Despite our 14 year age difference she wants to take it to the next level

A male age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I guys I was trying to ask google for a answer to my heavy heart when I found this community. I met this girl on-line a while back. We became very good friends. And with time we got very close. When we met she was going through a crisis or confidence and had a very low esteem of herself. I was able to get her to have my confidence and believe in herself. She helped me too alot always there for me when am down and really helped me get over my ex .. Its been close to 7 months now since we have met and she has really changed from the girl I met the first time. She is much more confident and has more grip on her life. She is also doing very well in school ( Now one of the best student in her school) and she eats better now ( she was having eating disorder when we met) she looks much more healthy. We connects in virtually every aspect of life and I see her as a soul mate. Then 3 month after we met she asked me out. She is my dream girl and I would I have jumped at a chance to date her, but for one thing. she is 18 and am 33. Although she doesn't see our age different as a problem. For me I do. A part of me feels I am not the best person for her and I know because I have helped her a lot since we met she naturally fell in love with me ( the first guy she would fall in love with) and I really love her too hardly I day without seeing each other. although she has requested many time to come to my place. I have declined because I don't want anything Intimate with her (again because of the age different). just as I have declined the Idea of moving the friendship to the next level. I love this girl but am thinking I dont want to take advantage of her, she tells me am not and she really loves me. But my mind is saying if I want the best for her I would not date her. It would be painful to see her date some other guy, but I feel maybe that is best thing for her. She asked me to promise her date her when she is old enough or when am comfortable with her age. And promised to wait for me. I really don't know what to do. I love this girl But I want the best for her. But due to the gap in your age I am thinking maybe am not the best.

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