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anonymous
writes:Hi all, i need advice really, about something thats worryin me a little....... On new years eve I met a guy and had a one night stand with him. He was amazing. I really fell for him but was too shy to ask for his number, the next day he left, and I thought I woul dnever see him again as he lives 70 miles away. Anyway, after a few weeks I decided to look for him on facebook. I found him and sent him a message. He replied and seemed really happy that I had found him and soon he asked if I wanted to meet him again. He was also messaging me sayin he thought I was amazing, he really liked me etc etc. We started to message on facebook every day and then eventually he sent me his mobile number and asked me to text him. So I sent him a text this morning, to which he replied, and I replied to that but he has not sent me a reply at all. Now I dont think hes keen cos he has not replied. But why would he go off me so soon? Like literally overnight? I really really like him, I thought he liked me.
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reader, luv2luvme  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 I would be concerned about why he communicates via texting more than why he never returned your last text message.
If he was truly interested in anything other than sex then he would have taken the time to pick up the phone to get to know your better. That's just my opinion I hope I am wrong.
Meanwhile take it slow, control your emotions and guard your heart as of now you only have a sexual relationship with this guy. Good luck!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (2 February 2011):
 He sent you his mobile number and asked you to text him. That's a great sign right there! If he truly wasn't interested, he wouldn't have sent his personal number - don't make him regret it! Let HIM be the next one to text - even if it takes 3 days. NO MORE TEXTING until HE does.
Guys like to do the pursuing. They don't appreciate anything that is too easily won, so back off and let him be the guy! Good Luck Hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): I would back off a bit or he will feel pursued. Let him do a bit of the running. Don't text him, let him get back to you. Don' look too keen. You did find him on Facebook after all. Relax. If he wants to see you he will.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (2 February 2011):
Just be patient. Then when he responds you take at least 20 minutes to respond. He is not obligated to respond to you right away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): Give him a chance to reach out to you, otherwise you will smother this thing before it even begins properly, okay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): wait a bit love, his phone proably run out of battery or he's lost it. they dont usulally switch on and off like that
no worries
xx
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (2 February 2011):
Please don't ring him or text him again, let him do a little bit of the chasing here.
If he is genuinely interested in you he will reply to your text, it may be that he has been extremely busy all day.
However, it may be that you were just purely a one night stand.... he hasn't exactly gone out of his way to find you has he!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 February 2011):
 He's probably busy. Ease up, relax, don't panic and don't text him any more today. Not everyone loves texting and not everyone replies instantly. It's like a phone call, I will answer if I am able but if I am in the middle of something, I am not going to stop and start a texting conversation.
Just relax, breathe, unclench that knot in your gut and stay calm. You'll find out soon enough if he is interested, you are doing all the chasing right now which isn't a great sign. Give him a chance to reach out to you, otherwise you will smother this thing before it even begins properly, okay?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (2 February 2011):
 What ever happened to patience? God, we are such an instant gratification society now. I blame the internet.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (2 February 2011):
 I agree with CaringGuy... I think you are overreacting on this one too. He replied to your first text message and that is a positive sign. You contacted him from facebook and he must've given you his number.. so again, a positive sign.
Finally though, don't put too many "marbles" in the relationship basket yet. You are still getting to know each other and I am sure you are going to discover there is more to him -- both positive and negative. So definitely take it back a notch (that's the problems with one-night stands--- you can become emotionally invested very quickly)
Finally, I'll be honest, texting is a poor way to communicate and at this stage of the game you should probably be talking via voice to see if you have anything in common that is worthy of seeing each other.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): You had a one night stand and the only reason you heard from him again was because you had to find him on facebook.
Doesn't that tell you something?
If he was keen to have something more he wouldn't have left without giving you his number. I'm sure he does like you but i don't think he wants a relationship.
You only met him once when you slept with him and fell for him straight away. You don't even know the guy, not really.
He might be seeing other people or have a girlfriend.
Give him one last text then leave it up to him. If he's interested you'll hear from him. Just don't invest everything in a guy you hardly know.
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reader, feathery +, writes (2 February 2011):
Wow, he didn't reply to text number 2 so clearly he's run a mile....
Pft, get over yourself woman, he's probably busy at work or something. Chill out and give his some time to reply. Just because he's not been in touch for a few hours doesn't mean he never wants to speak to you ever again!! Get a grip and have some patience...
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 February 2011):
I think you are hugely overreacting. It's been a few hours since you text him - he's probably at work. You need to relax right now, or you'll appear very insecure about it all. Him not replying to one text is no big deal, especially since you've only been texting for one day.
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