.e it's in the law that we have to have 1 lesson a week of r.e so I would imagine I will have him for the next 2 years one lesson a week. Hopefully they won't make another teacher teach me r.e. It must be horrible knowing he won't teach you now. But you will still see him around school and he might cover your lesson sometimes if a teacher is ill. I'm so glad I will have just that one lesson though and I feel really sorry for you. I did choose to do the r.e full course originally because I happen to be really good at it and having his lesson 3 times a week was just a bonus and a dream! But the course isn'r running cos not enough people chose it so I have to do art instead but you can imagine the disappointment knowing I couldn't have him teach me 3 times a week. If my teacher found out I fancied him I would die!! He's soo not the type to flirt n stuff lol. Anyway reply xxx By the way, my names Penny :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2006): i didnt tell him, my friends did but i didnt mind cos i wanted him to know in a way, you know what i mean ? but e still talked 2 me and even flirts sometimes but i havent got him next year because i dint pick his subject.. i hope 2 god he wont 4get me, ill try to talk 2 him still... ill have 2. he always comes up and talks 2 me expecially on that holiday he kept going up to talk to me awww i really wish i could do something about it, when he told me that hes got a girlfriend my eyes were watering i really miss him. have you got him next year ? wish i had him :'( he was upset when he found out i didnt pick his subject and when he thought i was ignoring him he got really upset, but i know nothing can happen now cos e got a gf n dats y it hert so much when he told me. im glad you understands its hell isnt it :'( cya xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2006): Aww yeh I totally understand how you feel. I miss my teacher too n thanks for replyin by the way :)My teacher doesn't know I like him because we never really get to talk and he only teaches me one lesson a week. I have seen him giving me looks as if he knows I fancy him but I don't know that he knows. If you know what I mean - it's a kind of smiley smirk. I really can't wait for school to start though! Cos I haven't actually had a lesson with him since I admitted to myself and a few close friends that I fancy him so it will be really fun but really embarassing too. How does he know you like him? Did you tell him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2006): heya it me ( the gal who just got back off a trip) i couldn't believe it when he told me, i jus want to tell him how i feel :s but i know i cant, i wish i could but i know if i did he still has a girlfriend. you must totally understand how i feel, does he know you like him, mine does and he is always starring at me and he seemed really upset because i didnt pick him last year ( as much as i wanted to, i cant stand geography :S but i know he loves his girlfriend 2 bit :'( and now its the summer hols and i really miss him, how about you. write back plz :D thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): Hey, this is to the person who wrote on the 25th July about your teacher and that you have just come off a trip and you really love him and miss him. We have alot in common and we are the same age so I bet there's loads we could talk about. I really feel for you, how it must hurt that he has a gf. I'm totally stuck because the teacher I fancy has a wife and kids :p By the way I'm the person who wrote on the 23rd July about my r.e teacher. So if you visit this site again and get this message then maybe we could talk more? It's upto you. Please write a comment back. Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2006): i know how you alll feel. ive just got back from school trip, and the teacher i have fancied for ages went. i found out he had a girlfriend while i was there and hes been with her for nearly 5 years. hes 25 and im 14. i havent got him next year because i hate the subject he teaches, but it really herts thinking i wont have him. its the holidays now and because ive just been on a school trip with him for 5 days i miss him even more than i would. it really hert because he was flirting with this other young teacher. on the coach back i asked him if he misses his girlfriend and it hert so much when he said, just a bit it wud be nice 2 c her. i wish soo much it was me in her shoes. he is the most amazing person and i have cried over him so many times. ive been out with loads of people since ive met him but it doesnt feel right because the only person who is ever in my head is him! i am quite close to him and chat to him alot but he knows i really like him, just by the way i act. when he told me he has a girlfriend my face just droped. i c him staring at me sometimes and it really chears me up.( even tho he has a gf it really doesnt matter because i know no one could like him as much as i do, as nasty as it seems its true) i dont know what to do because i know he will still be with his gf when i leave, but ill keep asking him just in case (he might get the hint...) hes just all i ever have in my head n really i know 10 years isnt that big of a age gap, mine and my mates mums and dads have a bigger gap than that. the only thing that puts me off wanting to tell him when i leave is that he has a gf and it wouldnt be fair on any of them. if he is still with her when i leave ( he probably will be) im just going to have to face facts as much as it hurts. i know i want to keep friends with him though no matter what and i am prepared to do whatever it takes to keep our friendship, even if friends is all we could ever be. dont tell him until you leave just give him hints, then when you leave find out if hes single. