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writes: Please can sumone help me imediatley please im really confuzed rite now because im 99 percent sure im lesbian ,and ive told most of my friends ,but 1 of them thinks im going through a phase but I have felt like this for over 2 years and at the moment theres a girl i really like, i mean im crazy for her i cant stop thinking bout her and everytime i do i have really bad butterflies and thinking of her makes me happy but sad at the same time as id never get to be with her plus when she looks at me my heart pounds out of my chest . Im not attracted to boyz , i mean i kno when a boy is gd lookin but i never think id love to kiss him or whatever but if i see a girl in the street whose gd looking i cant help but think wow shes hot and il start fantasizing . I VE had boyfrends well one in particular , we were together for 9 months but i broke up with him coz it didnt feel rite like when i kissed him i didnt feel any thing special and after didnt think id like to do tht again but the idea of a girl makes me think i really wanan do tht . so my main question is do you think im going through a phase and the girl i like is a crush and il like boyz soon or do u think im a lesbian ? please give me advice asap x thankyou x :)
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reader, Nadzthebabe  +, writes (20 February 2011):
I think I'm Lesbian too and I really like a girl ad I've told my bf about it and he really understands but I've never had the courage to tell any of my friends I think you're really brave and I don't think it's a Phase if you love this girl so much I mean if it's the butterflies in your stomach syndrome then I think ur in in love hon.
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reader, Nadzthebabe +, writes (20 February 2011):
I think I'm Lesbian too and I really like a girl ad I've told my bf about it and he really understands but I've never had the courage to tell any of my friends I think you're really brave and I don't think it's a
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reader, Lexismash67  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 heyy, listen dw about it im a lesbian and im 13 going on 14 soon and mt freinds and lots of other people say "oh its a phase dw about it you will get over her!" but i know when i see her its not a phase its love and im completly love sick and i no its defo not a phase so dont listen to wat other people and your freinds say go with your heart and what it feel cuz thats what i did!:) :P x
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reader, iLoveGirls  +, writes (26 January 2011):
Ah, I'm nearly fourteen. And have been aware I'm a lesbian since I was 12. I never felt right kissing a guy either. To this day I never kissed a girl!! I've had girlfriends though, but I wait to kiss.. And they usually break up with me within the first week. You can do what you want... Society is gonna label you anyway. Why not label yourself before they do, and you get humiliated?? Exactly!!! No matter what, because of your age, people are gonna think its a phase. Trust me, I know. Just ignore that friend. Good luck!!-Me. 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): Hav u tried masturbating to help u relive stress? And yes girls can masturbate!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): Hope you found the advice helpful, and find out if there is a gay meeting near you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice , but theirs no one else i can to talk to about it all as theirs no one else i kno thats lesbian in my school coz we dont discuss it , no ones open bout their sexuality at my school
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know 13 is young but im just so sure of it , also in my school no ones open bout things like this ,and its not talked about so theres no other girlz i know what feel like this and i have no one to talk about it to
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 Your 13! your so young to want to put a label on yourself, when there will be enough people trying to do that for you. Sexuality is very personal and complex and you do not have to decide " what you are" or tell people untill you are happy and sure in yourself, if you like girls and not boys then that is fine but dont label yourself as that is how you are always going to be thinhs change and that is ok to as long as you are happy.
For now if you only like girl and you do want to put a term on it then yes your are gay/lesbian but dint get to hung up on labels and just enjoy been young experimenting and learning who and what you like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): Im 15 male, and i also discoverd i liked the same sex at your age, there is nothing to worry about, a lot if people go through a phase where theylike the same sex! When i first did i thought it was a phase but now two years later it isnt. At first i still liked the oposite sex but my feelings and "urges" for girls has gone away so i know im gay and i like it. I also feel when i say a member of the same sex tgat id like to be with that person and dont reAlly like tge idea if being with a girl anymore! But dont worry about it! Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): Well a phase most likley wouldnt last 2 years but being lesbian/gay is perfectly normal. And if u dont feel right with
Boys u r more likley to be lesbian. I am a male , 15 year old and i discoverd i liked boys wen i was 13 an yes, at first i thought it was a phase but now i cant even get turned on by women and i have loads of crushes for boys, so that was 2 years ago and im sure now that im gay!
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reader, plasmoid  +, writes (22 January 2011):
The short answer is you are under-thinking this.The original scale of homo-sexuality was a 7-point scale, ranging from 0 to 6. Think about that. It means that they accepted a gradient from completely straight to completely gay with every point in between. So you could be gay, mostly gay, somewhat gay, bi, somewhat straight, mostly straight or completely straight. That's even before they considered that someone's preference can drift over a life-time.The most important thing is to be true to yourself. If you think a girl is hot, go ask her out. If you like fantasizing about boys, go ahead. You can decide that you are completely gay but fall madly in-love with a boy. That is completely ok. The point is to not worry about your feelings. They're completely fine, so go ahead and explore them.
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