I miss the man that sexually abused me as a child! I want a friendship with him but can a leopard ever change it spots?
Q. I need some advice, When I was 13 I met a man who was almost 60, and we struck up a bizarre friendship. He understood me and advised me as I was having a lot of personal problems. He took care of me, he gave me lifts places, he listened to me, and i ...
A. 1 May 2010: It sounds as though you are trying to deal with this all on your own? That the reason that you are so glad to talk to him is that he seems like a source of support and comfort, which sound as though they are things which are missing in your life?
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I'm tired of a one sided friendship
Q. this girl and i have been friends for a very long time. up until last year, we were really close. what tore us apart was that we drifted apart due to school and work related schedules not working well with the other -- which was fine. But then ...
A. 1 May 2010: If she never phones you, then how is it possible for you to ignore her phone calls when she phones you?
Are you really being honest here?
To me, there is only one reason to be friends with someone, and that is because you like them and enjoy t... (read in full...)
Why won't he tell me about his female friend?
Q. This guy has confused me. We started off as friends. We get along really well together. He is the most caring man I ever met. Gradually, I felt I could see a possibility of a future with him. We are together almost like 24x7, except that we don't ...
A. 1 May 2010: Maybe he is gay?... (read in full...)
I don't classify this as cheating but my boyfriend will!
Q. Okay, Ive been dating a guy for about 2 months and I told him I would never cheat. But recently I was out with friends (1 girl and 2guys) one of the guys is an ex boyfriend. When we were leaving, i hugged him goodbye and I turned to kiss him on ...
A. 1 May 2010: Would you have behaved in exactly the same way that you did if your boyfriend had been there, watching you?
Are you quite happy to tell your boyfriend what happened?
If not, then you are cheating.
Cheating means to decieve your boyfriend a... (read in full...)
Yearning for something else, and cheating to look for it
Q. I am in a bit of a quandry and I hope to get some advice or at least some insight. I've been married to a really wonderful man for the past 7 years and we've been together for a total of 13 years. We have no children. We've been through a lot of...
A. 27 April 2010: Being 'in love' isn't something which lasts. However, you can move on from being 'in love' to loving someone deeply, in a way which can last. It sounds as though you are looking for something that is missing in your own life - in your view of you... (read in full...)
His 3rd date rule is too fast for me.
Q. I recently got out of a relationship about a month ago. I started seeing someone new who I have amazing chemistry with. Problem is he's 27 and believes in the 3rd date rule, I told him no and I believe in having sex after I'm in a relationship with ...
A. 27 April 2010: Good sex involves more than one person. It isn't about what one person or the other wants - but about what both of them want. You don't want sex - and so there shouldn't be any sex taking place - and there should be no need for you to hav... (read in full...)
Will guys judge me because of my lack of sexual experience?
Q. This might sound very crazy but I desperately need some wider opinions on this. I dated my boyfriend for two years and despite being together for so long, we never had sex. It wasn't that I didnt want to sleep with him or that I had specific ...
A. 3 April 2010: The thing about sex is that it doesn't have to be all or nothing. If you do meet someone that you like, then just take things one step at a time, at your own pace. Most people don't leap into bed on a first date or talk about their past sexua... (read in full...)
Help! Who do I believe?
Q. Dear Cupid, help me out on this. I am in a relationship of one year. We are okay together but my parents aren't okay with him coz they think someone else is best for me. Someone they know who is a family friend though he doesn't stay in the same ...
A. 23 April 2009: Maybe neither of them is lying?
Maybe your family saw what they expected to see... if they don't really like him much and saw him chatting to another woman, maybe in their eyes they saw him flirting with her, when he was just harmlessly chatting... (read in full...)
Do you think my wife is having an affair?
Q. I have caught my wife having text sex in the past, she is now secretly in contact with her ex, texting a lot whilst masturbating. I also discovered she has bought condoms, do you think she is having an affair? And what should I do?...
A. 23 April 2009: Talk to her.
What do you have to lose? Finding out more about how she feels about things? Finding out that something is not quite right in her relationship with you?
Only by finding out what is going on with her can you even start to think a... (read in full...)
Married lover is blaming me for the destruction of his marriage!
Q. I know that there is a lot of dialogue on-line from women involved with Married men. I also know of the heartache most experience when it ends... My question is simple: has anyone been involved with a married man who swears he loves you and then ...
A. 23 April 2009: Hmmm...
I always think that when a person acts angrily, it's because on one level, they are actually angry with themselves.
He sounds like a very muddled up person, looking for happiness in all the wrong places. He had a great friend, and has ... (read in full...)
The way I look is holding me back in life!
Q. Hi I'm 19 and I've never had a boyfriend. I've wanted one since I was 11, but its never happened for me. I've read through the other 'never had a boyfriend' questions and read the advice... I have plenty of male friends (probably more than...
A. 23 April 2009: When you like a bloke, is it because they look good? Is that how you choose who to like and not like?
And the sort of bloke who you would like as a boyfriend... are you looking for someone who judges girls by what they look like?
Also - look a... (read in full...)
How to make a move at the end of a date?
Q. I have a hard time making a move on a girl. I can go out on dates and have a wonderful time but when the date is getting over i don't know how to close the deal. I guess what I'm tryin to say is that i don't know if she is interested or not and if ...
A. 21 April 2009: Is this any girl that you are talking about, or a particular girl?
How long have you known them for before the date? Are they people that you have spent time with and got to know?
If you are not sure if they like you or not, why not simply a... (read in full...)
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