Should I follow my heart OR just settle?
Q. Ok, Agony Aunts, I'm completely torn. 4 years ago, when I was 18, I met a guy online. It was casual, we were just friends at the time, but there was an obvious mutual attraction. We are in a very complicated situation because he is in the Coastal ...
A. 8 July 2011: You don't have to go completely in one direction. What do you think would happen if you went to see him for a week(or vice-verse)? Would it work out well, would it be awkward? It might be worth trying this, it would really help you decide if yo... (read in full...)
How do I get intimate when I have no experience ?
Q. I'm twenty three years old and with my first ever boyfriend. i am also his first gf and I want to start getting intimate with my bf a bit more physical we talk about it but I'm proper nervous incase I'm not very good just wondering how you toss a ...
A. 8 July 2011: The first rule is not to stress out about it. Not before and not after. It's very important to remember, the first time doesn't count because you won't know what you are doing. You still have to use a condom/BC though. After that, it's impor... (read in full...)
How do I get intimate when I have no experience ?
Q. I'm twenty three years old and with my first ever boyfriend. i am also his first gf and I want to start getting intimate with my bf a bit more physical we talk about it but I'm proper nervous incase I'm not very good just wondering how you toss a ...
A. 8 July 2011: The first rule is not to stress out about it. Not before and not after. It's very important to remember, the first time doesn't count because you won't know what you are doing. You still have to use a condom/BC though. After that, it's impor... (read in full...)
My ex-wife and fiancee cannot both be at my father's funeral...what do I do?
Q. I have a dilemma that I doubt I will get much sympathy from here. I recently divorced after a year long separation following an affair. I live with my mistress and we are in love and planning to get married in a year or so. She has met all of m...
A. 22 January 2011: Bring your fiancee. She's the one you're with now and plan to be forever and she's the one you have to side with. Remember, it's *your* father. Full stop. Invite her, inform her you plan to be completely civil. If she wants to come, she will b... (read in full...)
HELP ! 13 and think I'm a Lesbian !!
Q. Please can sumone help me imediatley please im really confuzed rite now because im 99 percent sure im lesbian ,and ive told most of my friends ,but 1 of them thinks im going through a phase but I have felt like this for over 2 years and at the ...
A. 22 January 2011: The short answer is you are under-thinking this. The original scale of homo-sexuality was a 7-point scale, ranging from 0 to 6. Think about that. It means that they accepted a gradient from completely straight to completely gay with every point... (read in full...)
If he will not use this separation to work on our marriage then why should I hold out hope that we'll ever get back together?
Q. My husband and I have been separated a couple weeks now. We decided we needed to separate when it didn't seem like things were getting better at home. He is not sure what he wants and I have been willing and ready to work through our problems. He ...
A. 22 January 2011: Ultimatums don't work. Do not propose one unless you are completely committed to the '... or I'll leave part'. Even if you are completely serious, most people don't respond well to ultimatums. They create resentment and anger. Meaningful cha... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I have very different sex drives, and the distance is making it worse.
Q. hi my girlfriend and i have been together for 5 months. its the first openly gay relationship we have both been in and im the first girl she has slept with. i love this girl more than anything in this world. I have been really ill in hospital, ...
A. 12 October 2010: What if you tried doing things sexually for her. That is, take the initiative. Having someone approach you for sex can be quite uplifting.
* Ask to take pictures of her. Emphasize her as the focal point. They don't have to be sexual, ... (read in full...)
Tired of being called boring!
Q. Why do I fall for guys who call me boring? At first I dont like these guys and everything is cool just good friends while they are attracted to me.... but I'm still in the friends zone with them, then after getting to know each other better I start ...
A. 6 October 2010: If you aren't comfortable having sex with these boys you like then... don't.
It's an emotional pressuring tactic. It works, or they think it works, which is why they use it. Try explaining how you feel about sex and what you want. It might ma... (read in full...)
How to get him to like me?
Q. How do I get him to like me? I like this new guy were so oppsistes but w.e how do I talk to him or ask him to hangout or be noticed..Like yes we talk and stuff at work but I want more.Help me pleasee :) ...
A. 6 October 2010: You're going to have to take the lead here. Welcome to the scary world of being "The Guy".
Try these:
"Hey, can I get your phone number?"
"You wanna grab a coffee/show sometime?"
"What are you doing this weekend?" "No plans? Want to hang ... (read in full...)
I said no contact but now I want to talk to him!
Q. My ex and I broke up 5 days ago. He says he can't see us as the type to get married, but we are young and I think this is unimportant. I told him not to talk to me and that we couldn't be friends. But now I think I want to try to talk and work ...
A. 6 October 2010: Short answer: You're going to need to gauge how your ex feels about you.
Long answer: You've been broken up for 5 days. That's not even a holiday. You haven't been apart long-enough to really come to terms with what that means. Right now, you... (read in full...)
Help! How can I let him know that I care so that he will understand?
Q. My boyfriend has brought up some complaints a few times over the course of our relationship, and though I feel like I have been making an effort, he still complains about the same things. (I think it is justified, however). I am not demonstrativ...
A. 5 September 2010: You sound amazingly like the female version of me. I have trouble expressing my emotions, anxiety dealing with people, etc.
How do I get around it? Self-confidence and avoiding stimulus overload. Take clubbing, I hate clubs. They're noisy, c... (read in full...)
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