Husband blames me for everything!
Q. My husband of 20 months is what I think is verbally abusive towards me, he calls me a s**g, b***h, w***e, thick, stupid, dumb, joke, f**k up, failure, pathetic. But he says he wouldn't call me any of these things if I didn't ignore him which he says ...
A. 2 October 2010: There's a very good book called 'The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work' by John Gottman. I suggest you get that (prob super cheap second hand if you need to), look through it in your own space and from there think some more about whether ... (read in full...)
Can anyone please help us to work things out? Please take some time to read this.
Q. There are several threads on this site that are similar to what I am about to present, but none go into the open, honest detail that my wife and I have with each other, and so I would like to present this here, and which I would like the community's ...
A. 27 October 2007: Cognitive therapy for you sounds like an excellent idea.
Be a friend to your wife. Take this opportunity to grow and deepen your values beyond the 'aesthetic'. Imagine what you are putting her through. You sound so lucky, your glass sounds 99 per ... (read in full...)
Can too much sleep (or too little) affect how fat you are?
Q. could an individual get fat when oversleeping too much or does not get enough sleep, or both? i'm on a diet now and am exercising, sometimes i do not get enough sleep or i oversleep; will i get fat or will i be okay and have good results the next...
A. 6 July 2007: It's important for your body when you're dieting that you get enough sleep - apparently being sleep deprived can increase your appetite (especially for carbs) because you're tired and crave a rapid energy fix. But the only thing that will make you ... (read in full...)
How do you find the strength to leave a relationship that you know is not good for you and will probably never change?
Q. How do you find the strength to leave a relationship that you know is not good for you and will probably never change? I know everyone says being alone will be fine, but I have panic attacks just thinking about it. I know I am possibly a bit ...
A. 6 July 2007: You really do need to get out of this situation. If you read up on the web about abusive relationships, you'll see that what you've described matches perfectly. I don't want to depress you but abusive relationships tend to get worse, not better, ... (read in full...)
I lied and I got sprung. Now I want to get my boyfriend to trust me again!
Q. Hi. I have done something incredibly stupid. I lied to my boyfriend. He might be leaving or at least sleeping in there. A few weeks ago when I went home to visit friends and my parents, I went to a party. Knowing how uneasy it makes him about my...
A. 1 December 2005: I am not convinced that you have done something terrible here. OK, on the surface of it, I agree that it's wrong to lie. But did you tell him you wouldn't go just because of his pressure not to, even if it was implicit? If so, that's controlling ... (read in full...)
I broke up because I'm always finding fault with my boyfriend. Now I wonder if I made the right choice!
Q. I broke up with my bf of one year few days ago. He loved me to death, but I asked for the breakup and broke his heart. I feel so sad and have been crying for days about it. I am not sure if I am doing the right thing. I decided to break up because ...
A. 16 November 2005: It sounds like you've got a really good insight into how your family background has affected your present relationship - which is great. It sounds as though you are a little 'commitment phobic', which is understandable when you've watched what ... (read in full...)
My wonderful American guy went back to the US and started ignoring my emails...
Q. I had a wonderful relationship with an American man. He also had a partner at home but while in Australia for seven months he had two relationships. Our connection was amazing and we both had never experienced this before in our lives. His pa...
A. 3 November 2005: Re: my recent reply - 'her' should have been 'him' with the other partner. Sorry about that. ... (read in full...)
My wonderful American guy went back to the US and started ignoring my emails...
Q. I had a wonderful relationship with an American man. He also had a partner at home but while in Australia for seven months he had two relationships. Our connection was amazing and we both had never experienced this before in our lives. His pa...
A. 3 November 2005: I'm sorry but I have to ask a few tough questions here. What made you think it was OK to get into a relationship with a guy who already had a partner, who was capable of that level of betrayal? Is that something you find morally acceptable? What did ... (read in full...)
He lied to me about messages on his phone from a woman he met, and I just keep obsessing...
Q. Please help. I'm so upset I've actually been vomiting all day. Just found out my fiance met a woman on an airplane. I know this because I found a strange text message on his cell phone. He told me it was from a male friend. He's a bad liar. I...
A. 1 November 2005: Hello
I'm sorry you're going through this, it's a horrible thing to experience, and I definitely think you're doing the right thing looking for advice. Hopefully you'll be able to do the same with friends/family/others on this site, and take the ... (read in full...)
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