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How can you tell if your hymen is broken?

Q.   Is there a way to tell if you have broken your hymen? (through sports or anything other than sex)...

A.   7 December 2006: Exercise like Gymnastics, Horseback riding, dancing. think of exercises that put your legs in such a position like a split. This can break your hymen. Theres a thin sheet of skin which is detached when your hymen is broken and usually bleeding. ... (read in full...)

I like someone 39 years older than me!

Q.   I am 17 years old an i have very strong feelings for someone a lot lot older than me. I love him to death, the only trouble is, he is 39 years older than me. When we are together we have so much fun and he makes me feel safe and happy. Other people ...

A.   29 November 2006: there are 2 many narrow minded people on this forum. love isnt something that can be put into an age bracket. I'd like to ask you's...Did you choose the man/woman you love based on their age? How ridiculous. Love is special and you lot are tryi... (read in full...)

I think my student fancies me

Q.   I am a high school teacher who's happily married and has a 2 year old son. I was doing some work after school when one of my Year 11 students came in. I'll admit for someone who is 16 she is attractive, but, I don't fancy her. The problem is that ...

A.   29 November 2006: Hi, i would defintely tell someone. its your job on the line if something happens. Even if she went to kiss you on the lips someday and another teacher came in. You really need to be careful. I know some people would think "well i dont want my ... (read in full...)

I keep look for approval from others to validate that it's okay to be in a age gap relationship! Why do I do this?

Q.   Hi, I am 18 and dating a guy eight years older than me. And that's not necessarily the problem. The problem is MYSELF. I feel like I'm constantly looking for the approval of others in this situation. When other people bring up "age gap relatio...

A.   23 November 2006: Hiya pet, I'm in a relationship now for 3 years from when i was 19. My fiance is 16 years older than me. At the start it was other people who had a problem and i recently found out that they all thought it ws a "phase" we were going through.... (read in full...)

My sexually-experienced girlfriend says I'm "too big" and that being on top hurts...

Q.   I am 18 years old and my girlfriend is 16 years old. We have been dating for about 1 month now. When we first had sex she was on top and said that it's too big, that it goes in so far. I found this kind of hard to believe becuase she is no virgin, ...

A.   23 November 2006: If you love your girlfriend and want to be with her, you need to respect her past as well as what she does in the future. Of course things arent always black and white. But without respect and trust and of course love, this relationship will never ... (read in full...)

My sexually-experienced girlfriend says I'm "too big" and that being on top hurts...

Q.   I am 18 years old and my girlfriend is 16 years old. We have been dating for about 1 month now. When we first had sex she was on top and said that it's too big, that it goes in so far. I found this kind of hard to believe becuase she is no virgin, ...

A.   22 November 2006: well i dont think he meant his girlfriend was sexually liberated...do you? he obviously has no respect for his girlfriend, and whether or not she is "sexually liberated", she should get the hell out of that relationship.... (read in full...)

How soon after I go on the pill...will I have the most protection?

Q.   Hi. I'm thinking about going on the pill. how soon after starting the pill will i be able to have the most protection from sex? I know the first week you need another barrier method, but will i be more likely to get pregnant if i'm only on it a few ...

A.   20 November 2006: On the pill, you are safe after 7 days. but to be really safe, you should always encourage your partner to wear a condom. The pill is not totally 100% safe and a condom will not only ensure that you will be safe, it will also protect you from ... (read in full...)

What is acceptable timing to become engaged?

Q.   how long do you think a couple should date before they get engaged? Just please give me some idea. Then after the engagement how long should they wait before they get married? my boyfriend says that an engagement is the same thing as ...

A.   17 November 2006: hi, i got engaged after 3 months, and 3 years later, we're stil very happy. my point is that it doesnt matter when u get engaged, as long as u know each toher well enough, that u trust each other, and that u love each other. my partner is my best ... (read in full...)

Being with him would make life bearable, but he doesn't want me! Any advice?

Q.   Feel as though my whole life is slipping through my fingers. I'm 16, and 4 months ago I was perfectly happy. I had an amazing boyfriend who I loved to death and loved me too, I had a great social life, making new friends every day and keeping good ...

A.   17 November 2006: aw god love you. my heart goes out to you. alot of people will probably say this to you...you're only young. I dont mean that to be condescending because I myself am not long out of school. I felt the pressure when i was in school too, I wanted t... (read in full...)

Could it work, in spite of the difference in our ages?

Q.   The girl (23) is very mature for her age, a college grad, has a good job... has been through a lot in life... always lived w/father so is def not seeking a parent, she wants to have a family one day and a loving husband. The guy (43) chose the care...

A.   17 November 2006: bloody hell. sounds like a match made in heaven. and here dont be worryin about the age difference. im alot younger that my partner, and we work great together. to echo wot alot of people say " you cant choose love, love chooses you" Go with it, ... (read in full...)

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