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2006): Im 14 and I fancy my teacher too! He has taught me for 3 years one lesson a weekf or r.e but I never used to fancy him or anything! Suddenly, in the past 6 months I started to feel really weird and shy around him then I realised I fancy him. I used to just think I didn't fancy him and he was just a really good teacher thats why I liked him. Then when I told my friends, I felt like I really do fancy him! It's the summer holidays now and I really miss him and can't take my mind off him. He has a wife and kids too! Doesn't mean I should stop fancying him though. Hes in his 40's but hes really good looking! I would say as long as you don't tell your teacher then your fine. I think it's a part of life and enjoy it while you do fancy him because you won't fancy him forever. So if he teaches you then take advantage - answer all the questions in class, ask for help in class or even go talk toh im at break and say you need help with homework or coursework or whatever. I know it's really hard because I cry over him but then think that I will see him soon and I will be happy again. So dont worry about it anyone! It's fun and cute!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2006): i fancied a 34year old teacher. i am 14. i think you shouldn't for obvious reasons. if he is single then i suppose you could if you are desperate but me personally, i rather wouldn't. can you help me too please. i think another teacher fancies me. how can i be sure. we are both highly flirtatious and he smacks my ass, throws me in the sea and rivers, gives me wedgesin swimming pools and pulls my bikini bottoms down! he told me i look fetch in my bikini and that one day he was desperate for me to have it on. he always tries to catch me out in rounders and trips my up or grabs my arm or hand or whatever he can reach. he is totally obsessed with my ass and he has shoved his hand "accidently" so he says down my bikini top pushes my underwater, throws me around(all for fun!!!), chace me, splash me etc. what should i do. he does more than this. should i hint that i know he fancies me if he does?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2006): I have a massivecrush on my sciece teacher, i am 14 and he is 24, but he has already a wife and kid. He has been teaching me for 3 years and next year i wont be having him, i have cried and cried and hoped things will change but i know it wouldnt. Sometimes he even gets on my nerves, he isnt exactly very kind, he jokes around to the whole class and can cuss people if he wants to, not exactly me and him has been in a good friendship anyway. But at times, we do joke a lot, and at times when i look at him, i can't help but realising he stares at me and looks away quickly when he sees my eye contact. Anyway we've been to classwith each other and all sorts, but i learn nothing from him whatsoever, i can only get my education if i have a teacher that dont distract me.
not exactly easy forgetting him as i see him everyday in school, i even drag myself to school when im proper dousy just so i attend his lessons. I also really wanted him to be our form tutor, as our one is leaving, but no. I remember the last day of school when i was crying he gave me a hug, which i stopped straight away, strange huh?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): Having a crush on a teacher is a perfectly natural thing and it shows that you are emotionally maturing towards being able to have a "real" relationship of your own in the future.
Crush's are directed towards teachers for a number of reasons but one is that they are "safe"; you know on some level that your feelings will not be reciprocated, this is why teachers that respond to emotional or sexual advances from their students are so heavily punished.
Trust me; we've all been there - I doubt there is one person who has left school and didn't have any kind of emotional attachment to at least one of their teachers.
Believe me though, once you have left school you will see the feelings that you had back then in a very different way and that the experience was more of a way of letting out these newly aquired emotional abilities on someone who (ultimately) can not hurt you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): i really fancy my teacher, he is so amazing. he is honestly in my head 24/7 and i cant concentrate because im just so strung to him. i have only got 2 more lessons with him because i didnt pick his subject for next year, im going to miss him like mad. ive tried to get over him and look at other lads but i cant help myself. im nearly 15 and hes 25. my mood always deppends on him, if i catch him starring at me in class or he come and chats to me ill be in such a good mood but say nothing happend all lesson id be so down. i know nothing can happen at the moment so im not going to say anything, but when i leave it is not illegal so if hes single id be so happy.
