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writes: how long do you think a couple should date before they get engaged? Just please give me some idea. Then after the engagement how long should they wait before they get married? my boyfriend says that an engagement is the same thing as marriage...you know it is a committment. thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): well, only you and your boyfriend can decide, but NO, engagement isnt the same as marriage, but it is a promise to marry. I believe marriage is legal, life long commitment. Don't rush into engagement though. TALK everything thro about your life together, where you live, income/career,children (or not) , being faithfull to one another, how you cope with conflict, how will you both support one another in the tough times.... Then if you both wanna get married..YOU both decide.Nick
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): Odviously it is something that varies from person to person. However I have always come to the idea that you should wait atleast 9 months. It takes nine months for a baby to grow it should take nine months for a relationship to grow too. However, you shouldn't wait any longer than two years. Generally, if you don't get the ring before then with no reasonable reason or explination it can be assumed that he may just never be ready to commit fully to you. Again that is my opinion I know of quite a few "rush to the alter" couples who are still married but nobody knows how long any relationship will last.
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reader, Sorcha +, writes (17 November 2006):
hi, i got engaged after 3 months, and 3 years later, we're stil very happy. my point is that it doesnt matter when u get engaged, as long as u know each toher well enough, that u trust each other, and that u love each other. my partner is my best friend and i wouldnt change him for the world.
i am not married yet, cus we want to wait til we have the house and all set up. gettin there so settin a date in the new year.
basically the 2 of you's have to be willing to spend your lives together. no one can tell you when it is your time:-) good luck. keep us updated xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): half a year and you could get engaged it varies between been engaged and actually getting married from anything to 2 weeks to a year.
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reader, miss help +, writes (22 October 2006):
 how long have you been going out if longer than three months you can get engaged then usausly people get married about two weeks after thier engaged.
your welcs for help
miss help
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 October 2006):
 I always believe that in every relationship there is a different time limit on things, everything should be done when it feels right for the two people in that relationship, there is no right or wrong time each couple is different it's when it is the right time for you both.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2006): according to the more traditional theories, you are not truely engaged unless there is a wedding date
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (21 October 2006):
 Hi there :)
It all depends on differnt people,some fall in love so quickly and they decide thats it! we wanna get married..some people get engaged a number of times in thier life thinking this is the right person..and they break up..engagement isn't really a strong commitment these days, as some get engaged, stay engaged for years but never marry..its sometimes due to 'she's wearing my ring she's mine'if you truly love eachother and this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with then there isn't really a time limit on when to get engaged..people only really wait a lengh of time to get married after getting engaged due to money ..saving for the wedding ect..
xLEAHx
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