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writes:My boyfriend cheated on me with my older sister, but then I took him back. He somehow convinced me that it will never happen again and that I should work on my trust. I was really convinced that he would never hurt me again. But, then I found out my sister still likes my boyfriend. But my boyfriend assured me that he has absolutely no feelings for my sister any more. But now that paranoid feeling has come back, it is the same feeling I got before I found out he cheated on me. My sister and my boyfriend are the best liars I know so I'm feeling hopeless. I just know something is going on behind my back, and I'm even crying writing this because I haven't got the strength for all of this. My dad just moved out recently, which has caused me a lot of hurt and this is just adding on to that pain. I am going away for four days with relatives soon and that means my boyfriend and sister will be together, alone for four days. What should I do in this situation?
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (28 July 2010):
firstly i am shocked your boyfriend told you to work on your trust issues after he cheated on you with your own sister.
You need to end this relationship because you will never be able to trust this man, you said yourself that he is an excellent liar which means you will never be able to 100% trust him.
He cheated on you with your own sister, this is a double betrayal and to be honest you should dis-own your sister too!
Live a happy life with a man you can trust and who you can introduce to your family and who respects you.
Not a man who you introduce to your family, sleeps with your sister, lies to you and then convinces you that you should work on your trust issues.
get far away from these two people in your life as you would be a happier person without them and you will meet someone who deserves you.
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reader, almc  +, writes (28 July 2010):
Kick both of them out of your life, if your own sister won't back off, and knows you two are together then she needs to get a life. But I think you should walk away, if you can't trust him then it will never work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): please pull yourself together. these 2 liars are not worth the pain you are going through.
as hard as it isi think you know the truth. these 2 have committed the ultimate betrayal and i think you know that they are still at it. so please think carefully and make wise decisions. you can put all your fears to rest once and for all. pretend that you are still going away but come back slowly (noiselessly) and when they are both alone. you may not like what you find but at least you will then know. (but make sure no one forwarns them)your sister is no sister at all for putting you through this. as for your bf, he is scum, isn't he. as you say he really is the best liar as well.
hun, you deserve better. no man is worth the pain you are going through.hugs from me.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 July 2010):
I think you should just end it to be honest. You can't trust a man like this, and you can't trust a sister stabbing you in the back. She still likes him, and I think she will make a play while you're away. And I think he'll go for it, because he's a liar and a cheat. He then told you that you should work on your own trust. So basically he's doing nothing to stop this. End it.
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reader, boydjohn026  +, writes (28 July 2010):
Forget him and get another boyfriend
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (28 July 2010):
 Sounds like you can't trust either of them. He already proves that he's not trust worthy and with somone in your family... what more proof do you want? Leave him alone and let your sister have him. You deserve better.
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reader, natmarie +, writes (28 July 2010):
 Finish with him . End it comepletley - neither he or your sister respect you ., They are cruel and nasty. I so hope you find the strength to leave this horrble man. Cut your sister off too. What nasty people you have around you. Please try to cut your losses, move out, move on, block emails, change your numkber do whatever it takes. This will erode your confidence completley otherwise. You deserve better than that. Go and find your happy future. You will look back at this one day, and realise that leaving him was the best thing you ever done for yourslef. I wish you all the luck in the world. Nat Mariex
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reader, Theblues79 +, writes (28 July 2010):
I understand how you feel and personally if there is no trust in a relationship then things will never be right. It is hard to regain trust after it is broken so my advice would be to leave him...leave him and if he is right for you then things will work themselves out. Let him know that its hard to trust him and that you need to deal with your trust issues alone.
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