like me i think you should not say anything at the moment- just be flirty with him so he has an adea you like him. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2006): If he is single and you really get on then i would go for it. But on the other hand do you want to break your friendship? If you feel its right then trust yourself!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2006): Noooooooooooooooooooooooooo! dont,first its wrong,second teacher are their to teach not for some girl they teach to tell them she fancys him,anyway iit will ruin toy relationship
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reader, **ilovesh** +, writes (19 June 2006):
hey i really fancy one of my maths teachers too (whats with fit maths teachers on here!) he is just so fit ive fancied him for about 2 years one of my mate knows beacuse she thinks hes fit too but i dont think she realises just how much i like him! when i talk to him it just makes me feel so happy and i know it sounds sad but it cheers me up!i think he has an idea me and my mate like him cos he we were talkin about him n he was kinda behind us!i really cant stop thinkin about him help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2006): leave it for now, i know how you feel because i feel the exact same way about my teacher, ive just found out hes 25 and im 14. everyone says he flirts with me, but i really dont see it! we always look at each other in class, and he is totally amazing. when you leave find out if he is single and then if he is you can do whatever you want because its legal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2006): I honestly do not think you should tell him. I know exactly what you mean and where you are coming from. But I think that you are at a vunerable age. When someone is nice to you it automatically makes you think you are like in love with them! And that you can't get enough of them and you keep making excuses to talk to them by asking them irrelevant questions. Am I right? If you were to tell him it could drastically change your friendship! you'll be fine once you find a hottie out of school who you adore!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2006): don't say anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): Don't tell. I've had the same problem and you'll forget in time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): To all you girls (and guys) who are in love with your teachers..listen up. These are just crushes...your crushes on your teachers are normal. Hate to burst your bubbles, kids-but these crushes will never amount to anything. Why? It's against the law, people! Sheesh!! I am in my 40's and I remember having a mad infatuation with my high school phys ed teacher. He was a cutie. But that's all it was...a big, dumb crush. Someday you'll be 35 and you'll look back at this, laugh your ass off and say "what the hell was I thinking?"
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reader, kobra +, writes (25 May 2006):
omg u guys think its so easy i mean all u seem to say is oh yeah wait until your about ot leave then just tell him, its is so not that easy, i am madly in love with my tech. teacher or so i think and he's so nice to me, but like you all say i suppose that is their job, this is so confusing im leaving within a week, and he has asked me to come back for a week to take part in an activity week at school so i suppose i cant wait but after that it'll all be over and i dont know how im going to survive... i wish there was a way we could tell them but nothing wud change you know, cos they may avoid us etc... its soo difficult i also got him to write in my leavers book which really helped me cos i just look at it whenever i need to, if i copy it out will you tell me if you think he likes me or not?? 'see ya ****, good luck with your exams , but im sure you'll be fine.have a great summer you've earned it. chill out party, down and then get ready for college.the days will be a lot quieter when you've left (not sure if thats a good or bad thing) im sure your ro will try n fill the void u leave behind.all the best for the future mr . ***** *******p.s feel free to come back and visit 'omg im just so confused i dont really get it... i want him to like me so im thinking dead positive about everything that goes on so maybe im exaggerating... please help someone and girls i know exactly how you all feel this is absolute torture... by the way he doesnt have a girlfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): I also have feelings for one of my teachers, im 17 and have like this teacher for about 2years now. Im realli gud friends with him, we have a laugh and a joke. When we went on a school trip to germany, we sat next to each other on the plane trip home and talked for the whole journey non-stop, about his family and my family, and everything. It was gr8.He gets upset if i ignore him aswel, coz we r so close. But i kno nothing cud ever happen. Im not gonna tell him because he is leaving this yr, and he knows how much it has pissed me off. But i dnt want to ruin ne frendship i have with him. And i suggest u dont tell him either because the chances r he will reject u. Also, there was a maths teacher at my school, who i was very close to aswell, and recently he committed suicide. I was so upset, i cudnt stop crying for weeks, and i was a mess, i realised that maybe wat i feel for the teacher i fancy, is just wat i felt for my maths teacher, respect and friendship, maybe nothing more. Think about it, do u realli love him, or is it just respect?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): Everyone has liked a teacher sometime in their lives, Its normal. If I were you, I would not tell him. It just a crush you will get over him sometime even though it may feel like you could never get over him but you will, trust me.. I’m 17 years old and have like and got over some teachers in my time. I do really like my ICT teacher at the moment, but its not a physical attraction (I don’t think), I like his personality, he’s really cool, sweet, kind etc and has done a lot for me over this past year. Every time I see him I fill up with joy, I’m going on study leave soon and will miss him a lot. Can students in collage go out with their teachers? Not that I would go out with a teacher cos its no right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2006): i'm not too sure either
i am 15 with a crush on my history teacher, i blush easily so when she bent over to help me and i got a look down her top i went red and i think my mates know and they havn't stopped laughing
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): DONT SAY ANYTHING!!! If you truely value being friends with a him, dont say anything. his job might be important to him, you saying anything will mess things up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2006): It is very common to get a crush on teachers because they can seem more mature and sophisticated than lads your own age, but remember, being kind to you is part of their job. Find out if he is single- if he isn't then you will just have to learn to accept that it can never happen. Also, having a relationship with this teacher could lead to him losing his job or even being jailed and you definitely don't want to be responsible for that. Enjoy your crush while you can- be patient and maybe when you leave school you could try and get to know him a bit more.
