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writes:Me and him have been best friends for a long long time. We're so close that it fascinates people. We were that close that we ended up in bed together and it never made anything awkward. We're still extremely close, but the thing is, I think I'm in love with him. But at the same time I can't imagine a relationship with him? What's going on here? I'm so confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): That's happened to me before. I thought I loved my best guy friend but I didn't. It was because we were extremly close and barely left each others sight. It's just phase. Don't worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): Usually when a person is in love with someone, they want a relationship. Here you are saying, you are ìn love but you cannot imagine having a relationship with him. Then I would safely state, you aren`t in love but probably just infatuated. Perhaps you are leaving the `door open`to explore other avenues of dating. You are pretty young to be dating super seriously, in my opinion, anyways. And I wonder, is that perhaps your head here, telling you to slow it down a notch. Please give that some thought.
And I have to ask, why are you having sex with him. Please recognize that sex does not get you a bf. But it can get you pregnant at a very young age, it can get you a few STD's to deal with and a lot of future heartache and worry..not just for you but your family as well.
When it comes to sex, there are two very important things to remember: one, that you are ultimately the person in charge of your own happiness and your own body; and two, you have a lot of time to wait until you're totally sure about it. So begin to start taking charge of your life. And it will show that you are powerful enough and mature enough to make your own decisions about your mind and body, in the future. Your body and emotions are precious. When you get older, please only have sex with someone who is willing to share his heartfelt emotions and wants to commit to you, in a mutually loving and respectable relationship.
Be strong and use your head, hun Good luck
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reader, MAGGIE2010  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 That is usually how it goes. If you think that you are falling in love with him you need to tell him. If yall are as close as you say he will understand and either accept it or not. A platonic relationship that becomes best friends is hard not to fall for each other. I understand where you are at and how hard it is. When you tell him it will either make your relationship closer as friends or end it, so becareful...
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