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writes:hi, I am in love (or at least fancy) my teacher. Everyone who has given me online advice says that this is perfectly normal although I can't talk to anybody because I know that It will become gossip. I think about him all the time and everyone says I should get a boyfriend but the guy I quite like is my twin brothers best friend. People also say that I should get involved in a club. I am in the school band and choir and I also help out at my old school. But I still can't block my feelings. I have been feeling scared recently that someone will guess and I will get bullied about it.My question is what do I do about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): i need to say im 16 n i got involed with a teacher n it spreed he has lost his jop he is going to court n i am left with my mam not evan speaking to me everytime i wlk into a room ( so plz dont do anything n if u think its love n u get a funny feeling wen ya with em jst try n ingnore them for me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 xxxxx
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reader, darksecretangel +, writes (9 May 2007):
 what ever you do dont drink to forget about him, because although this seems to work it doesnt and you end up feeling hung over and worse the next day. Have you tried being with your friends more friends are really good in these types of situations. Although they might not know you have a crush on your teacher, you can have a laugh with them and it will help you take your mind of it. I know this is going to be difficult because he is your teacher , but you can do it if you take it a day at a time. Also if you arent already too busy try meeting new people, this is a great way of extending your social status as well as discovoring new crushes :)
hope this helps and keep us informed of what happens :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, thanks for the advice. I just wanted to say that I have started a thought book so I can write things down so that no-one can read it. I go to a mixed-school. I know my twin-brothers mate likes me but as a friend we had a really good conversation as we came out of school after band practice. Now my best-mate fancies my brother so I think there is hope!!!
I am trying to get my crush out of my head starting right here right now. Any ideas for support?
Thanks again
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reader, darksecretangel +, writes (6 May 2007):
hunni have you tried writing it down in a diary, its a good way of getting the mixed emotions out. of course you are going to fancy your teacher. teachers to us seem like the perfect people kind intelligent, and the whole forbidden relationship also adds to the whole situation because they have the air of mystery about them.and danger, ;) why dont you try and get to know him them you mite see that its only an infatuation because he is off limits, but if you do find yourself falling more in love wtih him, consider what would happen if you told him, how it would feel
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2007): Believe it or not, I'm kind of in the same situation. I fancy my teacher quite so. I don't know what do about it either. I think he might like me back, but I'm not so sure, because he's married. Two of my friends even thought there was something going on between me and him. They were saying stuff like "Control yourself! (meaning when I'm around him) or "His wife is here." or "We know what two do together when you're alone in his classroom." Well, I told them there was nothing going on. The truth is, I wish there was something going on between us. But time will pass, and maybe I'll find a guy my own age one day. I still don't know though, I'm planning to tell him how I feel when I graduate 2 years from now. But then again, it might be a bad plan.
Just do what you feel is right. Except you've got to be sure that he likes you, or things will be awkward between you two.
Check if he smiles at you all the time, or looks at you a lot, or stands/sits close to you, seems to favor you in some ways, or wants to help you with a problem (for homework)
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reader, Merchant +, writes (3 May 2007):
As a teacher, I think it is important to state, that it is perfectly natural for pupils to become close to their teachers. However, it is inappropriate, and could lead to the sacking of the person you so like.
So think carefully about putting your 'love' in that situation. For teachers they need to report, any crush ASAP, so that the person can be spoken to.
Finally, it is interesting to note that teachers are in an very compromising position. They often do not have much of a life outside their all encompassing careers and school often provides the only area for them to meet partners.
I know that plenty of my colleagues in the past and gone with and slept with their teachers. However, if caught, you can be sacked.
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reader, Secondhand_serenade +, writes (2 May 2007):
I have the same problem. I fancied my teacher for so long but everyone told me that I shouldnt do anything because the chances are he does not have the same feeling back. I put my attractions down to the fact that I love men that are in control of situations so teachers represent this. You must know that you should never take action, you will end up embarrassing yourself and your teacher. It is probably just a crush, and once you find a nice guy you will forget about the teacher. As for the twin brothers friend thing I would still try and develop your relationship with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi I just wanted to say thanx 4 the advice!!! I am still in mixed emotions though!!! I'll try to get my teachert out my head!!!
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reader, Mystic Moo +, writes (2 May 2007):
 Don't worry. I was in a situation where I loved my teacher (I still do now) and no-one knew until I told my so-called 'best friend' and she felt 'awkward' around me so broke friends with me and told everyone. It just shows that you can't trust anyone. Now people tease me about it, some cows even skit at me and make rude jokes) but most people aren't bothered (in fact, they prefer it when I don't talk about him.)But people knowing is actually a blessing in disguise because now I can talk to him and be myself around him (kind of) without worrying about people finding out. The best thing for you to do is not even trust your closest friends with it and not writing it down anywhere that could be found out.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 i know i may sound like a broken record but this happens to everyone-i had the same situation.are u in an all girls school? this will pass the older you get and the more you wil socialise with different ppl.this man someone you see every day and someone you also cant have and this is tempting for everyone.dnt worry this will pass in time.Also,so wat if the other guy is ur bro's friend?things like that shouldnt stand in the way,it should make things more comfortable with everyone as you both know eachother,try and spend more time with this guy and you will see that this teacher is not the right guy for you.good luck xx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 You can keep it to yourself or talk to a counselor at school. Schoolgirl crushes are as common as the sniffles and the treatment for both is the same. It will pass with time.
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