I'm 13 and I have a massive crush on my old Maths teacher. I recently moved up a set from his group because he was such an excellent teacher! (and maybe because I was trying to impress him)...! I can't help thinking about him all the time and avoiding him only makes things worse. I think he knows that I fancy him but I'm not sure. It's been pretty funny actually, because of various things that happened... one being when another teacher caught me rolling my kilt up in the corridor(all the girls do it) he (unfortunately) was standing right next to the teacher. He thought it was funny too- but he tried to hide it. He said my name in that shocked but joking tone, and I tried to hide my laughter, but couldn't help grinning back. Another time was when I was coming back from the nurse's office, because I was on my period and had really, really bad cramp- I'd gone to the nurse for some painkillers. He saw me coming from the nurse and had a funny smile on his face while saying, 'are you ok?' and i was forced to say that i 'just felt sick'! there were other times too, but I would be writing for days if I said them all. He is 26 and I'm 13- but he is sooooo cute. The truth is I'm enjoying the fun- but what should I do? Please help!
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reader, ChAz 4 NiK +, writes (11 May 2006):
dont tell him yet, i avent even told myn but e already knows cos the way ive been acting around him now e wont even look me in the eye, i fink e iz tryin 2 stay away but i know e feels sumat cos i can tell n wen i leave ill tell him n hopefully get his number but till then b friendly n flirty!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2006): Yes if you put out on the first date any bloke will love you forever. (speaking from experience)
Love
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reader, ChAz 4 NiK +, writes (26 April 2006):
im totally in love with my teacher. hes about 24 and im 14, but hes all i think about. i can stand the thought of not bein with him. ive never felt this way about anyone, i love him. if i was you i wouldnt tell him right now, if i was you id me friendly and flirty by giving him a flirty smile in class- like i do. one your last week off school wait outside his classroom, when all the students are out and ask to talk to him, or easier write a letter to him and while you give it him say " your all i want" with your number or msn on. thats what im doing because theres no-way im leaving school without doing anything because ill just blame myself forever. i love him so much and if you feel the same about yours, you would wait... its the only thing you can do right now, and believe me i know how hard it is because he is all i want, id die for him!good luck, hope it turns out like you want it to chaz
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2006): im in the same situation, when i leave school im defo going to tell him, but until then i know nothing can happen weres he could lose his job, but i love him and i want to spend the rest of my life with his.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2006): I know exactly how u feel!I have always liked teachers and older men in general but there has been this one teacher i have now liked for about 4 years. Im 16, about to go into my final year of high school and this teacher is 36 or 37. Like yourself he helped me through the toughest time of my life because he is my guidance teacher so thats his job...it was at this time i realised i had feelings for him but over the years it has developed. Dont tell the teacher you like him...i know it is tempting but imagine if that was u...he isnt allowed to do anything. Instead do what i did and be open with people...everyone in my year knows that i fancy this teacher and it soon gets around and some of my friends even joke 2 him about me and when he walks past me they will say 'ohhh look who it is' and he just smiles! I know that he feels something as he winks at me, watches me at lunch, always talks 2 me and he once put his hand on my lower back...nothing really but if he didnt like me then he wouldnt do it...simply to avoid confusion! If this teacher realises u like him and he is still nice 2 u and u can c signs like i have then it is most likely he has feelings for u. Just keep it friendly and flirty while u are still a student, once u leave however, u can do anything as nothing is illegal!! U just have 2 be patient! Hope u work things out soon!! Love anon. