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writes:i have a question... my boyfriend of 3 years is jealous of the fact that i gave my ex boyfriend oral sex and he ejaculated in my mouth, and ive been with him for 3 years and he has not done it 2 me. first of all my ex boyfriend treated me like a queen he dined me, he took me out and was the best boyfriend ever, the only reason we broke up was because he didnt live where i lived and it was complicated but he showed how a man is supposed to treat me. now my boyfriend is a ass hole he treats me like shit, he doesnt have a job, he is possesive, jealous, he is a liar, doesnt do nothing for my kids and keeps me from going to school cause he thinks im cheating on him so i feel like i should not have to please him the way he wants to be pleased cause u dont do nothing for me and its been 3 yrs, am i wrong for that???
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): After reading your story I want to meet your ex. Sis be real was he really that good or just a better manipulative bastard who got you to swallow. If he loved you all that and you loved him even more he would be with you now...so get over the fiction and realize that you have been had. Nothing is more important than a loving relationship. The man that puts you first is the man that loves you most. Now you may not want to reciprocate but that is a different matter.
...So in closing if you are so dumb to leave the man you love then swallow hard and love the man you are with.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (1 November 2010):
 Forget the blowjobs. Why are you with this guy in the first place? Why be with a man when you aren't comfortable with him - are you sure you aren't better off single?
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reader, ashie31 +, writes (31 October 2010):
I dont see how you can do it. thats not right what he does to you now. tht was your past and it was before he met you so he should not judge you for that. your with him now and thats all tht should matter. sit him down and talk to him and tell him how your feeling abt your relationship i wish u the best if ya need to tlk im here
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 no your completely right if he doesnt do anthing nice for you you shouldnt return the favour.doesnt seem like your very happy in this relationship should you really be in a relationship like that around your kids as its not gonna show them how to treat their partners when they get old enough.sounds like he sees you more like possession than a lover which in some cases isnt a good thing as his attitude could get worse and lead to other things i say get out of the relationship and find someone better
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (31 October 2010):
"...my boyfriend is a asshole, he treats me like shit, he doesnt have a job, he is possessive, jealous, he is a liar, doesnt do nothing for my kids and keeps me from going to school cause he thinks im cheating on him..." WHY ARE YOU STILL WITH HIM??? I dont understand at all, unless there's something you're not telling us. Say sth more, otherwise if your relationship is all you have described here, then a person in their right senses would break up with him.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (31 October 2010):
 Are you wrong for that? I think you are wrong to have stayed with him for three frickin years. You have kids and he has no job? WTF is that?! Screw that. Kick him to the curb.That's not fair to you or your children. He is jealous because of something that is in the past? That's the most retarted thing I have heard all day. Get rid of him. Why did you stay with him for three years? You want to go to school, go to school. You have one life. Live it how you want to. Live it for your kids.
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (31 October 2010):
 I think Odds Has SPOKEN! And what GREAT words has he spoken I'll SAY! I AGREE! Nothing I can ADD! No Watered Down Advice Here!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): I think you should find someone that treats you like your ex boyfriend did. Being in a relaionship is about two people pleasing eachother not one person pleasing the other person. You should find someone that treats you like a queen again. someone that is not jealous. Being in a great relationship is the best feeling in the world. Don't deny yourself of that.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (31 October 2010):
Go back to your ex
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): An ultimatum won't solve the underlying problem here, that will just foster further resentment. It really sounds like you have a dysfunctional relationship and what is concerning me, is the kids. Are they out of harm`s way, here. Please ensure that they aren`t exposed to any of this..ok.
The only way to improve this situation is to look after yourself by letting this guy go. The situation will not improve-it will only get worse as time goes on and he will further degrade all the remaining self-respect you have for yourself. Jealousy and possessiveness tells me he wants ownership over you and that is very damaging and unhealthy. Call this a day. But the sooner you do it, the sooner you are able to heal from what he has happened to you. We all have the right as humans to be treated with respect, so in one's everyday life, it's critical we identify all the things and the people that drain us...and eliminate them from our lives. In the future, you might want to think about what you have learned from this relationship...and seek to only surround yourself with high quality relationships that support, challenge, and encourage you to be your best. Good luck and take care.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (31 October 2010):
 This is NOT about your BF cumming in your mouth. This is about the fact that you've got a shitty boyfriend. Why would you be with someone who is a jerk, treats you terribly, is useless, lies to you, keeps you from bettering yourself? This guy is holding you back and there is NO reason to stay with him. There is nothing you could possibly say to make me think that your boyfriend is someone you should stay with. If he hasn't changed in 3 years, he's not going to.
Drop him like he's hot!!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 Yeah, why are you with Mr. Asshole at all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): Just tell him...if he wants to cum in your mouth, he needs to treat you better. Crude, but he'll get the point.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 I'm asking the same. Why are yu with this man? You've given it 3 years, and he's not turned from a frog to a prince yet. Me thinks it's time to move on and find another man who knows how to treat a woman right.
And yes, you and us all know this boyfriend of yours is way out there in retroactive jealousy land, and is overall a jealous type, and those types are in general a lot of work and little fun. They bring you down. Find someone who brings out the best in you, not someone who thinks you are a cheating slut.
You're only in the wrong for one thing: sticking with this guy. You know you can do better.
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reader, Odds +, writes (31 October 2010):
 Why are you even dating this guy again? And for that matter, how does he know you gave better blowjobs to a previous boyfriend?
Look, if we assume that you just typed this out of frustration and he is fact a good guy (kind of a stretch, but just run with it), nothing is going to get better unless you both learn to give more. Refusing to do something, whether it's trusting the other person more or swallowing, just because they other person isn't doing enough, is a way to ensure no one does anything for anyone. That's hardly worth it.
And, if he's not a good guy - well, he's willing to date you even though you have kids already, which most high-quality guys won't do. If that's his only redeeming quality, you're better off without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): "am i wrong for that???"
Well, stop being his girlfriend if he's such an ass. Get a counselor instead.
You describe him as a monster who you won't accept his semen orally from, and if he was a nice guy you'd do it.
But the real question is why you are with the monster in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): if ur boyfriend is so awful just dump him. Theres no point being in a non-productive relationship where it is clear that neither of u wants the other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): no, you don have to do anything you dont want to but if yu really fel that way about him why are you with him? if i was him i would be jelous of your ex also
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