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anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, help me out on this. I am in a relationship of one year. We are okay together but my parents aren't okay with him coz they think someone else is best for me. Someone they know who is a family friend though he doesn't stay in the same country with us and we don't know anything much about him.Well, the problem is I don't like the foriegn guy coz he is a stranger to all of us and the guy am with now has been a very nice guy to me. He always has gifts for me and cares too. We were planning to go for a masters degree in the same country and we both have our admissions. My parents say I must get married before I go which would be before September. Three days ago, my boyfriend organised a surprise birthday party for me. It was nice but when we got home, my sisters told me they got to the venue earlier, they saw him making out with a girl. They described the girl and I found ouit it was the girl he called his colleague and his close friend. I was shocked coz I know they can't lie to me. I confronted him but he is denying it totally. He said he was just asking her how he should react when we arrive and that the girl is even dating his brother and if he has to flirt, he wouldn't even flirt there coz he knew I was coming. What do I believe?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (24 April 2009):
 Well, the way you tell it, it sounds like your sisters are lying. Perhaps 'TogTog' is right, they say your boyfriend innocently talking to her and they blew it out of proportion. Then your sister's exaggerated that he was making out with her. If I were you, I'd ask the girl colleague! She would be able to tell you better than anyone else could. But you're right, it seems silly for your boyfriend to make out a girl, his brother's girlfriend - when you're about to show up for your birthday party. When your entire family is around to pop in at any second.
If they're not lying, then your boyfriend is a real idiot. BUT, I don't think that you should marry a man who you don't want to marry. Plain and simple.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, togtog  +, writes (23 April 2009):
Maybe neither of them is lying?
Maybe your family saw what they expected to see... if they don't really like him much and saw him chatting to another woman, maybe in their eyes they saw him flirting with her, when he was just harmlessly chatting?
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