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2006): Hey! I fanC my histry teacher, he is so hot! ;) but no you shouldnt tell him because it would be worse for all of you and not to mention awkward all round! :( xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2006): Wait until you finish school, then find out if he is single. I had a crush on one of my teachers in highschool and we flirted for several years until I graduated (he was in his late twenties and we both knew what could happen if we did anything too soon). We met up later in the year and got on great and ended up dating for a couple of years. It was definately worth waiting for! Then in college I hooked up with another teacher at the end of my last year. I definately have a thing for teachers - I'll probably end up working in a school one day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2006): i 'used' to fancy a teacher. ok, maybe not. Funny how maths teachers seem to be the favourite right now... anyway - im trying hard to ignore him and apparently this other younger teacher is flirting with me but I don't really see it. The one i fancy is 35 but he looks older. I think he knows, all of my year and half of the one above knows. I dunno if he knows but he probably does - i think sum1 shouted it out at him. I told the younger teacher, he seems friendlier. Also, he used to be taught by the other teacher. Anyway - just tell some friends, lets it spread and wenever he/she walks past people start to call ur name and the teacher just smiles. He's great and he still acts normal around me. I guess he aint really bothered...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2006): I fancy my maths teacher as well. But the thing is whenever he is infront of me i start feeling hot and i can't get a word out of my mouth. My heart starts beating so fast. And i can't sleep or eat. When i'm stuck in the lesson i'm really shy to ask him and when i do he looks straight at me or sits by me and he smells GORGEOUS!!!!!! I want to get over him and i have tried to act like a normal student but it is impossible. You see he is only in our school for one year and i know i'll start crying when he goes and i don't want to cry because everyone thinks i FANCY but i've told them i don't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2006): help me i am in love with my teacher he is 27 n i am 13 help hes reeli shy but he flirts with me wot shall i do ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2006): HI MY NAME IS ZARA AND I FANCY A TEACHER AS WELL WHAT AM I TO DO HELP I HAVE GOT INTO LOT'S OF TROUBLE ABOUT THIS BUT I STILL LOVE HIM VERY MUCH WHAT SHALL I DO?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2006): Hey, i no exactly how you feel aswell. i have just turned 16 2day and really fanc my PE teacher whos 26. i get on so well with him and tell him everything, and he even gave me a birthday card 2day and afta school i went to find him 2 say thank you and he gave me a kiss on the cheek, and i have nevaer felt so happy. i refuse to tell him that i fanc him though and i think u should 2 cos it could be really embarassing for both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2006): Dont tell him. I had a crush on my teacher for ages but Ive learnt to live with the fact I'll never be with him. He is friendly to me aswell and that makes it even harder. When I first got the crush on my teacher I was obsessed and followed him all around the school. But I told my best friend how exactly I felt and she helped me try to get over him which of course I havent because I still fancy him. But it really helped to tell someone how I felt. Try telling someone (apart from your teacher) how you feel. I guarantee you that if you told your teacher how you felt he would be really embarrased. Try putting yourself in his shoes. how would you feel if a student had a crush on you? Would you be scared that you might lose your job? Trust me dont tell him. Dont ruin what you've already got with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2006): um, i don't know if you should tell him if you don't know if he doesn't feel anything for you. try this out. next time you 2 are talking alone together, step up close to him (but not too close) if he moves back then he is uncomfetable, if he stays there then he's either fine with it, or just doesn't care. well i am 17 turning 18 next month. i started to like this maths teacher last year, although he's not my teacher now, but we still talk a lot. last year he would tease me saying little things to me. i got a bit offended by them as i'm sensitive. i started to hate him and think he was a horrible teacher, so i stopped going to see him for help and started asking my twin's teacher for help. he would say to me, don't you like me? do you hate me? i said no, but i actually did hate him. although he kept up with the little jokes and would tell everyone else in the class to stop working and look up at him, except me. soon i got these strange feelings for him which made me scared, so i stayed away from him 4 a while. after, i managed to control my feelings (even though i had started to like him). i ended up talking to him a lot more. then i confronted him about him teasing me. he told me that it was his fault not mine and that he was sorry. now this year we talk a lot and he waves to me, i wave back to him, he says hello to me and on our out of school trips he sits next to me. now i don't know what to do as i'm confused. i want to get over him but i can't. he's leaving soon, and i want to get over him b4 he leaves so i'm not upset. if i don't get over him i don't know what i'll do coz i'll never see him again!!
