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*essypj
writes:Hey, this isn't really a problem I was just wondering what everyone thinks on whether guys and girls can ever just be friends? My friends think one will always find the other sexually attractive but is this true? I've had lots of guy friends for years lol! X Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): Yes! I'm 32 years old and my best friends are men. Men don't judge and nit pick like women do. They are just easier to be around and talk to :)
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (22 December 2010):
 Absolutely.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (21 December 2010):
 I think it's possible, but usually at some point in the relationship deeper feelings creep in. How those are handled will ultimately define the relationship.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (21 December 2010):
 Yes it's possible to just be friends with the opposite sex, have you ever seen "When Harry met Sally"? perfect example right there.
I have had guy friends for years that I am not sexually attracted to at all in any way and we have stayed friends.
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reader, steph007  +, writes (21 December 2010):
Yes, it is possible. And even the sexual attraction does not make it impossible. You may find sexually attractive even your enemy, or a person on the other side of the street. Friendship and sexual feelings does not exclude each other.
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reader, CaptainObvious +, writes (21 December 2010):
 If you're attractive, the guys have noticed.
They may not have acted for various reasons - but they notice.
Some people can handle that sort of sexual tension in a platonic relationship, some can't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): I am friends with lots of girls, but it is sometimes a bit weird but I can definitely say that none of them fancy me. I probably would not go out with any of them either, not that they are ugly.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 December 2010):
 Guys and girls can be friends I believe. But not all guys and girls. I for one have a hard time being friends with men without at some point having had any romantic/sexual attraction towards them. Once that "phase" I guess you could call it has passed, I have been able to be friends.
I think men and women become friends easier when they are forced to be together because of the circumstances, such as studying together, working together, or being on the same sports team etc. In most other situations it is quite typical for the one part to fall for the other.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 December 2010):
I don't believe this sentiment. I have had a lot of female friends, and I haven't fancied any of them. So unless they all fancied me and I'm the world's greatest sex machine (which I very much doubt sadly), I think that you can have friends of the opposite sex without either fancying the other.
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