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Does he really want me back?

Q.   I was with my ex for 15 years. In the first year of our breakup he wanted me back. Maybe it was because he had seen I had got on with my life and I had a boyfriend. After pressure from him to get back with me, he agreed to have counseling. It...

A.   26 May 2008: Has anyone got their ex back doing what i've been doing....against what every people say to do, it has worked.... (read in full...)

Does he really want me back?

Q.   I was with my ex for 15 years. In the first year of our breakup he wanted me back. Maybe it was because he had seen I had got on with my life and I had a boyfriend. After pressure from him to get back with me, he agreed to have counseling. It...

A.   21 May 2008: I don't really understand how this site works, I have an update before but haven't had a reply. Does no reply mean its been lost in the system?... (read in full...)

What process do you go though when you are the one that cheated, how do you reconcile what you have done, do you blame your partner for driving you to it?

Q.   My wife has recently cheated on me and we have seperated. She's asking for a second chance. My question is directed at women that have cheated on their partners and carried on. I'm a bit worried the replies will be aimed at saving a 'sister'...

A.   19 May 2008: Sounds like she has relised the grass is not always greener on the other side. She wants you back for what ever reason, its a start. If she really means it and you still love her, give her a chance. If she loves you, her affair won't mean anything. ... (read in full...)

I'm getting married soon but I'm still in love with my ex!

Q.   I'm getting married soon but I'm still in love with my ex. I'm twenty years old with a good job and two kids. I met my fiance about a year ago when I was on vacation in the Bahamas. Sparks flew instantly and now we're getting married. We've decided ...

A.   19 May 2008: It is good your ex is in rehab and wants you back. The problem is for how long? You need time to know if your ex really means it. He is the father of your children and you owe it them to find out how serious your ex is. Your ex will need extra ... (read in full...)

No oral sex. Is this the end of our marriage?

Q.   Anyways I need help, what do I do in my situation.... I've been married a year, my wife is nice.. we fight sometimes, and sometimes things are good.. I think we fight mroe than the normal couple but it's nothing we can't solve by the time we go ...

A.   19 May 2008: GetAGrip. It can take some women years to feel comfortable about oral sex. If you are having any sexual relationship you are on your way. Don't pressure her, she will only back off and say stupid things. You loved her without oral sex when you first ... (read in full...)

Should I leave my abusive husband?

Q.   i have been married to my husband for 4 years and we have a two year old son. I am fed up of my married life as my husband can be verbally abusive towards me and slags off my family, he is also screams, shouts at our son and his idea of disapline in ...

A.   19 May 2008: We weren't taught how to have a relationship. Its a shame this man has shown these characteristics. I bet he wasn't like this when you first met. Go and get counciling on your own. If he sees changes in you he might stop his behaviour. Don't defend ... (read in full...)

My husband left and wants a divorce. Now he won't even talk to me

Q.   My husband of 15 years walked out at Xmas leaving me and the children. He had been having an affair but said it had nothing to do with her he just didn't want to be with me anymore. I was very hurt and angry. He still pays all the bills and the ...

A.   19 May 2008: Maybe, he only wants a divorse becasue of the way you have been acting lately. He has a girlfriend because she makes him happy and not you. Don't show your desperate. Talk to him with your head and not your heart. You need to get it across t... (read in full...)

Should I be upset that my husband sends over 100 text mesaages a month to her?

Q.   I am afraid that my husband of 21 years is having an emotional affair with a women at work. I have confronted him several times only to hear shes married, its nothing quit sweating about it, however, he works 5 to 5 and he tells me hes has no time...

A.   19 May 2008: If you have already told him this is not acceptable and he still hasn't stopped. Don't continue to fight him over this, he will only want this women more. You need to show him your not jeleous now. What he is doing is totally out of order but he is ... (read in full...)

What do I do about my bullying husband?

Q.   my husband is a bully. ive been married just two years and things are horrible at home. everytime we have a few words he flies off the handle and then starts calling my family. he never takes me out but when weve had an arguement he goes out to our ...

A.   19 May 2008: Don't leave or put up with it. If you love him you, go and get consilling on your own. He will see changes in you and how you respond to him. You need to talk to him with your head and not your heart. Counciling will make you a stronger person. It ... (read in full...)

Does he really want me back?

Q.   I was with my ex for 15 years. In the first year of our breakup he wanted me back. Maybe it was because he had seen I had got on with my life and I had a boyfriend. After pressure from him to get back with me, he agreed to have counseling. It...

A.   19 May 2008: Question; I can't decide whether or not to give him the ultimatum? We've had a break and he has started hanging around again but he is still seeing his girlfriend. He has told me he can’t live with me but can’t live without me. His broth... (read in full...)

My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex anymore and she doesn't want to talk about it, how do I solve this issue with her?

Q.   I am a 28 year old man who has been in a relationship with another 28 year old woman for 18 months living together for 1 year. Our relationship is pretty good except for the lack of sex. We both love each other very much. At first she wanted it al...

A.   17 May 2008: Hi, I don't think sex is not the problem. You need to start treating her as you did when you first dated her and stop putting pressure on her. If you do she will never stray.... (read in full...)

We'e split up, how do I get him back?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend broke up over a week ago, we we're going our for nearlly 3 years it was his idea to break and i had no say in it, he said we can still be friend but he moved back home which is 2 hours away, hes changed his email address, and ...

A.   17 May 2008: Hi, from my experience, most men just need a bit of space. I know how hard it is to want to make contact but this will only make it worse and show him your desperate. Its all bullcrap but if you wait a little longer he might miss you and realise the ... (read in full...)

Does he really want me back?

Q.   I was with my ex for 15 years. In the first year of our breakup he wanted me back. Maybe it was because he had seen I had got on with my life and I had a boyfriend. After pressure from him to get back with me, he agreed to have counseling. It...

A.   16 May 2008: Thanks for your answers. Its easy to say move on and god have i tried but won't stop trying. I know each day will get easier. He told me he wants to do jobs for my son as well because he looks at us as still as his family. I suggest he go do this ... (read in full...)

His ex can't let go of him, I can't stop checking up on him and her

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months. We had alot of hassle from his ex int he beginning, who even after 7 months of being broken up, could't let him go. He gives me open access to everything, emails, phone bill, etc. I trust him that he ...

A.   15 May 2008: I am the ex who is still in love with him, he has a new girlfriend. I am confused that he wants to still come to my home and do jobs for me. Is he still in love with me? Or does he just want to be friends.... (read in full...)

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