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reader, jeff c +, writes (23 March 2006):
wait until you are 20 and then tell him. love never dies and its worth waiting for!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2006): i fancy my teacher and he told me he wishes he wanst married and my teacher, im 14 and hes 42 theres about 26 years between us! i think its just one of those things and we just have to do what feels best so go with your instinks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2006): i have the same problem and my teacher is 42. He always smiles at me and i get on well with him. Today i stayed behind in the computer room (where his office is) just so i could talk to him. try talking to your friends who don't know him and maybe they can help.
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reader, sosjess +, writes (21 March 2006):
hi i realy fancy my teacher i cant stop thinking about im 13 and she is 30
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2006): No i dont think you should tell him. Your young and maybe reading into things to much. This could jeperdise things and could make things worse. Don't tell him, seriously its not worth it, 9/10 chances will nothing come of it. Look at younger boys around your age. Just remember to be happy and that you have always got your friends and family there the whole way. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006): I know exactly how you feel! I think I am in love with this I.T. teacher at my school. He always stares at me and I practically melt into the floor! Go with your heart, tell him if you think it is the right thing to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006): Whether you tell him or not, remember i9t is illegal for him to date or show any sexual afection anyway. Why put the friendship on the line when all he's aloud to say is 'Awwhhh that's sweet thanks' or something of that type.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2006): hi
i am 13 gonna be 14 and a have a crush on my music teacher at school.everyone says he flirts with me but i cant c it.i no that he is really nice to and lets me off the hook for like loads of things but i dunno wat i should do!!i just found out that he is MARRIED WITH 2 KIDS!!!! i told my friends but they dont believe it cause they say'he acts single'which is sooo true. he lets me ask him personal questions like: why dont you wear you wedding rings?a nd things like that! i need help big time.so heeeeeeeeeeelp
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i dont think u should tell him caus eif you are wrong things will get weird!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006): hey i no how u feeli have a crush on my 29 year old teacher n i am 13 soon to be 14.he is really kind and nice and everyone seems 2 tell me that he flirts wif me .but seriously i cant c it!!! wat should i do ? n i dont think u should tell him. if u do n he does feel the same way thing can get really sticky gd luck i no i will need it :Pxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2006): Just want to say I don't think at the moment you should tell him! Maybe when you are ready to go for study leave? Might be better not to say it to his face either, try writting a letter but leave enough time so that he has a chance to talk to you about it after! It seemed to work for me and me and the teacher in question are still really good friends 4 years on!!Best of luckxxxx
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reader, Morag +, writes (10 February 2006):
Wel i no completly how u fel cos i fancy at least 5teachers in my school. but there is one thing u have 2 face. there is nothing u can do! i no its hard but u wil get thru it
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2006): hi! i fancy some of my school teachers and sometimes i feel like i dont no what to do. seriously, its not worth it as they are teachers. they are not allowed to have relations with you. so as long as it stays as just fancying them there is nothing wrong with that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2006): I fancy my ICT teacher too! But he is a bit of a perve. He has a girlfriend and he is having gay relations with a PE teacher and an ICT assistant. He's just so nice to me and that. I say flirt with him see how he responds.
