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writes: I am 18 years old and my girlfriend is 16 years old. We have been dating for about 1 month now. When we first had sex she was on top and said that it's too big, that it goes in so far. I found this kind of hard to believe becuase she is no virgin, more like borderline slut. I had sex with many other girls and this never happened before. Why is she being hurt? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sorcha +, writes (23 November 2006):
If you love your girlfriend and want to be with her, you need to respect her past as well as what she does in the future. Of course things arent always black and white. But without respect and trust and of course love, this relationship will never work.My point is though, that the girlfriend in the case does not need to be called a borderline slut by this creep. What she has done, or hasnt done in the past, is none of his business. He obviously knew about her past, before being with her. Girls make mistakes and some just like to have fun, there is absolutely no need for a boyfriend to insult his girlfriend in this way.
In answer to the male anon reader, i am no expert on relationships, but i call it as i see it. if my fiance didnt respect me, but loved me. then i would call it a day. im sure your girlfriend may feel the same. as hard as it may be. i feel you need more than love in a relationship to make it work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): Here's a question for the Sorcha: Is it possible to love someone and yet lack respect for them? In my case I fell in love with my girlfriend and then she felt the need to tell me about her sexual history. Do you think indiscriminately having sex in undignified situations with multiple partners at the same time is worthy of respect? Is it not possible to love some aspects of someone and not others? Did acting in this way really make her a better person? I don't think that things are as black and white as you seem to think.
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reader, Sorcha +, writes (22 November 2006):
well i dont think he meant his girlfriend was sexually liberated...do you? he obviously has no respect for his girlfriend, and whether or not she is "sexually liberated", she should get the hell out of that relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2006): Ok all you female posters having a go at this guy for calling his girl a slut. How do you know she isn't one? If any of you ever hang out in the right places (certain clubs etc), you'd figure out that there are a lot of girls out there who do go about calling themselves sluts and are pretty proud of their reputation. So without knowing anything about the guy's girlfriend, its pretty narrow-minded of you all to just jump on him. Consider the word slut to mean a sexually liberated woman (feminist definition, google it)
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 November 2006):
 "borderline slut" yeah that's just great. You are a real piece of work, buddy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2006): if it hurts, it might not be because your too big ,could be other reasons ,she might have Endometrosis this can cause her to have very painful sex, but you dont sound like you would care about to much if she did have this because if you did like her and if she did mean anyting to you then you would not be calling her a slut.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2006): My husband is about 7 inches. We have been together for 15 years. When we have sex after about a week after I finished my period it hurts. Maybe that might be whats going on?????
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