I was told to 'go back to africa' by my boyfriend - am I over reacting by breaking it off?
Q. Till recently i was in an interracial relationship (black and white). My boyfriend and I got into a political discussion and he told me to go back to Africa and I broke it off. Some of my friends say it was just a slip of the tongue and it's no big ...
A. 23 October 2007: to the anonymous female reader, to suggest that the phrase "go back to africa" can be taken out of context to mean something racist when no racism was intended is to be either disingenuous or willfully ignorant of the history of racism in americ... (read in full...)
I was told to 'go back to africa' by my boyfriend - am I over reacting by breaking it off?
Q. Till recently i was in an interracial relationship (black and white). My boyfriend and I got into a political discussion and he told me to go back to Africa and I broke it off. Some of my friends say it was just a slip of the tongue and it's no big ...
A. 22 October 2007: i don't think you are overreacting at all. his comment can be interpreted in one of two ways, neither of which are good:
1. he meant it to be purposefully hurtful towards you
2. it was a slip of the tongue, spoken in jest
the first is the ... (read in full...)
My partner is an environmentalist and I'm tired of being getting lectured and reprimanded! I feel like a child!
Q. My boyfriend is French and I'm American. We do very well together excepting one thing. I have many bad habits and I'm very bad at being an environmentalist (in which he is). He tells me what I ought to be doing and for the most part he is usually ...
A. 19 October 2007: being an american, i can relate a bit to your post. education on consumer and environmental issues is dismally low in the states. it wasn't until i got to college that i realized just how much of an effect on the planet i was having. so i ... (read in full...)
Does DearCupid have a leftist, liberal bias?
Q. hello everyone, over the past month i have seen your site. it is a great site for exploring relationship, sexual or confidence problems. however, i have been skeptical. I have one critism that might be apparent. getting a little off topic, le...
A. 26 June 2007: ajf1989, misunderstandings are abound. let me first state that the evidence i was looking for was advice from users that made you think this site has a "leftist bias." i wasn't looking for evidence of the founding fathers' opinions of mo... (read in full...)
Does DearCupid have a leftist, liberal bias?
Q. hello everyone, over the past month i have seen your site. it is a great site for exploring relationship, sexual or confidence problems. however, i have been skeptical. I have one critism that might be apparent. getting a little off topic, le...
A. 26 June 2007: i'm going to assume the "libral" misspelling was just that and not the blatant smear-spelling employed by many on the right... but i think it does hint at what dragonette said. think about where your perspective is -- could it be your own ... (read in full...)
I don't think women working has a positive effect on society. What's happening?
Q. I am frustrated about the entering of women at workplace and can't see it to be having much positive effect on the society. I am a kind of guy who wants his girl to need him, to be dependent on him for some reasons, may it be financial or emotional. ...
A. 23 April 2007: wow. the gall. first off, don't you think it's you're being a bit self-centered when you are the "kind of guy who wants his girl to need him, to be dependent on him for some reasons, may it be financial or emotional"? where do you get off call... (read in full...)
Can a born again christian and an aethiest marry? I'm really wondering whether this would work or just cause problems.
Q. Can an Born again christian and an Atheist marry? I've been with my girlfriend for near 10 months now and we have very strong feelings for each other. I am an atheist but I hide under the title of a catholic. I don't believe in Satan, I simply ...
A. 21 February 2007: to the anonymous female reader below: i think unclej's situation is a bit different from your past experiences. unclej's girlfriend does not appear to be so hung up on his lack of religiosity, but rather what her family and friends think of... (read in full...)
Can a born again christian and an aethiest marry? I'm really wondering whether this would work or just cause problems.
Q. Can an Born again christian and an Atheist marry? I've been with my girlfriend for near 10 months now and we have very strong feelings for each other. I am an atheist but I hide under the title of a catholic. I don't believe in Satan, I simply ...
A. 21 February 2007: i wasn't going to post about this, but seeing that this thread has already been allowed to be hijacked by dearcupidreader, i cannot be quiet any longer. first, i must say, your advice to unclej is insulting. you've put words in his mouth, as we... (read in full...)
My sexist boyfriend thinks it's the womans job to cook & clean. He refuses to do the housework, I'm so fed up. What can I do?
Q. hi i have been with my b/f for over 2 years..he is great in some ways BUT he is a momma's boy..meaning he grew up in a household where it was "women's work" to cook, clean. The men did not do this. I definitely know this because i have seen his mom ...
A. 1 February 2007: hey Ponungalungb,
i did get that your approach was "tongue-in-cheek," i'm just against the concept of her creating more guidelines... unless that idea was meant to be sarcastic as well, then i apologize.... (read in full...)
My sexist boyfriend thinks it's the womans job to cook & clean. He refuses to do the housework, I'm so fed up. What can I do?
Q. hi i have been with my b/f for over 2 years..he is great in some ways BUT he is a momma's boy..meaning he grew up in a household where it was "women's work" to cook, clean. The men did not do this. I definitely know this because i have seen his mom ...
A. 1 February 2007: not to sound like a jerk to the responder below, but i advise AGAINST setting up your own guidelines for him to live by, as this will just create built up and repressed resentment for those activities, or even you, for imposing them on him (not to ... (read in full...)
My parents don't get along with my bf and it's driving me crazy!
Q. Hi. I am 21 years old and have been dating my bf (first ever), 23, for almost a year. We've never had any problems or fights or anything, and i know he has a good heart and he treats me well. He loves me very much and i love him too. The only ...
A. 8 December 2006: first, i'll say that i'm in a very similar situation myself, except i am the boyfriend in your situation. so i'll tackle this from that perspective.
let just say this also, you're 21 years old. you're an adult. and if your parents refuse t... (read in full...)
My husband says I make him feel dirty and bad because he enjoys looking at porn
Q. Hello, I have the most wonderful man in my life. We have been together for over 5 years and we were just married in October of this year. We get along great and enjoy each other's company. There is nothing I can't say to him and he seems to feel...
A. 8 December 2006: this may be a little late but... to the anonymous female reader, i understand where your perspective is coming from. i, too, have studied gender and feminist theory in college, and pornography is a topic in feminist theory that i am familiar with... (read in full...)
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