Start like this:
What is his starsign? from this you can understand his responses and feelings. Don't tell him how you feel. He is a teacher even if he feels the same way he will turn you down. What you need to do is if you really feel you fancy this guy you should HINT that you fancy him, subtle but obvious enough for a man to understand. You know almost like dangling bait when fishing. See first if he takes the bait. Now ask yourself what is he putting on the line for this relationship: His courier his reputation he may never get another job in that proffesion. How much do you fancy him? Would you marry him? However in saying that he could be much the other way. Remember school is work to him and you know how people put on fronts for work personally he could be a very different person, and may take advantage of you. But in saying that if you really truly believe that you really fancy him and you don't think this is something you might get over in a year then go for it! Life is too short to hang around. Just don't confront him because you could put him in a very difficult position, it come to a choice between you and his courier. REMEMBER. If he doesn't take the bait and he knows you fancy him he is obviously not worth the hassle. remember if you fancy him let him come to you. If you go to him and he loses his job over it it will only lead to resentment. Although taking all of this into account even if you truly believe he is the ONE is he really worth risking your grades in that subject? Because if you two break up over something and he is not happy he may undergrade you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2005): Mate I dont think "fancy" is the right term you should use to describe this feeling. I think its more like an "admiration". I feel that beccuase of his kindnees and helpfulness its making you think that you should fancy the guy in return for his kindness. First you'll go think why is he doing this to me? why is he helping me a lot? am i special to him? As far as I know, its their job to be like that and they're getting paid for it as well. There could also be a good chance that you think its possible for you two to be in an intimate relationship. If so, just picture him that he is not able to have an erection due to his beer tummy and sweaty skin. Yuck!
Anyway, i posted this message coz I currently admire my Human Biology Teacher. And by referring to my feeling as an "admiration" I feel that I should look up to him as a role model instead of imagining us in a bed getting on. X_X So my advice is use the word "admire" instead of fancy so that youd feel you're giving him respect which limits you from fantasising stuffs as well.
Just to be honest, that's what Im trying to do and just focus my self on my studies So that when the test comes and I got an A. I could stick my test paper on his face and say I dont fucking need you in my life!!!
So IN YOUR FACE!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2005): I know how you feel i have had exactly the same problem in some cases its best to just move on and except that it is just not meant to be. And yet if there is any spark between you, you shouldnt give up. If you are a close friend to this male teacher maybe you should talk it through with him. I'm sure he will understand and your strong bond won't be broken even if you don't go any further then friends but you never know he ight even feel the same way as you i hope this has helped luv liss xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2005): Don't do it. It will wreck any relationship you have. What do you think you're going to get out of it anyway? It would be ILLEGAL for him to have any sort of intimate relationship with you, and he would be obliged to tell his line manager about what you had done/said.good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2005): hi,i think the simplest answer to your question is to not tell him cause u dont no how he is going to react its better to keep him as a friend than nothing atall ...love anonomous user
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2005): This answer will jus repeat wat othas hav already sed but u definitely should not tell him aboutyour feelings for him. This crush or fancying him will blow over with time. As a sometime helper in schools I have personally been on both ends of your problem - in school i once fancied a teacher and as a volunteer assistant in skools i have had girls tell me they fancied me but in both instances the feelings all blew over - so yours will 2 eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2005): Are you mad? He is your teacher. Get those thoughts out of your head now, not only are you confusing his care for romantic feelings, but you are jeprodising his career and freedom. Relationships between students and teachers are illegal. Cut it out, and get a grip.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2005): No, no, no. If you tell him then he will instantly back off and may also feel obliged to pass on what you have said to him to your form tutor. This woul be incredibly embarrassing for you, but one of the only ways that he could distance himself form a possible allegation from you. If you care about him, don't say a word - you would be making his job impossible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2005): i think you should leave it until he says sumthing to you as it is only a crush i personally would prefer the friendship than to fuck it all up by sumthing that doesnt really mean nething until he says to you i really hope you find out what to do but that is my personal way of lookin at things
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2005): Does he act like he fancies you back? And is he single? If so, maybe telling him how you feel is the best option. Be confident you're making the right decision first though, and you could be his girl!
Do what your heart tells you!
I love a man who works at my school and he isn't a teacher technically. He's a technician and so doesn't teach. Is it legal for me and him to be an item? I'm 16 too. Please add if you can answer this!!
