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writes:i need help for years i`ve had a sexual attraction to my sister in law and hurting my brother is the last thing i want to do but this sexual attraction is really strong i really want to get her in bed what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): And you expected we could change your mind? You had this idea since the beginning. Until you are not full of shit you won't regret it, so be it. Learn the hard way, but don't come later saying we didn't told you so!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): Ok I might get yelled at for introducing this idea. How close are you to your brother? Some couples enjoy threesome activity. Try to get what your brother think about threesome without revealing that you want to be that third person. If he shows interests, you might have a chance. If that's not his thing, then move on. Get yourself a woman or be best friend with your hands. :-)
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (6 April 2011):
You haven't done anything since the 15th of January, which could mean one of three things:
1. you got sensible
2. your sister in law said no.
3. you're scared to do anything yet want it despite everything
Either way, it all came to a good ending for your brother and sister in law. If you picked door number 1 there's a good ending for you too.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 April 2011):
You're the waste of time, not us. Get some balls and grow up and stop ogling your brother's (a real man, unlike you) sister.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnot helped guys can see this was a waste of time
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reader, ALAMBO  +, writes (18 January 2011):
I think you should try as much as possible to get her in bed. At least if she accepts and you succeed, we will also learn how keep our lovers away from our loved ones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): Think if your wife in future used by someone and what pain you will go through the same kind of pain your brother will go through if he come to know, surely what you sow that you will reap, so better to be good
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 January 2011):
As the the others have said, you need to learn from this. You can't get what you want this time, so you just have to grow up, learn from it and move on. There is no better advice, because there is nowhere else it can go. Unless you do what C-Grant says and tell your brother or her, which will ruin everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): The advice you get here is the best you can get ... You already know that you will hurt your brother and we do not know how much guilt you will feel after you get her in bed, that is IF you get her in bed.
You did not mention anything about her and how she feels and whether you 2 have been flirting or it is just onesided on your part. Just thinking about it and wanting to do it does not mean that she will jump at the chance. If you decide to do it, you need to make sure that she is intrested in doing it just as much as you are, and without knowing that for sure there is no way that you can ASSUME that she will do so.
Now having stated the above, not all fantacies can be fullfilled, I for one could have done 4 beautiful girls in my family but I know that I could never live with the guilt even if they were to agree. I am not sure how you will feel and how guilty you will feel if anything happenes between the 2 of you, especially how the guilty feelings will affect your relationship with your brother and whether you can live with a secret like that for the rest of your life.
If your brother slept with your wife, wouldn't you want him to tell you that he had slept with your wife, instead of being fooled that your wife is such a faithful one?
Think about it.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 OK, I don't think I've ever seen an OP post a follow-up to this sort of question before. So I'll bite.
You want some advice that goes beyond "get over it." How about taking your brother out for a pint and telling him exactly how you feel about his wife. I would imagine that will give you some closure on this issue, one way or another.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (16 January 2011):
Look OP, you simply can't always get what you want. That's life, kid. Deal with it or she and the family will be right to think ill of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): What do you want us to tell you? that you should go on and scratch your itch with her and that's it. Yeah right! Even if she concented, what then you are going to steal her from your brother?
Be serious and act like a NORMAL ADULT. Do you know what would happened if all of us can actually made true each of our fantasies? Everyone would be in jail or dead. I want to screw Brad Pitt, but I won't go nuts after him to stalk him, geez.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnot very helpful guys don`t you think this is hard enough if i cud just wish it away i wud but i`ve felt this way ever since i first saw her and i can`t bring myself to say anything to her cause i`m scared of what she might think less of me or the family if they found out
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (15 January 2011):
You know what you should do. You're just hoping that one of us gives the snake in your pants the green light so you can justify it to yourself later. Yeah, well it ain't gonna happen.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 January 2011):
KEEP IT IN YOUR PANTS! An forget her.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (15 January 2011):
 What should you do? You should FORGET ABOUT IT and her, that's what!!
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (15 January 2011):
I think some of these questions are people pulling our chains. I say this because I can't imagine anyone could be so heartless and stupid to even begin to think that such a thing as this would be a good idea.
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reader, golddigger99 +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Get some counceling or sex therapy, because from the sound of things, you are have been fixtated on a woman who is not available. If this has been going on for years, then you need help. Until then, stay clear of this woman--and your brother!
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (15 January 2011):
 "i really want to get her in bed"
First of all, this is SO selfish it's unbelievable! You have not for one moment considered anyone apart from yourself and your own sexual desires.
This is how it sounds:
"I WANT HER, so therefore I will have her, even if she doesnt want me."
This would be RAPE.
Grow up. At 18 to 21 you should understand a bit more about love and sex and you should know we cant always have the people that we fancy. Do you lust over porn stars? Film stars? Music stars? Just because you fancy them, you will NEVER have them.
This woman married your brother. She LOVES your brother. She is in a relationship with your brother. She is your SISTER by marriage.
If this isnt enough to cool your feelings then you need to find another outlet for them. Stop acting like a hormonal teenager who cannot control his penis. You have a willpower. USE IT.
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reader, kenny +, writes (15 January 2011):
 In a few words, steer clear. If you love and respect your Brother don't even think about going with your sister in law, doing so will tear your family apart and the likelhood is that your brother would never speak to you again. This is an infatuation, and they tend to be short lived, so my advice would be to let it fizzle out of its own accord. In time the sexual feelings you are having for her will lessen, and you will be so glad that you diden't make a move, and you will still have a relationship with your brother.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (15 January 2011):
How about learning what it means to be an adult human being, and earning the priviledges that go with that status. Which means just because you want something doesn't mean you get to have it. Do what every other responsible man in your position would do -- take a cold shower and stay the hell away from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): Does she feel the same for you too? In any case get away from them. One would be rape, the other would be adultery and of the despicable kind.
Find your own girl and leave your brother's family alone.
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