Luvya xxXxxXxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2005): I wouldn't tell him but I do understand what you are feeling. When I was that age I had a phase where I would fancy women teachers and I became very confused. Two years later and I looked back on that and thought, how could I have fancied her? Don't worry it will blow over.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (20 September 2005):
 What would you gain by telling him you fancy him? More to the point, what would you lose? You say that you don't want things to change between you, but if you admit to the way that you're feeling, they will change -- and in a big way, as he will pull back instantly to avoid charges of unprofessional conduct (or worse).
My brother is a high-school teacher, and sometime headmaster, and over the years has had to deal with girls (and boys) who've admitted crushes to him. Each and every time it's been awkward in the extreme, as he has to try to strike a balance between being a good teacher and mentor and keeping a proper legal and professional distance from the student.
Please DON'T ruin everything that you enjoy about this professional person sharing his time and skills with you. Your admission would make things difficult for both of you.
Be aware that fancying a teacher is so common in high school that there's probably not a single adult you can name who hasn't had a similar experience. Fortunately, crushes fade with time and distance and when you find someone your own age who interests you.
The best thing to do is to keep this to yourself, safe in my ironclad guarantee that in 2 years' time, you won't even remember why you were attracted to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2005): Not while you are his student. This would be so wrong on your part. You don't have to tell him - he probably already knows if you fancy him or not. There is no need to go any further with this. Wait until you are out of school and find out if he is available.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2005): I used to fancy a teacher at my school but to be honest these feelings of love are just a part of growing up. He could be married and have kids. All I can suggest is enjoy this I remember one of the best things about growing up was developing crushes on people. You can still always be his friend and maybe one day when you leave school and find out if he's single you could ask him out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2005): No-do nottell him, dear. Male teachers do not look for girlfriends among their students. I will give you the same advice I gave another reader some time, ago...who asked a very similar question.
Teachers are forbidden by the school and by the law to engage in anything beyond a friendly teacher/student relationship. It's probably hard for you to think he likes you only in this limited non-romantic way but you will have to learn to accept the boundaries that must exist between students and teachers. Just accept that he's a wonderful role model and a great educator.
Having a crush on a teacher is very common in high school. I would guess he is a handsome, nice person and he has treated you with utmost respect and kindness. You will have to accept the fact that the relationship you may wish with him can exist only in your mind. You might learn some important things about yourself from your crush on this teacher, though. By identifying the things that you admire in this male teacher, you'll see what qualities are important to you when you get older and have opportunities to date guys your own age. Please don't expect the guys your age to match up with this teacher in terms of maturity, but take note of how nice & respectful this teacher is..just base future dating choices on those fine qualities in a person.
Hun, go and get out with your own friends and have fun being a carefree, fun loving teen. Enjoy life because all too soon..the huge responsibilities of adulthood will be "nipping at your heels" and the harsh reality of growing up way too fast sets in. Enjoy your youth and date boys your own age! Take care dear and best wishes.
Hugs,
Irish
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reader, wicky +, writes (19 September 2005):
No you shouldn't it will lead to nothing but embarrasment and upset, It is his job to be caring and listen to your problems leave it at that!!
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reader, kelly_ann +, writes (19 September 2005):
dont tell him it will ruin everything
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reader, Delila +, writes (19 September 2005):
Hi There,
I don't think you should tell him. If he is as nice as you say he is you will really be putting him on the spot. He is not allowed to date his students, even if you were an adult student he would still be fired immediately if he was found out. Why ruin something beautiful, sure it's fine for you to have romantic thoughts about him and for you to be friendly with him, but if you bare all and tell him how you feel about him he will have to stop being friendly back and you may well lose someone who in years to come could still be a part of your life. I hope you find this helpful.
Delila
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2005): Hi,I personally dont think you should tell him. From what you have said, it seems like you get on just fine as you are. I really dont want to patronise you, but you are sixteen, this man is 32, and could be in a relationship, have kids, or even be married! I reckon you should stay as you are, and I think you should try and force yourself into meeting some new friends, nearer to your own age, join a club or gym, and you never know, you might meet someone new who you get to really know and like!
Anyway good luck, I hope everything turns out ok for you!
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reader, laydee-v +, writes (19 September 2005):
Fancying your teacher can be hard but you have to make sure you really are in love before telling how you feel otherwise things might turn out wrong. if it is true love then ask to see him at the end of your lesson and tell him. good luck.
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